Getting married - Family issues , needing advice

onomatopoeia99

xironsongx wrote: »

We've changed our date to next year , I'm trying to get as much sorted before then as we are on a small budget

If your budget is small, registry office. They all have a basic room that is very cheap (£50 round my way) for the formal part of the ceremony and only holds half a dozen people.

That was you can get married with minimum fuss or expense and have a party after for the people you want to invite.

Pollycat

thorsoak wrote: »

Believe me - the fact that the venue has cancelled is correct. And the ethnicity of the guests/bride and groom is confirmed in social media and I understand this gave the venue cause for concern.

So why did the venue accept the booking in the first place?

everyone at Orsett Hall knew that there were travellers coming to the wedding.

She said: “The manager refused to meet us. A security guard was hired by the owner.
“We walked to the reception and they directed us to another room. Again, we weren’t told anything but the security guard said he was told that the wedding had been cancelled because we were travellers.
“They knew that we were travellers and some of Luke’s family have had weddings there so they are well aware.

So they hired a security guard to tell them the wedding was cancelled?
Really?

Wedding insurance?
Legal action against the venue?

AylesburyDuck

They all sound horrendous, without any thought to how you might feel about it, and if they cant behave for 24 hours while you marry what does it say about them?

I cant understand all the hype around weddings, go and get married at a registry office and then tell them all after the fact. Save your money and your sanity, jobs a good un.

marliepanda

Maybe im missing the point, but why are you upset at the prospect of your uncle and his family not coming? He is he one who started the whole mess in the first place, no?

enthusiasticsaver

Planting knives in your bag!!!! What sort of family member would do that? They sound totally crazy. Invite people you want and forget the rest. If family members can't get on without some drama you would be better off having a small ceremony with maybe close friends instead and family members who can get on and realise it is yours and your DPs day. Not sure about your Dad either but no rule to say he has to come either. My DDs best friend got married last year with just my DD and her sister plus her DHs 2 closest friends as her DHs parents were both dead and her parents divorced and didn't get on. Invite who you want.

Gilead

First of all - you cannot keep everyone happy, and you will taint your big day if you spend time and energy trying to.

Second and most important - invite who you want to share your day with you.

Good luck.

spirit

thorsoak wrote: »

Believe me - the fact that the venue has cancelled is correct. And the ethnicity of the guests/bride and groom is confirmed in social media and I understand this gave the venue cause for concern.

Whether the venue's action in cancelling the event for the reasons given is legal is, of course, open to question.

I'm sure I've seen that happen on Big, Fat Gypsy Weddings# too. The bridal dress lady I think was told it'd been cancelled last minute so had to find an alternative venue.

#the channel 4 documentary series, not the film.

Charleyalmostking

Update ; we are having registry office wedding.

I'm hoping family drops out .
I said 2 years to save but I was a donught and forgot that the funds would be split between me and my fiance.

At the time of writing this I wasn't in a good place at all , I had so many other problems going on that I didn't feel like i wanted to get married or plan a wedding cos I felt so low and wanted to focus on myself.

But after everything that's recently happened there's nothing more I want than to be his wife. He's the only one of my 'family' whose been there throughout everything even through my recent 2 depressive episodes. I just want my future properly with him

JWM

Why do you have 2 User Names on here?

Charleyalmostking

I couldn't get into my other one,
May have deleted the email address...