We’d like to remind Forumites to please avoid political debate on the Forum.
This is to keep it a safe and useful space for MoneySaving discussions. Threads that are – or become – political in nature may be removed in line with the Forum’s rules. Thank you for your understanding.
PLEASE READ BEFORE POSTING: Hello Forumites! In order to help keep the Forum a useful, safe and friendly place for our users, discussions around non-MoneySaving matters are not permitted per the Forum rules. While we understand that mentioning house prices may sometimes be relevant to a user's specific MoneySaving situation, we ask that you please avoid veering into broad, general debates about the market, the economy and politics, as these can unfortunately lead to abusive or hateful behaviour. Threads that are found to have derailed into wider discussions may be removed. Users who repeatedly disregard this may have their Forum account banned. Please also avoid posting personally identifiable information, including links to your own online property listing which may reveal your address. Thank you for your understanding.
📨 Have you signed up to the Forum's new Email Digest yet? Get a selection of trending threads sent straight to your inbox daily, weekly or monthly!
Lodger's boyfriend staying over a lot
Comments
-
beckysbobbles1 wrote: »She still hasn't replied so I know she's annoyed so I guess I'll see if she's in later and try to have a chat.
You're the LL and she's the lodger - you insist on a meeting and, if she wants to continue living in your house, she makes sure she's there!0 -
beckysbobbles1 wrote: »She still hasn't replied so I know she's annoyed so I guess I'll see if she's in later and try to have a chat.
In her shoes, I would be a bit miffed on receiving something via text message that would have been better dealt with face to face. But at least you know the message has gotten through
Pin her down in person, even if the BF is around, and let her know what the score is. You don't need to give reason beyond pointing out contractual restrictions, but because you have been lax in the past, it may not be so easy to resolve.Any language construct that forces such insanity in this case should be abandoned without regrets. –
Erik Aronesty, 2014
Treasure the moments that you have. Savour them for as long as you can for they will never come back again.0 -
One other dynamic to watch out for,
If the two blokes get on you could end up with a 3 against 1 in YOUR HOUSE.
Once her BF becomes an official payer what if he starts bringing mates round?0 -
You house your rules. Show her the door, a week / month notice"A nation's greatness is measured by how it treats its weakest members." ~ Mahatma Gandhi
Ride hard or stay home :iloveyou:0 -
beckysbobbles1 wrote: »Thanks for the additional replies.
I would consider him living there but you're right about the rent. She currently pays £550pm and this hasn't increased since she's been here. I was thinking of charging £750pm if it was double occupancy. FYI we live close to London hence that seems high.
She still hasn't replied so I know she's annoyed so I guess I'll see if she's in later and try to have a chat.
Don't forget you are going to breach rent a room limits when you go over £625pm
Ho close to London we are an hour out and decent places(double ensuite) cost that, tatty HMO are £4500 -
Does that make a difference?getmore4less wrote: »If not stop it or limit it to x nights a week say just Fri/Sat and not when there is school next day0 -
getmore4less wrote: »Don't forget you are going to breach rent a room limits when you go over £625pm
Just to clarify - this means that if the annual income exceeds the Inland Revenue tax allowance on the rent a room scheme, which is £7500 a year, then tax is due on the income over that.0 -
getmore4less wrote: »Don't forget you are going to breach rent a room limits when you go over £625pm
Ho close to London we are an hour out and decent places(double ensuite) cost that, tatty HMO are £450
In that case it may be necessary to separate out "rent" from "contribution towards bills".0 -
getmore4less wrote: »Don't forget you are going to breach rent a room limits when you go over £625pm
Ho close to London we are an hour out and decent places(double ensuite) cost that, tatty HMO are £450
Thank you so much! I completely forgot about this. All the more reason to not have him staying here I guess.0 -
For goodness sake! Why don't LLs set ground rules when taking in lodgers?!
Your home. You can do what you like, with whom you like, as often as you like.
Your lodger can do whatever you agree they can, with whomever you agree, as often as you agree!
But you must set the rules so you both understand. And if you change or introduce new rules part-way through, do it face to face in a civilised manner - not by text!
Decide if you want to
* ban lodger boyfirends overnight
* limit overnights
* allow unlimited overnights but at a cost
Then discuss. If you can't agree, politely evict and find a new lodger!0
This discussion has been closed.
Confirm your email address to Create Threads and Reply
Categories
- All Categories
- 352.2K Banking & Borrowing
- 253.6K Reduce Debt & Boost Income
- 454.3K Spending & Discounts
- 245.3K Work, Benefits & Business
- 600.9K Mortgages, Homes & Bills
- 177.5K Life & Family
- 259.1K Travel & Transport
- 1.5M Hobbies & Leisure
- 16K Discuss & Feedback
- 37.7K Read-Only Boards