Separation & Negative Equity

Grezz24

I would take 30k negative equity any day over your ex, she sounds vindictive as hell.

Make sure you stick to your guns and change the locks after the week is up, after that put all her clothes etc in bin bags and let her know they are waiting on the street for her to collect.

sunsout

kelpie35 wrote: »

Well done to you for taking this stand.

I do hope that you are able to find peace being on your own again.

Keep your pecker up.

Peace & quiet!

sunsout

Grezz24 wrote: »

I would take 30k negative equity any day over your ex, she sounds vindictive as hell.

Make sure you stick to your guns and change the locks after the week is up, after that put all her clothes etc in bin bags and let her know they are waiting on the street for her to collect.

She has 2 weeks to collect belongings. I've already told her is she is going to struggle to get everything out by then she needs to sort a storage unit out and a man with a van to come and collect everything for her. If it isn't gone by then it'll all be getting binned/donated as I will assume it is unwanted.

sunsout

Thanks to everyone who has taken the time to reply to my dilemma. Aside from the useful information it's been a bit of a boost getting some kind words, too. When these things happen you do ask yourself if it's your own fault and have I been unreasonable so it's good to see people offering opinion to the contrary.

Lauralou79

Well done for the strong stance. As sad as a break up is, you eventually will be better for it.

financegeek

sunsout wrote: »

You're too kind, thank you. I plan on just being on my own I think for a LONG time after this!!!

We had another talk yesterday evening & she definitely thinks I'm hiding something or am somehow trying to "get one over" on her as regards finances so I've given her the number of somewhere she can choose to go locally and pay their hourly rate to get the same answers I've given her but I won't be paying for it. I've also shown her (again) the 3 valuations we have and also directed her to places online where she can see what houses round here are selling for.

I've given her a week now to leave the house but have agreed some belongings can stay here for up to 2 weeks so she can organise getting them moved to her folks (she doesn't drive) but after that time I have said she will need to organise a storage unit if she hasn't picked them up and someone to come and get them & if that doesn't happen it will be assumed she no longer wants them and it will all be donated/binned.

Have also informed her that after her week is up and she is due to leave the locks will all be getting changed so after that point she will need to arrange a time to collect her things that is convenient to me around work.

Well done on sticking up for yourself, i guarantee that once she's gone you'll be glad to have the place back to yourself. From what you've said you've been more than reasonable through the whole break up, so don't doubt yourself or think otherwise.

Make sure you stay strong over the next couple of weeks, as i imagine she's not necessarily going to make it easy for you and remember it'll all be worth it in the end

Mnd

You and I share one trait, we're too nice!
If she gives any hassell about money, suggest she gets a solicitor involved to work out how much she is entitled to..then she can pay his bill.

I think you are right to forget paying her credit cards etc in the past, your choice at the time and now that's old news.

Don't right off future relationships, following the break up of my first marriage, 1 year later I met Mrs. D2 and everything is brilliant
Wishing best of luck to you