Working mum, child starting school

suejb2

Don't be hard on yourself put the spin on it.
Your son will be at school 32.5 hours a week.
You work full time at a guess 40 a week. That leaves 7.5 hours of not being with your son. Out of the 168 hours in a week that's nowt..... That leaves 160.5 fabulous hours with your boy.

Jox

chelseablue wrote: »

Not sure how old you are, but I'm 35 and I don't think I could go through the newborn bit again.

Plus selfishly the end is in sight regarding the nursery fees so I feel I'd be starting from scratch again. Before we got the 30 hours a week we were paying out £850 a month :eek: so we'd have that plus after school club and holiday club!

Plus the logistics of getting them to 2 different places every day.

Least with the one my sons got no one to argue and fight with, that would drive me insane :rotfl:

I'm nearly 44 with a younger husband so delude myself that I'm a youngster too

Yeah the newborn days were hard and the financial side of childcare has been crippling so it might be lunacy to want to go through that again but then I think "aw would be nice for DS to have a little brother or sister..." then I wake from the fantasy!

Have you got your son's school uniform yet, I need to sort that out, he starts mid-Sept....

Jox

suejb2 wrote: »

Don't be hard on yourself put the spin on it.
Your son will be at school 32.5 hours a week.
You work full time at a guess 40 a week. That leaves 7.5 hours of not being with your son. Out of the 168 hours in a week that's nowt..... That leaves 160.5 fabulous hours with your boy.

I like your maths! Good spin We have great evenings, weekends and holidays together, we make the most of it

chelseablue

Jox wrote: »

I'm nearly 44 with a younger husband so delude myself that I'm a youngster too

Yeah the newborn days were hard and the financial side of childcare has been crippling so it might be lunacy to want to go through that again but then I think "aw would be nice for DS to have a little brother or sister..." then I wake from the fantasy!

Have you got your son's school uniform yet, I need to sort that out, he starts mid-Sept....

This is getting spooky, my husband is younger than me too! He's 29

Yes got all the uniform except the PE plimsolls, I've seen asda do a pair for £2.50 so they'll do especially as they only wear them for an hour a week

My son starts 6th September so not long to go

Jox

Parallel lives haha My mortgage is £228k so I've got a bit more than you to pay

chelseablue

Jox wrote: »

Parallel lives haha My mortgage is £228k so I've got a bit more than you to pay

Ours is £218k with 30 years left to go......

Spendless

A perspective from a Mum of teenagers, one an adult at 18 and about to go to Uni plus a 15yo, who did stop at home. The reason was I couldn't afford daytime childcare. It was equivalent to my net wages and that was with just 1 child

They really do not remember this time when they are older. It is you that beats yourself up over it, they don't. Once your childcare costs come down you will be able to do a lot of 'fun' things during the hols. We had to do with cheaper stuff a lot of the time until I eventually returned to work, which took some time due to both needing to update skills and the credit crunch/recession. Eldest was 10 before I returned.

Oh and I never got the 'going to miss them so much'. To this day I still enjoy the commute to work, lunch breaks and going to the loo in peace compared to being at home all the time when they were little.

Jox

Spendless wrote: »

Oh and I never got the 'going to miss them so much'. To this day I still enjoy the commute to work, lunch breaks and going to the loo in peace compared to being at home all the time when they were little.

I enjoy those things too And having a cup of tea in peace. But I do think it makes a difference to a child having a parent at home with them while they are little or there to meet them at the school gate, it must be good for their self-esteem and sense of security. We're all doing the best we can, working and non-working parents, there's no perfect path!

chelseablue

Jox wrote: »

I enjoy those things too And having a cup of tea in peace. But I do think it makes a difference to a child having a parent at home with them while they are little or there to meet them at the school gate, it must be good for their self-esteem and sense of security. We're all doing the best we can, working and non-working parents, there's no perfect path!

What are you doing in regards to drop off/pick up?

I work 8:30 - 5:30, the earliest you can drop off at my sons school is 8:40.
They don't have breakfast club so I asked my boss if I can do the drop off and then come to work and he said yes

The school is only about 10 minutes from both my house and work.

They do have after school club until 6:15 so he's going there every day

chelseablue

Do feel a bit guilty about the after school club, my mum was a stay at home mum until I was about 14 so it was nice to come home at 3:15 whereas my son will be stuck at school until gone 6