New plan...time to see some movement!

jwil

This weekend was a bit of a write off.

I was in an absolutely foul mood all weekend for no apparent reason. I think it's probably my hormones, as it's been happening for the last few months. I'm starting to wonder if my implant has stopped working. Thankfully I'm getting it replaced next week, as that would be a whole different level of anxiety :eek:

We went out to the coast on Saturday. It was nice, but grey and murky, and we stopped on the way back to let the kids see the carnival floats which they enjoyed.

Yesterday was mostly a day at home. I didn't really achieve much.

We had a few sales over the weekend, so they've all been posted this morning.

I've made the effort to bring a healthy lunch today and healthy snacks too. I've been eating too much rubbish recently again.

One thing I need to remember in all aspects of my life is that doing a little is better than doing nothing. All or nothing should not be an option, and I should stop doing 'nothing' because I can't get the whole job done, or because I can't do it as well as I would want to.

HairyHandofDartmoor

jwil wrote: »

I really should do the list thing. It did help me last week, but the thought of a daily 'schedule' might really help me, as I spend too much time on the computer which means I don't get anything else done.





I really should do this, it's a great idea. I waste so much time doing random stuff, that allocating timeslots might really help my productivity.

I'm not happy if I don't have lots of ticks by the end of the day :rotfl:. Tasks that don't get done get added on to the next day's list. I definitely get more done this way.

matildasmum

jwil wrote: »

Went to the library yesterday and took out a load of books on mindfulness, cbt and relaxation. Going to try and kick this anxiety! I don't want medication if I can avoid it.

Anxiety is horrid -I suffer and money issues only make it worse.

The only thing that has really helped me, as I refused medication is this... 'DARE -The new way to end Panic attacks' by Barry McDonagh (it wont let me post a link -but you can get it for £12 on Amazon) and also your GP can refer you for over the phone CBT which really helped me as it was in the comfort of my own home, over the phone- and free!

There is also a fab facebook support group. Research states how important it is to face anxiety otherwise it gets worse. Good luck x

HairyHandofDartmoor

Sorry your weekend wasn't great.

I agree that doing part of a job is better than leaving it. Often the hardest thing is to start a task and after that it's often easy to keep going. But tell yourself that you only have to START it. Tell yourself you only need to spend 10 or even 5 minutes on it just to get the job started.

matildasmum

HairyHandofDartmoor wrote: »

I'm not happy if I don't have lots of ticks by the end of the day :rotfl:. Tasks that don't get done get added on to the next day's list. I definitely get more done this way.

I totally agree -a daily schedule really helps me keep on top of stuff. I also put C25Ks' and food on it too and then try and stick to it and get as much as poss done -or roll it over to the next day!

ftbwannabe

Hope you find a way to feel more chilled soon. I've noticed, for me, that a slip in my diet usually brings a dip in my moods, too. I don't mean calorie-counting, but for example recently I've been eating a lot more sweet stuff & quick snacks, & my anxiety's definitely risen. In turn, stimulating things I'm normally ok with (my morning cup of coffee, & irritating people) are tipping me over the edge. Might be the same for you. Hope your (& mine) healthy snacks help.

Happy Monday - sincerely!

jwil

HairyHandofDartmoor wrote: »

I'm not happy if I don't have lots of ticks by the end of the day :rotfl:. Tasks that don't get done get added on to the next day's list. I definitely get more done this way.

I'm definitely going to try it, thank you

matildasmum wrote: »

Anxiety is horrid -I suffer and money issues only make it worse.

The only thing that has really helped me, as I refused medication is this... 'DARE -The new way to end Panic attacks' by Barry McDonagh (it wont let me post a link -but you can get it for £12 on Amazon) and also your GP can refer you for over the phone CBT which really helped me as it was in the comfort of my own home, over the phone- and free!

There is also a fab facebook support group. Research states how important it is to face anxiety otherwise it gets worse. Good luck x

Thanks for posting matildasmum That book looks great, I've had a look on my library website and it doesn't seem to be on there, but I can get it on audible, which I think might be a good option. I see he's got some YouTube videos as well, so will have a look at those.

I don't think I could manage phone CBT sessions as I hate talking on the phone but I will bear it in mind if I don't manage myself. I'll look for the FB group though.

Thank you, I really appreciate the advice.

HairyHandofDartmoor wrote: »

Sorry your weekend wasn't great.

I agree that doing part of a job is better than leaving it. Often the hardest thing is to start a task and after that it's often easy to keep going. But tell yourself that you only have to START it. Tell yourself you only need to spend 10 or even 5 minutes on it just to get the job started.

I really need to do this. I must focus on just spending 5 mins on something I think as a starter.

jwil

matildasmum wrote: »

I totally agree -a daily schedule really helps me keep on top of stuff. I also put C25Ks' and food on it too and then try and stick to it and get as much as poss done -or roll it over to the next day!

I'm really going to try this, I think it will help

ftbwannabe wrote: »

Hope you find a way to feel more chilled soon. I've noticed, for me, that a slip in my diet usually brings a dip in my moods, too. I don't mean calorie-counting, but for example recently I've been eating a lot more sweet stuff & quick snacks, & my anxiety's definitely risen. In turn, stimulating things I'm normally ok with (my morning cup of coffee, & irritating people) are tipping me over the edge. Might be the same for you. Hope your (& mine) healthy snacks help.

Happy Monday - sincerely!

Thank you ftb, I think my eating is definitely not helping. I feel better today for having brought in the healthy snacks, rather than just scoffing chocolate all the time.

jwil

Thank you everyone for all your suggestions. :beer:

I've written myself a massive 'to do' list for work. It's huge, but it's helped me get things out of my head. I've got something to refer to rather than trying to remember everything.

I'm thinking about doing the same for home. Just going round room by room and writing down absolutely everything I want to do there. If I've got it on the list I can then pull odd things off to add to a daily/weekly 'to do' list. It might help me start feeling like I'm achieving stuff and making progress.

jwil

A book that I found really helpful many years ago, was 'feel the fear and do it anyway'. I've been thinking about hunting a copy of that again, as I can still remember how it was a real eye opener for me and how it made me feel, even if I can't remember what it was saying any more (other than the obvious from the title).