Trick Or Treating - am i mean?

thriftmonster

We don't do it as I don't like the message it gives to kids about asking strangers for sweets.

However it could be worse - not sure if anyone has already posted this. When I was a kid (30yrs ago) there was Mischief Night on Nov 4th which was all the tricks without the treats - ringing doorbells and running away, putting treacle on doorknobs, hiding dustbin lids etc. Maybe we have moved on....

kathy206

I'll only be taking my eldest (9) down our street and definitely not to the elderly people in the street. We've lived here 10 years and we know those who participate in halloween and trick or treat and those who don't. We decorate the hallway in the house and get sweeties in for those kids who make an effort. We never give money. Our local paper usually print a notice for those who don't want Tor T to cut out and stick on their front doors. No one gets a treat if they are only wearing a mask and a bin liner and teenagers only get sweets if they have the nerve to ask, and have made the effort to dress up properly. No one should feel bad if they don't want to give to random kids at their door.

minimacka

Last year my d/s pleaded with me to go trick or treating after never letting him in previous years, I agreed so off we went round our street and found that lots of our neighbours had bought sweets in for the trick or treaters which i thought was lovely. This year to avoid this again because to be honest i didnt really like taking him round the street, the whole family bil/sil and our family are going into Dalby forest which is nearby to a spooky walk. It should be great fun as its an organised event with the local drama group doing spooky plays.

C_Ronaldo

Im not too keen trick or treating either, i see it as a form of begging, i dont have problems with bonfire night

Norma_Desmond

I'm going to take the risk of being shouted down here, but I think 'trick or treating' is totally unacceptable in every way.
I don't want children (and let's face it, teenagers) knocking on my door begging for hand-outs and then pelting my house with eggs or snapping my car's wing mirror which is what happened a year or two ago before I moved to this place (thankfully remote)
I've seen at first hand how terrified some old folks are on this silly night and wonder if these same kids have ever knocked their neighbour's doors offering to take the bins out/clean the odd window or nip to the shops for them.....?

lisababy2002uk

i was never aloud to do trick or treating but its not really bothered me and when i have kids of my own they wont be doing it either.

January_Embers

sethsgran wrote: »

My friend gets her girls to bake the night before then on the night they dress up and they go out "treating" They take their cakes/biscuits etc to pre-arranged families or elderly, usually those who live alone. Her girls get to visit for a short while and then move on. The children get to choose who they will visit and what they will bake. Because she has girls they often dress up as fairies/angels as mum doesn't want them to dwell on negative side of this. Might seem a bit too far for some but she has 4 fantastic girls who are growing up to be kind and caring and who like getting involved with their community.

I think that sounds brilliant. I really like the treating idea.

littleredcorvette

I don't have a problem with going round to the houses of people you know, but I've always found it strange that for the other 364 days you tell your children not to accept sweets from strangers, but on Halloween its ok.

Having said that, I do have wrapped sweets for any children that come knocking, but I've never recognised any of them!!!

Running_Horse

Last place I lived the parents used to get together and accompany their children, so no harm could be done or caused. I agree though, it is a stupid "tradition", especially the brats who start a week early, and don't even bother to dress up. I just didn't answer the door, but the village where we are now we will no doubt be forced to join in the "fun".

Running_Horse

C_Ronaldo wrote: »

i dont have problems with bonfire night

Me neither apart from the fact we are celebrating centuries of repression against Catholicism, and weeks of all night fireworks before and after.

[switches off killjoy mode]