Feeling failed by our wedding venue

HurdyGurdy

The purpose of a wedding day is just for two people to become Mrs and Mrs (or Mr and Mr / Mrs and Mrs - whatever)

And that's what happened on your day. It was therefore a success.

As has been said above, you WILL look back on it and laugh. It's a day you won't forget, and it's up to you and your wife to decide if you will see the funny side of it, or if you let it destroy your marriage due to allowing the dark cloud to define your life together.

We still laugh, over 30 years later, at our organist who totally ignored the wedding music I had spent hours and hours agonising over, and played - well, actually we're still not sure what it was that I came down the aisle to! - his own versions or his own choices. Not mine.

We laugh at the two bridesmaids muffling screams because of the spider that ran across in front of them as we were taking our vows

We remember fondly that the vicar made the congregation stop singing one of the hymns as there were about four different blocks of singing from various parts of the church, all singing at different volumes, different speeds and I'm quite sure different hymns, and made us all start over again.

We laugh like drains looking back and remembering the photographer wearing his slippers (because he'd had an operation on his foot the week before and couldn't wear shoes).

All these things make our wedding day "ours". Not a clone of anyone else's day, and not the picture perfect, homogenised version of a wedding that is portrayed in the wedding magazines. They are unrealistic.

Please don't let this "black cloud" BE your wedding day.

Realistically - even if you were given £10,000 in compensation, it wouldn't change the day. If you are determined to look back on a "ruined" day, then no amount of compensation you receive will change that.

Only you and your wife can decide whether you're going to have funny stories about your wedding day, or let it destroy the happiness that resulted from the biggest day of your lives.

Savvy_Sue

HurdyGurdy wrote: »

We still laugh, over 30 years later, at our organist who totally ignored the wedding music I had spent hours and hours agonising over, and played - well, actually we're still not sure what it was that I came down the aisle to! - his own versions or his own choices. Not mine.

:rotfl: You didn't ask for the theme tune to Robin Hood, Prince of Thieves did you, and get this, from the 50s? Those of you who don't instantly know why this would be funny should take a quick listen, and the rest of you should wallow in nostalgia - it only took the first few notes for DH to ask "Is that Robin Hood?"