Trick Or Treating - am i mean?

missjennipenni

Am i miserly for not allowing my children to go trick or treating ( i see it as akin to begging) and for not opening the door to trick or treaters?

Whats yoru view on this practice?

mountainofdebt

As far as I'm concerned its just another thing that we seem to have imported from the US.

As you can guess I can't stand it and hope it rains around 31st October and the 5th November!

kitchen_buff

Alls you are doing by not letting your kids participate in trick or treating is making the adult futures a misery. They will always re call their mum not letting them do it. When they are adults they will make their own minds up on doing it with their kids. They might not have kids because they might think being a kid is miserable so why bother. Come on its a bit of fun. As long as you go with them and they are not causing trouble letbthem do it.

Rikki

kitchen_buff wrote: »

Alls you are doing by not letting your kids participate in trick or treating is making the adult futures a misery. They will always re call their mum not letting them do it. When they are adults they will make their own minds up on doing it with their kids. They might not have kids because they might think being a kid is miserable so why bother. Come on its a bit of fun. As long as you go with them and they are not causing trouble letbthem do it.

I don't believe in trick or treating either. I don't believe in knocking on doors and asking (begging) for money/sweets or anything else for that matter.


It has also become an excuse for big kids to knock on doors of the elderly and intimidate them into handing over money.

missjennipenni

kitchen_buff wrote: »

Alls you are doing by not letting your kids participate in trick or treating is making the adult futures a misery. They will always re call their mum not letting them do it. When they are adults they will make their own minds up on doing it with their kids. They might not have kids because they might think being a kid is miserable so why bother. Come on its a bit of fun. As long as you go with them and they are not causing trouble letbthem do it.

I let them dress up, go to parties, bob for apples in the house, we still have fun. I dont think they will have a miserable childhood just because i dont let them beg on doorsteps for sweets.

Nicki

The rule in our house is that they are only allowed to knock on the doors of friends, or on houses which are clearly displaying a pumpkin lantern in the window. We always accompany them and no bad manners are allowed (they are 6 and 7)

We similarly always have a large bowl of sweets in, and are very happy to see trick or treaters at the door. I never hand over money, and if older kids or teenagers come to the door, they are offered sweets just like the little ones. We've never been threatened or intimidated (and live in an inner city) and the children enjoy it.

JennyW_2

I did it as a kid and it was fun then but things were different then.....

I'm not a parent but from a female who's home alone alot, I don't open the door during the trick n treat season as I'm not sure you'll be standing at the door - terrible way of looking at things I know, but rather be safe than sorry.

missjennipenni

Nicki wrote: »

The rule in our house is that they are only allowed to knock on the doors of friends, or on houses which are clearly displaying a pumpkin lantern in the window. We always accompany them and no bad manners are allowed (they are 6 and 7)

We similarly always have a large bowl of sweets in, and are very happy to see trick or treaters at the door. I never hand over money, and if older kids or teenagers come to the door, they are offered sweets just like the little ones. We've never been threatened or intimidated (and live in an inner city) and the children enjoy it.

Thats another thing, the kids want a lit pumpkin, but i know that will invite more trick or treaters to my house! lol

stacey21_2

I don't mind it if it is young children accompanied by adults around houses which are either pre-arranged or in their estate.

What I don't like is older children who come hardly dressed up (i.e school uniform), come to the door and expect something for doing nothing.. There was a group of around 5 children aged about 14 outside the petrol station the other night asking for 'money for the guy'

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kitchen_buff

to missjennipenni.
You did not say in your original thread that you still had parties etc...
So apologise for sounding a bit rude.
Dont see a problem.
Well done.

Sola

I simply refuse to open the door - let them go beg and scrounge for junk food elsewhere.