Can you voluntarily put your child up for adoption?

thorsoak

Nathaniel_Essex wrote: »

Just got off the phone with a close friend who is near breaking down and just told me he no longer loves his son.

Child is 11 and for as long as I remember has been a demon child since birth. He's turning 12 soon and he is constantly misbehaving to a point where his father fears for his and his daughters safety.

The child constantly sneaks out the house, fight with the daughter, causes arguments, gets in trouble with the police and vandalises the home.

Dad has told me that he has tried everything and recently tried ignoring the child, letting him do what he wants whilst him and the daughter confine themselves to their rooms or go out alone. Problem is, he does stuff that they can't ignore like turning up the TV to a point it bothers the neighbours or leaving the house if they do and getting himself on trouble.

He's had enough and says he wants to put the child up for adoption, sell and move house so he never sees him again. Is it simply a case of telling the council you no longer want the child and essentially dumping him on them?

So, when the daughter reaches puberty and turns into Teenzilla - as only too often the delightful daughter can (I speak from experience) - will your friend want to dump her too?

What does his mother want to do?

PS: Teenzilla eventually turned back into her lovely self when she reached the age of 20 or so!

badmemory

JIL wrote: »

No child is born bad

This definitely!

At aged 3 I became the bad child. No-one realised until I was 7 that I had lost a lot of my hearing. Even the school I started at 3 didn't realise, but you can't obey if you can't hear what it is you need to obey. The trouble is that you never quite get rid of that "bad child" image, especially if you have a younger sister who is happy to manipulate it.