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edited 3 May 2018 at 9:40PM in Mortgage-Free Wannabe
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  • ButtiButti Forumite
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    Isn't life interesting?

    Went to the pub tonight.
    The man I like but find hard to read was in it.
    As was his girlfriend (it appears).

    LOL

    Tis okay, I'm in a more chilled place and from where I am standing he seems a less exciting prospect. Off on Wednesday to investigate other options.
    Debt LBM (08/09) £11,641. (08/12) £22,734. (9/19 )£3221
    Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
    Diary 2 'The whimsical tale of the Waterbed of Debt'
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  • beanieloubeanielou Forumite
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    Roll on Wednesday then!
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    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~**
    **Weight loss 2 stone 2 lbs **
    MFW. 9 months to go. B)
    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
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  • ButtiButti Forumite
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    So when I came back from Cambodia I wanted to keep going with things I have done there, specifically;

    - daily yoga
    - daily meditation
    - daily gratitude

    We are not doing so well on the first one but the other two are doing well.

    So the 'daily yoga' has more morphed into about 5 minutes stretching in the morning, just to get rid of stiffness and make me able to move a bit better. I do have free 30 minute yoga classes on my tablet if I want a bit more.

    I've downloaded a free app called Meditation Lounge. I'm doing armchair meditations called 'detach from the drama's of life'. The first few times I was struggling to get it but I now feel like I am floating above my thoughts and looking down on them.

    Daily gratitude is easy and brilliant. Usually sit in bed at the end of the day and list off things I am grateful for eg.;
    - my yoga class
    - that Sunday's salmon tea is still okay and hasn't killed me
    - a milking stool I bought from a friend despite me not having a cow
    - Co-op mince pies
    - that I am managing to reduce the mess in the kitchen
    - Brene Brown

    The last one is a Dr in social sciences, specialising in research on shame, guilt, vulnerability - she is brilliant on soundbites and little tips to help you to be more robust and stand up for yourself. For example;
    • So it's okay to feel guilt for something bad you have done, but not to feel shame because you 'are' bad
    • The setting of clear boundaries, simply stating "I'm okay with that, I'm not okay with that"
    • 'When you avoid conflict to make peace with other people, you start a war within'
    • The Ted Roosevelt 'Man in the Arena' speech - basically, if I am doing or trying something, you get to comment on it if you are also in the arena fighting the battle with me. If you are sitting on the sidelines just being the critic, your comment is not valid.

    She is listed in you tube with 10 tips or 7 tips or key tips etc. and the yoga teacher gave us an hour conversation of hers with Russell Brand that is just brilliant. That's when I first heard about the Man in the Arena speech.
    Debt LBM (08/09) £11,641. (08/12) £22,734. (9/19 )£3221
    Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
    Diary 2 'The whimsical tale of the Waterbed of Debt'
    [STRIKE]35%[/STRIKE] [STRIKE]35.4%[/STRIKE] 40.1% off mortgage
    'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S :cool: MOB
  • ButtiButti Forumite
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    It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.

    Ted Roosevelt 1910
    Debt LBM (08/09) £11,641. (08/12) £22,734. (9/19 )£3221
    Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
    Diary 2 'The whimsical tale of the Waterbed of Debt'
    [STRIKE]35%[/STRIKE] [STRIKE]35.4%[/STRIKE] 40.1% off mortgage
    'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S :cool: MOB
  • MoneyfordreamsMoneyfordreams Forumite
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    "Walk a mile in my shoes" :D
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    … Mortgage £103000
    plus car £5350
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    ButtiButti Forumite
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    edited 15 November 2019 at 11:09PM
    So last night I went to a thing called 'the Tap takeover' which was Cloudwater beers in the 'local' pub.
    I use the term local loosely as the local is in the nearest town which is 3 miles away.

    I am a woman of my word and I'd said I was going to the Tap takeover and was one of the 'numbers' to ensure the event was a success. So...............(can't believe I'm going to say this) despite pictures of flooding at the entrance to the village posted by friends yesterday, I put on my construction boots (Brownie motto: Be prepared) and ventured out to the bus stop. Zero buses for 25 minutes, then one approached which was OUT OF SERVICE :mad::mad::mad::mad:

    Anyway he pulled into the bus stop as I waved madly at him. Offered to take me to a bus stop about halfway to the pub, then stopped at the next bus stop and did the same for the woman there. And as he wasn't IN SERVICE he didn't charge us!
    :money::money::money:
    As we waited to get out of the village and water lapped up the steps and on to the bus floor, I'm beginning to think;

    a. This might be a mistake
    b. How exactly am I planning on getting back!

    So I got my 1.5 mile walk in to the pub. Good exercise :T:T:T
    Had 6 thirds of beer. :beer::beer: Then got prepared to catch the bus back.
    Hmmmm!
    So after 35 minutes a bus turned up and told me he was not going into the village and could take me half way back, and maybe I could get a taxi.
    Yes, cos of course a taxi is higher than a bus! :rotfl:
    I'm beginning at this point to regret the decision to leave the safety of my house!
    In the meantime it had continued to rain and rain and rain.
    After 35 minutes of standing in the cold I was also busting for a p.

    So I went back to the pub, if only to use the loo.
    The barman said "The landlord (who lives about 3 miles from me) has rang to say if you have a problem getting home he will come and get you". So he drove the 6 miles back to take me home on a slightly longer route :D. He also proceeded to tell me how much he admires me for tackling the various issues in my life and changing aspects of it head on. :D:D Told me I was one of the most impressive people he had met. :D:D:D
    Our pub landlord is a lovely person (and he saved me a return bus fare!)
    Debt LBM (08/09) £11,641. (08/12) £22,734. (9/19 )£3221
    Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
    Diary 2 'The whimsical tale of the Waterbed of Debt'
    [STRIKE]35%[/STRIKE] [STRIKE]35.4%[/STRIKE] 40.1% off mortgage
    'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S :cool: MOB
  • beanieloubeanielou Forumite
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    Blimey Norah Butti.
    Nevèr a dull moment in your world.
    Are you keen on the landlord?
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~**
    **Weight loss 2 stone 2 lbs **
    MFW. 9 months to go. B)
    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
  • ButtiButti Forumite
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    beanielou wrote: »
    Blimey Norah Butti.
    Nevèr a dull moment in your world.
    Are you keen on the landlord?

    See I had put in a sentence and removed it because I thought it was unnecessary.

    The landlord is a friend who is lovely and has been married for 25 years to another lovely person, the landlady. I'm not romantically interested in either.
    Debt LBM (08/09) £11,641. (08/12) £22,734. (9/19 )£3221
    Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
    Diary 2 'The whimsical tale of the Waterbed of Debt'
    [STRIKE]35%[/STRIKE] [STRIKE]35.4%[/STRIKE] 40.1% off mortgage
    'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S :cool: MOB
  • beanieloubeanielou Forumite
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    How very dissapointing.
    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/03/14.
    **Credit card debt free 30/06/10~**
    **Weight loss 2 stone 2 lbs **
    MFW. 9 months to go. B)
    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    It starts with you, it starts from now. *** It is ok to be me.***
    ***Keep plodding***
    Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
  • ButtiButti Forumite
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    beanielou wrote: »
    How very dissapointing.

    Sorry Beanie, put the popcorn away!

    Not feeling too guilty today. He got let down today by someone who was helping him staff a bar at a charity event. So he has called in the favour and I have been down pouring wines and gins for him behind his pop up bar. It's been a very cheap evening for me - walked there and spent nil pounds!
    Debt LBM (08/09) £11,641. (08/12) £22,734. (9/19 )£3221
    Diary 'Butti's journey : A matter of loaf or death'.
    Diary 2 'The whimsical tale of the Waterbed of Debt'
    [STRIKE]35%[/STRIKE] [STRIKE]35.4%[/STRIKE] 40.1% off mortgage
    'one day I will be rich and famous…for now I'll just have to settle for being poor and incredibly sexy'. Vimrod Member of MIKE'S :cool: MOB
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