Getting married - Family issues , needing advice

maman

There seem to be 3 threads on the same subject running on this board at the same time!


I'll try reporting it or maybe the Board Guides could put them all together.

Charleyalmostking

Theres 2 for something else because I posted it somewhere and got told to post in another area so i did, this one was months before my aunties vile messages to me but my family issues have bene going on for about 3+ years now.

thorsoak

Listen carefully ...I shall only say this once - so you do not have to reply thrice!

Whilst you keep writing about the problems you have had with your family, you do not allow yourself the chance to heal inside. It's like picking at a scabby knee when you were small - whilst you pick at it, it does not heal.

LET IT GO! Instead of continuing to agonise over what did/what did not happan/was said/was not said - just let it go. Concentrate on the now and on your future with your partner. Create your own family with him and be happy with that. You cannot change other people any more than you can change what has happened in the past, or how you - or anyone else - reacted to it. All you can change is how you react to what people say/do.

Just try to be a good person - and that's the best any of us can try to be.

Fireflyaway

It's your wedding so invite or don't invite whoever you wish. Try to maintain good relationships with those you can, but don't be drawn into talking about the family members who have upset you. My husband fell out with his brother some years back but still has a great relationship with his mum and sister.
Sometimes there is someone in the family you don't get on with and it just can't be helped. Don't let it consume you. Just accept you don't get on and leave it be.