Suspected affair - Tracking a mobile phone
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A lad who used to work for me taped a mobile phone to the underside of his ex's car and tracked it.
It was subsequently found when she took it to get the exhaust looked at and he ended up getting 100 hours community service.0 -
Yes, yes it is. Most stalkers are 'verifying their belief'.
And no, its not the primary reason why stalkers stalk :-
https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/stalking-behavior-victims-seeking-help-040513
What Is Stalking?
At its core, stalking consists of repeated attempts to gain control over or terrorize someone. Stalking exists on a continuum. On the lower end, it might involve repeated phone calls, letters, or email contacts. In its more extreme manifestations, however, stalking might involve repeatedly going to a person’s house, making threats against a person, harming pets, stealing possessions, or interfering with a person’s relationships with friends, family, or coworkers. Stalkers may alternate between patterns of domestic violence and stalking.0 -
No, if her husband says hes going to X, Y or Z, then its not unreasonable to confirm that, particularly given there is already reasonable suspicion.
Whats the alternative? Do nothing? Challenge him with no evidence so he can deny it and just be more careful next time? Because what you're saying seems to be that to do *any* checking makes you a stalker?
Ok, to start with, yes it is totally unreasonable!
The alternative is to end the relationship, because the trust is gone.
Just FYI here's the law
Offences in relation to stalking
(1)After section 2 of the Protection from Harassment Act 1997 (offence of harassment) insert—
“2AOffence of stalking
(1)A person is guilty of an offence if—
(a)the person pursues a course of conduct in breach of section 1(1), and
(b)the course of conduct amounts to stalking.
(2)For the purposes of subsection (1)(b) (and section 4A(1)(a)) a person’s course of conduct amounts to stalking of another person if—
(a)it amounts to harassment of that person,
(b)the acts or omissions involved are ones associated with stalking, and
(c)the person whose course of conduct it is knows or ought to know that the course of conduct amounts to harassment of the other person.
(3)The following are examples of acts or omissions which, in particular circumstances, are ones associated with stalking—
(a)following a person,
(b)contacting, or attempting to contact, a person by any means,
(c)publishing any statement or other material—
(i)relating or purporting to relate to a person, or
(ii)purporting to originate from a person,
(d)monitoring the use by a person of the internet, email or any other form of electronic communication,
(e)loitering in any place (whether public or private),
(f)interfering with any property in the possession of a person,
(g)watching or spying on a person.
(4)A person guilty of an offence under this section is liable on summary conviction to imprisonment for a term not exceeding 51 weeks, or a fine not exceeding level 5 on the standard scale, or both.
(5)In relation to an offence committed before the commencement of section 281(5) of the Criminal Justice Act 2003, the reference in subsection (4) to 51 weeks is to be read as a reference to six months.
(6)This section is without prejudice to the generality of section 2.”
http://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2012/9/part/7/crossheading/stalking/enacted0 -
And no, its not the primary reason why stalkers stalk :-
https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/stalking-behavior-victims-seeking-help-040513
What Is Stalking?
At its core, stalking consists of repeated attempts to gain control over or terrorize someone. Stalking exists on a continuum. On the lower end, it might involve repeated phone calls, letters, or email contacts. In its more extreme manifestations, however, stalking might involve repeatedly going to a person’s house, making threats against a person, harming pets, stealing possessions, or interfering with a person’s relationships with friends, family, or coworkers. Stalkers may alternate between patterns of domestic violence and stalking.0 -
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Ok, to start with, yes it is totally unreasonable!
The alternative is to end the relationship, because the trust is gone.
Just FYI here's the law
Offences in relation to stalking
(1)After section 2 of the Protection from Harassment Act 1997 (offence of harassment) insert—
“2AOffence of stalking
(1)A person is guilty of an offence if—
(a)the person pursues a course of conduct in breach of section 1(1), and
(b)the course of conduct amounts to stalking.
(2)For the purposes of subsection (1)(b) (and section 4A(1)(a)) a person’s course of conduct amounts to stalking of another person if—
(a)it amounts to harassment of that person,
(b)the acts or omissions involved are ones associated with stalking, and
(c)the person whose course of conduct it is knows or ought to know that the course of conduct amounts to harassment of the other person.
(3)The following are examples of acts or omissions which, in particular circumstances, are ones associated with stalking—
(a)following a person,
(b)contacting, or attempting to contact, a person by any means,
(c)publishing any statement or other material—
(i)relating or purporting to relate to a person, or
(ii)purporting to originate from a person,
(d)monitoring the use by a person of the internet, email or any other form of electronic communication,
(e)loitering in any place (whether public or private),
(f)interfering with any property in the possession of a person,
(g)watching or spying on a person.
(4)A person guilty of an offence under this section is liable on summary conviction to imprisonment for a term not exceeding 51 weeks, or a fine not exceeding level 5 on the standard scale, or both.
(5)In relation to an offence committed before the commencement of section 281(5) of the Criminal Justice Act 2003, the reference in subsection (4) to 51 weeks is to be read as a reference to six months.
(6)This section is without prejudice to the generality of section 2.”
http://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2012/9/part/7/crossheading/stalking/enacted
The law isnt black and white its about context.
For example, i've just loitered outside at lunchtime, does that make me a stalker?
Also, you've managed to extract "stalking" from under the category of harassment.
It relates to stalking as harassment. The O/P is not attempting to harass their husband.0 -
Does he have snapchat on his phone, their is a maps function on that where you can see where your friends are0
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No, if her husband says hes going to X, Y or Z, then its not unreasonable to confirm that, particularly given there is already reasonable suspicion.
Whats the alternative? Do nothing? Challenge him with no evidence so he can deny it and just be more careful next time? Because what you're saying seems to be that to do *any* checking makes you a stalker?
Of course it's unreasonable!
It's not unreasonable if I check where my child (under 18), (or a legally 'vulnerable adult' I'm responsible for) goes to, because I am safeguarding their wellbeing, which is my moral and legal responsibility.
It is not reasonable to stalk /follow /check up on /interfere with the liberty and legal behaviour of another competent adult, just because I might not like their choices! It's irrelevant whether that adult is my significant other or just someone else want to have control over. We (thankfully) do not live in a country where infidelity is illegal and where partners 'own' each other!!
In my opinion, once the trust is gone you either talk to the person and jointly try to rebuild the trust, or you decide to live with things as they are (open relationships anyone?) or you walk away with your head held high and a huge sigh of relief![FONT="][FONT="] Fighting the biggest battle of my life. Started 30th January 2018.
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