Money Moral Dilemma: Should we give our daughter the same allowance as our son?

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My husband and I gave our son an allowance each month, even when he had a part-time job, until he turned 18. Our daughter, who is 16, now has a part-time job that pays a lot more than our son's did. Should we give her a lower allowance?

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Red-Squirrel_2

You should treat both your children the same.

Next!

WibblyGirly

I'd give them both the same regardless of what they earn in a part time job. Otherwise she may cut a few hours at work and raise her pocket money back up.

London50

" now has a part-time job that pays a lot more than our son's did."

And cost of items are more than likely a lot more than his was

ska_lover

Or to put it another way, shall I penalise one child for achieving more than the other child?

Fireflyaway

Can't even believe this is a question! Of course you must treat them equally.

DrivingMissDaisy

Depends on who your favourite child is.

If it's the son, play the you earn lot more card. If it's the daughter who is your favourite then pay up and say you paid the same to your son

marich

Do you want to sow discord in the family ?


Quite why are you asking the question ? This is about you - not your daughter . What is your problem ?


Do you want to give her less - if so then why ? And quite what level of 'allowance' is she 'deserving of' if she now does earn more than your son once did ?



This is a minefield you are in as soon as you stray from the marked path . Keep it simples...


Unless , of course , this is the result of another Monday morning "What-is-our-dilemma-this-week ?" meeting!
This is such a poor quality dilemma - does nobody give you a real one ever ?

happyinflorida

it doesn't say the age difference between son and daughter but todays prices are far higher for everything.


discuss it with them first and with each other and if everyone is happy then give her the same allowance



UNLESS it's causing you financial difficulties?? is that why you're asking this question??


If yes, explain situation and don't pay.

Stoke

Is this what MSE is coming too? Ridiculous hypotheticals that don't ever really happen? Surely all parents give their kids exactly the same regardless of their employer?

gloriouslyhappy

This sounds a little similar to people working part time receiving top-up benefits being discouraged from working extra hours by having their benefits cut pound for pound, making them wonder why they should bother to work when they can stay home and get more! Not a good idea, treat your children equally.