I’m I being unfair?

DrivingMissDaisy

No need to feel guilty over this. Check out if there is any shelter willing to take it

KxMx

I'm not going to condemn you for your feelings.

If you hired a dog walker, and improved household cleaning (everyone at home can pitch in) would you be happy to keep the dog?

A friend with a dog vacuums a minimum of once a day. The dog is allowed in certain areas only. She uses scented products where necessary. Her home doesn't smell. And as a cat person I find dogs way smellier!

candygirl

Just thinking re the smell.I use throws on my sofas, that I wash all the time, as well as spray on shampoo inbetween baths.Mine are short haired, so not very smelly though

gloriouslyhappy

[QUOTE At least they're asking for opinions and suggestions rather than tying the dog to a lamp post or some other method of cruel abandonment which unscrupulous horrible people sometimes do! [/QUOTE] Originally posted by gloriouslyhappy

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

You don't get credit for not abandoning your dog.

I'm not asking for credit, I'm just trying to give a little balance, between the people calling for the poster's head on a stick and the right of the poster to vent their feelings, by pointing out they're asking for help, they're not taking any horrible actions towards the dog.

All my animals are rescued from various fates including abandonment - one was found taped up in a cardboard box, poor little scrap - and I consider them family. Once they're with me the only place they go is into my little memorial garden when the sad time comes, but that doesn't mean I don't understand other people can have issues with companion animals.

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pollypenny wrote: »

Gosh, some harsh comments!

I feel sorry for the dog and the OP.

Quite, would people be so disgusting to the single woman penny less or ill, who knows giving up her child is the best thing she can do for it.

OP - perhaps confide in your vet. Sometimes they do know animal lovers that will take the animal in so it is spared the shelter/dogs and cats home or simply a 'fosterer' whilst others come around - happened to me with my first cat who I got as a kitten and found he simply 'busted out of my home' as he was a bruiser I loved him for the couple of years I spent with him until I had to move and unsure he could come with me, instead of knowing he was ripped to shreds by the next door neighbours of my parents' dangerous dog if he ever crossed the fence, our local vets knew a guy who would fall in love with my cat as much as I would - sealed of course when cat went straight up to him when he came to see us as the only thing that made it bearable. Toys, bedding, the whole lot went with the cat.

Ironically and in a turn of the tables, a few months later I would be the one picking up another's mistake of pet choosing for I took on a rescue cat myself who well was more suited to the life I could provide her and we handle each other. People would say I was cruel as she is an indoor moggie and came with that recommendation. She has never wanted to go outside.
After 10+ years would I have another cat after her - probably not, with the greatest of respect is my answer so don't beat yourself.

All the best x

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

If you get rid of the dog, it's likely that nobody in the family will ever forgive you - and would in all likelihood prefer it if you left.

Might sound unreasonable to you, but traumatising children who love the animal in favour of your free time and carpet will not do anything to strengthen your marriage or your relationship with anybody else.

GaleSF63

anna_1977 wrote: »

OP - are you at home all day with the dog on your own, I hope it doesn't sense how you feel - how sad

Unfortunately I expect it does.

chesky

anna_1977 wrote: »

OP - are you at home all day with the dog on your own, I hope it doesn't sense how you feel - how sad

No, don't think that the OP is home all day with it. She runs her own business, so her home time is evenings and weekends I guess.

candygirl

OP , if you do decide to rehome, please do not give it away for free, as there's so many dog fighting rings that are on the look out for free pets to use as bait

sheramber

pollypenny wrote: »

Gosh, some harsh comments!

The OP says she's tried, for three years, to bond with the dog. I can't stand dog smell either. Maybe they can't afford regular grooming and it's difficult to bath at home.

I feel sort for the dog and the OP.

You only need a brush and a comb to groom your dog regularly. A child can help with that and if old enough do it themselves.

You can bathe a dog with a basins /pails of water in the garden.

I have sold 4 houses over the many years of owning dogs and nobody has ever reported back any smell and the houses have sold quickly.

Rehoming a pet when you are on your own is not the same as giving a child a pet then getting rid of it.

The OP has not given any reasons that the dog is not suitable for her family. Everybody else loves it. It is her that is not suitable to have the dog and that is not an easy problem to solve.

I don't like dog smell either so make sure that there isn't any.

I don't like dog hairs ( despite having owned three Dalmatians) so I vacuum every day, just as I did when my kids were small and made a mess.

I don't think the OP wanted help, she wanted people to justify her.