Old style as an escape from the world?

Nargleblast

Angel_Jenny. There is only one of you in this world. That makes you special. You are one in 7.6 billion - how cool is that?

Mrs_Salad_Dodger

What a lovely sentiment Nargleblast Hope you remember this Angel_Jenny

mardatha

Re escaping from the world - isn't it funny how all books about Victorian life and home seem to emphasise how good the summers were then? I wonder if that's fact or just memories?

monnagran

Im pretty sure it is just memories, mar. I know that when I think back to my childhood I remember summer as being hot and sunny, school summer uniforms, tennis, trying to keep butter solid and milk fresh without a fridge, long days playing outside and holidays on the beach, being smothered in calamine lotion to relieve the soreness of sunburn.

If I really force myself I have to admit that it certainly did rain. Indoor activities were always packed for wet days on holiday, my grandmother always knitted me a white cardigan to go with summer dresses on cool days and at school we could always tell who had the cheap imitation panama hats because they rose to a point when wet.

There might be slight trends of climate change but they only seem dramatic to us because we are in the middle of them. If we look at the overall picture it's probably much of a muchness.

Some expert is bound to be along soon to prove me wrong.

Angel_Jenny

Thank you all so much - I really could cry!

I have been making changes - baby steps! - I have given up full fat fizzy pop, am eating a low carb diet and have been walking more x

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Good girl! it's the tiny things done one at a time until they are so integral they are just 'part of normal life' that become part of the big changes that change lives for the better. You're a couple of steps into a brand new life girlie, well done, keep changing the small things and one day you'll realise that the big change you want has happened while you weren't looking xxx.

Mrs_Salad_Dodger

Angel_Jenny wrote: »

Thank you all so much - I really could cry!

I have been making changes - baby steps! - I have given up full fat fizzy pop, am eating a low carb diet and have been walking more x

How is it going Angel_Jenny? With all this hot weather I imagine the low carb diet is possibly quite easy to maintain I know I am eating loads of salad as well as vegetables - unheard of for me:D

I hope you are feeling more in control of your life now and remember you deserve nice things :T

MrsSD

bargainhunterss

monnagran wrote: »

Hi , Angel_Jenny. I couldnt let your comment about 'not feeling you deserve nice things' pass without interfering.

Most of the nicest people in the world think that they are undeserving of good things. Those who feel entitled are usually pains in the backside.
However, nice people often undersell themselves.
You are special. You are unique. No one else can be you.

I am in the habit of giving the unfortunates on the Garden Fence Thread , A Thought For The Day (they are very patient with me.)

This one I have been saving up, and you can have it all for yourself. It was written by Nance Hoffman.

None of us are getting out of here alive, so please stop treating yourself like an afterthought.
Eat the delicious food. Walk in the sunshine. Jump in the ocean. Say the truth that you are carrying in your heart like hidden treasure.
Be silly. Be kind. Be weird.
There's no time for anything else.


To this I would add.......
Angel_Jenny, look in the mirror every day and say to yourself, "You're GOLD baby. SOLID GOLD.

Because you are, you know.

I've just been catching up on this thread and I just wanted to say this is WISDOM monnagran! I think I might be copying it out into my little book of happy sayings.

Cheapskate

I've just happened upon this thread whilst searching for something else, and very glad I did!

GQ, I so love your Skivers' Charter - so much so that I'm going to print it out twice - once big for the 'fridge and once smaller for my diary - I'm your biggest fan! :rotfl::rotfl:

When we have days at home, often in the school holidays, we slow life right down, and are more old school. I shop from the pantry and freezer, mend stuff that's been waiting for yonks, read more, less faceache and more proper online research, and generally retreat a bit. There's nothing wrong with a bit of retreating, even if it's just now and again, Angel_Jenny!

I like to have candles going in the evening, whatever the time of year, as they add that sort of cosiness that the best electric lighting can never achieve - I've always been a big fan of hygge, even before it was trendy or there was a name for it, as was my mum before me!

I find there's a more alluring sense of rhythm to doing things that way - even though I'm still learning to let go, to say 'no', and to stop overthinking everything. I feel current life is more frantic than when our younger children were small, and younger friends have the same opinion, so it's not just me getting older. Trying hard to enjoy the day I'm in, rather than spend too much time planning for something that may or may not happen.

Monnagran, that quote is one of my favourites, too, and I'm going to add it to GQ's Charter when I print it out!

A xo

mardatha

Cheapskate you're very wise. Life is hectic enough without us letting it control us. My very modern trendy DIL once said she wished she could have the kind of life I did, and I told her "just stay at home! Don't go places!" and she looked at me as if I was mad. She's one who is in and out the house every hour, collecting this/buying that/taking kids here/collecting kids there. She never sits down and it would drive me mad living like that.