any advice would be appreciated please

Cheeky_Monkey

sav1980 wrote: »

My apologies I'm not used to posting in forums, i didn't know people were so precious about stuff, will continue to seek advice. Thanks to those who have offered advice.

How rude are you??

Now, off you pop to get your free advice wherever you see fit.

Candyapple

Is moving back in an option as has been suggested? Your name is still on the mortgage and if he wants to play silly b uggers, play him at his own game.

18 months is a long time to be waiting. There's no point in putting the for sale sign back up because nothing has changed, nor will change, unless you do something. Either by seeing a solicitor and seeing what they advise, or moving back in.

If you put the sign back up you are just wasting everyone's time and money again as your ex is not looking to move, let alone peeing off more buyers and the EA again.

sav1980

I'm really sorry i didn't mean to cause offence to anyone? I'm probably not coming across very well, i didn't mean to be rude, i just meant ive not posted in forum before I'm sorry i didn't realise my first post was going to cause so many replies about it not having paragraphs. I can see now how this important to everyone. i didn't mean i will seek free advice elsewhere, i just meant I'm thanking people for their advice and any further advise would be appreciated. I'm really sorry for upsetting so many of you it was not my intention.

sav1980

thanks, i could move back in but I'm worried about that environment/atmosphere/message that will cause for the children as they are only small, that's my main concern.thanks for your advice, i think another appointment at the solicitors to see what the next best route is probably what i need to do next.

hazyjo

A third vote for moving back in - as painful as it is. Or agreeing he takes X amount extra from the sale to put towards a rental, or the new GF buys with him or buys you out.


He ain't going nowhere as things currently stand. FACT.

quantumlobster

sav1980 wrote: »

I'm really sorry i didn't mean to cause offence to anyone? I'm probably not coming across very well, i didn't mean to be rude, i just meant ive not posted in forum before I'm sorry i didn't realise my first post was going to cause so many replies about it not having paragraphs. I can see now how this important to everyone. i didn't mean i will seek free advice elsewhere, i just meant I'm thanking people for their advice and any further advise would be appreciated. I'm really sorry for upsetting so many of you it was not my intention.

To head off the obvious question: have you sought legal advice? If not, you probably should.

It's a messy situation, and I hope you find a resolution that works for you.

(now go back and edit your post to put some paragraphs in )

Candyapple

Do you work or are you a stay at home mum?

How many bedrooms does the property have?

Definitely speak to a solicitor and see what they say. 18 months is a ridiculous amount of time to be stalling after a judgement was made.

I would imagine if it goes back to court then hopefully the judge will put a time limit as to when the house has to be sold by - ask your solicitor as to the likelihood of this happening.

If it doesn't, then your only option is to move back in, grin and bear it and pee your ex and his girlfriend off so much to the point where they absolutely cannot stand it anymore and are forced to wanting to sell and leave. As of right now, they are enjoying your house and have no real incentives to move to a smaller property or into rented accommodation given that I would imagine the mortgage repayments are a lot cheaper than it would be to rent somewhere.

SCDH

sav1980 wrote: »

I'm really sorry i didn't mean to cause offence to anyone? I'm probably not coming across very well, i didn't mean to be rude, i just meant ive not posted in forum before I'm sorry i didn't realise my first post was going to cause so many replies about it not having paragraphs. I can see now how this important to everyone. i didn't mean i will seek free advice elsewhere, i just meant I'm thanking people for their advice and any further advise would be appreciated. I'm really sorry for upsetting so many of you it was not my intention.

You didn't come across rude at all I hope you manage to get the advice you are after.

sav1980

hi i did get a solicitor to sort out the divorce and financial break etc and it cost me quite a lot of my savings just to sort that out. i just had hoped the situation would have resolved now and had hoped i wouldn't have to spend any more money on solicitors but i think it looks like i will have to see them again - thanks.

sav1980

Hi i work every week day 9-3 to fit around school hours.

The property for sale is 4 bedrooms. I'm now renting a 3 bed house for me and my son and daughter but its costing me a fortune and i don't earn loads now with only working around school hours.

I did claim housing benefit for a few months but they've stopped it now because i do have assets, which i can see is fair, but those assets are tied up in this house that i cant get too so its very frustrating. Money is tight, but i work as much as i can to support us. I drive round in a tatty old car, and all my money goes on the house and the children.

My ex has just treat himself to the latest Mercedes sports car and enjoys holidays with his new gf and always out fancy restaurants etc splashing latest stuff on social media.... it's hard to write that without me coming across as bitter, which I'm not but i cant help but bit annoyed that I'm struggling financially whilst he doesn't seem to have any worries and is sat on half my equity, i paid into that house for a long time before the children came along, scrimped and saved for the deposit worked all hours and now i feel its just been taken from me and there's nothing i can do about it.

Hence why i was hesitant in visiting solicitors once again but needs must, like you say it cant continue.