Son spends all his time with his boyfriend

Sunseeker90

Hi my son 14 openly gay spends most of his spare time with his boyfriend who is 16. My son used to spend a lot of time with his friends but now he just spends less time with them and spends more time with his boyfriend and his boyfriends friends who all are atleast 2-3 years older than my son.
Should I say something to my son or leave it ???

Comms69

What would you want to say?

Sunseeker90

In 2 minds so don't know what to say

Comms69

I'd suggest this is quite common - young love etc.


Certainly he's at the age that even if you said something, you couldn't stop him meeting up. At present he tells you truthfully where he's going; any discussion you have would not change where he is, just where he tells you he is.

hazyjo

Do/did you spend more time with your partner when you met them?


To make room for a new person, you have to see less of others, surely... Can't imagine they were going out much at 14 anyway.


2-3 years is nothing, even at that age. I was 14 seeing someone of 17. Saw a lot of him. I still have loads of friends (and always have done) and I'm 47.


Not everyone needs lots of friends. He'll strike a balance eventually.

Sunseeker90

He's good and honest and always tells me where he is / what's he is doing. A lot of the time though his boyfriend is just round our house or my sons at his house.

lika_86

Everyone has at some point either ditched their friends for their boyfriend/girlfriend or had a friend who has ditched them.

You learn not to do it (or most people do) when you break up with your boyfriend/girlfriend and realise that your friends have moved on in the meantime or aren't sympathetic. It's a life lesson that you have to leave him to work out on his own.

unholyangel

At that age its common for groups of friends to change. Perhaps he can relate to them better than his old friends?

If your son isn't easily led and the older boys aren't the troublesome sort, I don't see anything to worry about. It could even be good for him if they're the responsible sort.

Pollycat

Sunseeker90 wrote: »

He's good and honest and always tells me where he is / what's he is doing. A lot of the time though his boyfriend is just round our house or my sons at his house.

So what do you see as the problem?

POPPYOSCAR

Sunseeker90 wrote: »

He's good and honest and always tells me where he is / what's he is doing. A lot of the time though his boyfriend is just round our house or my sons at his house.

Do you think they should go out more?

geminilady

Not sure what you think you should say? Everyone who is in a new relationship wants to spend time with their partner and people of both sexes tend to drop friends a bit when they are in a relationship.If you want your son to spend more time with you at home you could ask him to.