Weekly Flylady Thread 5th March 2018

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Dizzy_Imp wrote: »

Well.

My husband doesn't care about me anymore and is thinking of leaving.

I'm trying to hold it together.

I'm sorry he is such an @rse.

atypicalblonde

Dizzy - hold it together. Rant, rave and sound off to us if you need to. Ultimately, make sure you do what is right for you and your boys.

Sending you all the love and strength vibes xxx

pigpen

Dizzy_Imp wrote: »

Well.

My husband doesn't care about me anymore and is thinking of leaving.

I'm trying to hold it together.

Babe.. help him pack... It is almost like the 'coin toss' moment for them.. they realise they are either really upset by the thought of leaving and want to stay OR They are relieved and go.. either way.. you will survive, you will be fine.

He does care.. otherwise he wouldn't be in a muddle about leaving/staying.. but threatening you and leaving you all in a tizz is rather abusive, having the power over you to make you feel rubbish.. You are stronger than you think, stronger than him.. and you would survive on your own, you do not need him.. you choose to let him stay because you care.

Beasties fed.. hotdogs rolled in bread and butter.. and Best Mummy Award goes.. to ME!!! lol

TD done

DW next!

Valli

oh Dizzy (((hugs)))

I think Piggers speaks wise words.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Dealt with the washing up in the end. It annoyed me to see it there. And if I hadn't, I fully expect that it would have been waiting for me next weekend. Also cleared the surfaces, wiped them down properly this time and dried underneath the butcher's block so it doesn't warp any more than it has already.


He's still in bed. Yesterday was a temporary aberration. He went to bed at the same time as me (when I couldn't see straight any more from working with the awful score and he'd been upstairs on his laptop) and was asleep within minutes. But he's still asleep - or at least lying up there with his eyes closed - now?

Now, I know he gets up half an hour before me during the week to make me tea and a [strike]generally miserable[/strike] packed lunch, but not only has he then got the ability to go straight back to bed as soon as I leave, it's not as if he is doing anything else during the day - he leaves the twatting about on the computer or on a guitar for the evenings, so I spend most of them sat downstairs, just me and the felines, other when a meal - frequently a takeaway or what I would call half a meal, as it lacks veg or protein [strike]or flavour, texture, calories, vitamins....[/strike] - gets lobbed in my direction.


Bah. I know neither of us has much to do with our respective offspring (their/their other parents' choices, not ours), which I don't like in the slightest but have learned to accept in order to function as a human being - but it would be nice if he had at least made the effort to check I was OK today.

kazwookie

Right

Since 8.30am
DW on
Gardening done until 1.10pm!! this included 2 tips runs, OH at 10am when he came to help, and of course the 'help' of the cat who spent most of his time dashing through the leaves I was clearing up!
OH now out on his motorbike saying he doesn't know where he is going, but will be back at 3pm for the rugby.

Dizzy hugs large ones at that, I personally would tell him if he is going to get on with it, call his bluff...........Don't let him have a hold over you........xx

Fayolle

Dizzy - super large hugs for you. Piggers and Kaz speak wise words as always. Xx

pigpen

GLIIIIITTTTTEEEEEEEEEEEERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

My bathroom is bejazzled! .. pics to follow once it is actually clean!

LameWolf

Dizzy (((HUGS))) and strength vibes. As usual, Piggers has put it far better than I could hope to. x

YORKSHIRELASS wrote: »

Feel very rested. I can sympathise with LW as my anxiety is really bad at the moment but thankfully it comes and goes.

*sigh* I know what's set off this really bad go of it.
Switching to Flylady Code:

Some serious !!!!!! has gone down for a poster on another thread that I [STRIKE]contribute to[/STRIKE] waffle on. And it's brought back a whole load of stuff from when the Ex threatened to have me sectioned. And then went on to say - and I quote his words exactly, as they have stayed with me all these years - "Go ahead and commit suicide if you want to".
I'm trying not to let it get to me, and be supportive to the friend on the other thread, but truth be told, it is taking it's toll. - I'm frightened because I do still deal with suicidal thoughts on a daily basis; normally I can rationalise everything and get through that period unscathed, but I can sort of feel my control slipping - need to hitch it up, like an errant bath towel!

Ah well - Onwards and upwards. 2 x WM loads done today; Lizzie thoroughly enjoyed her walk at sparrowfart this morning (we left yesterday's clothes on the bedroom chair, then threw them back on this morning, walked and fed her, and then ran the daily bath!!)
She's currently spark out on the Doghouse cushions.

pigpen

LW ... but you didn't and you escaped that nasty person and you can help the friend by giving her the same strength you had inside you.. in spite of everything you were going through at the time you got out of there!! You have so much to offer from your experience and I am sure you can get that across eloquently. (((((hugs)))))