Raising money for a funeral

mrsyardbroom

A friend has been round today.

dori2o

If he had lots of friends then maybe they might contribute to get him a better send off/headstone etc.

When our daughter died we had no money to pay for a funeral but were refused help from the state as we didnt get tax credits.

Luckily a few people loaned us some money which we are slowly repaying and family members chipped in paying for the wake, doing the buffet etc. All of which we are eternally grateful for.

What really helped was a friend started an online collection and we got a few hundred pounds from our work colleagues.

In all we got enough to get her a nice coffin as an extra, buy the grave, and pay for half the headstone. The rest we saved for once we got back to work and my Dad and Me made a Cross out of some old thick oak boards just so we had something other than a marker stone.

Don't be ashamed to ask for help. If his friends were as good as he hoped they were they'll be happy to help out. If not with money then in other ways.

Communities and friends generally always come together at times like this.

Margot123

dori2o wrote: »

If he had lots of friends then maybe they might contribute to get him a better send off/headstone etc.

When our daughter died we had no money to pay for a funeral but were refused help from the state as we didnt get tax credits.

Luckily a few people loaned us some money which we are slowly repaying and family members chipped in paying for the wake, doing the buffet etc. All of which we are eternally grateful for.

What really helped was a friend started an online collection and we got a few hundred pounds from our work colleagues.

In all we got enough to get her a nice coffin as an extra, buy the grave, and pay for half the headstone. The rest we saved for once we got back to work and my Dad and Me made a Cross out of some old thick oak boards just so we had something other than a marker stone.

Don't be ashamed to ask for help. If his friends were as good as he hoped they were they'll be happy to help out. If not with money then in other ways.

Communities and friends generally always come together at times like this.

While this is lovely to hear, it can never be counted on that friends and family will fulfil promises, especially once the funeral is over.

I have previously paid for a wreath from my own pocket (around £500) as my name was on the funeral bill. Despite promises before and after, I have not seen a penny. There are other incidentals but amounts of upto £50. I have had to 'write them off' as it was causing a rift repeatedly asking for payment.

If someone is in dire need, even being let down over £5 would be terrible.

dori2o

Margot123 wrote: »

While this is lovely to hear, it can never be counted on that friends and family will fulfil promises, especially once the funeral is over.

I have previously paid for a wreath from my own pocket (around £500) as my name was on the funeral bill. Despite promises before and after, I have not seen a penny. There are other incidentals but amounts of upto £50. I have had to 'write them off' as it was causing a rift repeatedly asking for payment.

If someone is in dire need, even being let down over £5 would be terrible.

I agree, it can't be counted on, and we didn't count on it. In fact we didn't know about most of it until we were presented with the money and we were so grateful for it.

We never thought for a minute that we'd be so blessed by the community around us.

We didn't ask for it but received it anyway.

If it ever happens that others need the help in our community then we'll repay the generosity as best we can. Thats what community does, and it's what we've done when necessary in the past.

However, it costs nothing to ask for help without expectation.