How to ask my lodger to leave

thrifty_pete

need_an_answer wrote: »

in writing as well?

Apparently it doesn't seem to need to be in writing, also the guest / lodger could just destroy the letter, but I suppose it makes it clear to them that the OP is serious
https://www.gov.uk/rent-room-in-your-home/ending-a-letting
I had a very strange lodger once, he was running a business buying and selling women's underwear on ebay, with a rack of servers in his bedroom hosting I don't know what. I asked him to leave and then got someone to be at home in case he did something weird. My bicycle mysteriously had two buckled wheels the next day, but I didn't pursue it.

thrifty_pete

rianess21 wrote: »

I, stupidly, agreed that she could move her three cats in with her, and now I pay for all their food, toys, litter and vet bills.

You have my sympathy, it sounds like a difficult situation, but you need to be strong and not get taken for a ride. Being nice sometimes means getting used, and sometimes people can't even see how lucky they are when someone does them a favour. They just take it for granted as they see themselves entitled as a great person to have around!
I had this situation where a lodger threatened to move out unless I allowed a cat. The carpet never looked the same again and once it peed in my bed which really annoyed me. I did take a few pounds off the deposit but in hindsight, never again!

kinger101

Personally, as she has no means of supporting the cats (and rarely changes their litter trays), I'd probably notify the RSPCA that they're at risk of being neglected.

Ms_Chocaholic

How did she take the news?

AnotherJoe

Holy moly I never saw the "vet bills".

Once this is all done, please go on an assertiveness course

barbiedoll

OP: This person is not your “friend”. She is a nasty, manipulative user, who knew full well how vulnerable you were at your sister’s funeral, and she took advantage of you, simple as that.

With your illness, and then the loss of your mother too, she has fallen on her feet, getting you to feed and house her and her pets, not only that, but paying vet bills too? As you said, she is well aware of your inheritance, and has simply decided to help herself, she has no consideration for your welfare at all.

Her “panic attacks” are probably just something she invented to keep you from kicking her out, pay no heed to them at all, her mental health is really not your problem, after all, she doesn’t consider your needs when she is stuffing her face noisily, with your food and drink, does she?

You need to ensure that she leaves within the 4 weeks, and takes everything she owns (including cats) with her. Then change the locks, on the same day, and don’t waste another second thinking about her.

You should keep an eye on any post which turns up for her after she has gone. I may be jumping the gun here, but you don’t know if she has used your name and address to buy stuff which she has no intention of paying for. And make sure that you keep any eye on any valuables that you have in your home. You may not think that she is a thief, but she has been sponging off of you for seven months, without even offering a penny in recompense.

As others have said, stop buying food for her (maybe feed the cats, if she won’t) and tell her to start buying her own stuff. If you make life a little more difficult for her, she may realise that the game is up, and move out sooner!

I’m sorry for your losses, and I understand that you’ve been in a bad place, but I daresay that letting this loser bleed you dry is not what your mother and sister would have wanted for you. And I’m sure they wouldn’t have wanted their money to go towards supporting her cushy lifestyle. Get rid, and don’t look back. No-one needs “friends” like that.