Son spends all his time with his boyfriend

Sunseeker90

It's just a completly different set of friends as his friends are all girls and his boyfriends friends are boys.

Sunseeker90

He does spend a lot of time with me and the rest of the family. His boy friend is also with us a lot.

hazyjo

Sunseeker90 wrote: »

It's just a completly different set of friends as his friends are all girls and his boyfriends friends are boys.

Did you expect him to have the same set of friends his whole life? This
thread is getting weirder!

Pollycat

Sunseeker90 wrote: »

He does spend a lot of time with me and the rest of the family. His boy friend is also with us a lot.

I can't see the problem that you seem to think you have with your son.
Really I can't.

Loz01

Thats a young love thing! Its just infatuation and the new concept of being in a "grown up proper" relationship - if he's still spending time with you then I cant see the problem. Be glad he's found someone and is happy.

Detroit

I think it's natural to be concerned at the thought that your son may be in a fairly intense relationship that involves dropping other friends at this age; particularly as this has brought him into contact with a slightly older group of kids.

There may also be worries about how the son will feel if the relationship ends when he's invested all his time into it, at the expense other friendships.

As others have said, there's not a lot that can be done about it, it's part of growing up; and it's a big plus that you know and like the boy and he spends time with you as a family.

You could try encouraging your son to maintain links with his friends, as at 14 they are likely to be around a lot longer than his boyfriend, but no guarantee he'll listen.

Spendless

Is this to do with the age of consent between your son and his boyfriend?

I'd be having a talk with him concerning this, in the same way I would if my 14yo daughter had a 16yo boyfriend.

Other than that, what do you see as the issues between your son and his boyfriend's friends? I know a friend of mine isn't happy about her 15yo hanging around with people who are 17/18. That's due to the lifestyle they are leading though, drinking, smoking, taking drugs rather than their age

Sunseeker90

I'm more than happy my son has a boy friend and I like his boyfriend. I just think he should still see his friends aswell as seeing his boyfriends friends aswell

Pollycat

Sunseeker90 wrote: »

I'm more than happy my son has a boy friend and I like his boyfriend. I just think he should still see his friends aswell as seeing his boyfriends friends aswell

In that case, why not tell him that...

Diamandis

Maybe try encouraging both of them to go out with friends together? If they're regularly at your house then chat about if they're planning on seeing *insert name of friend* soon etc?