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Buying from relative, ex-partner, repossession.
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Tobster86
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A bit of a long and complicated story, and I'm not really sure what to do. I'll try to summaries it into bullet points:
What do I need to do to make this happen?
- I have a close relative who is disabled (for reasons of mental health; "the usual story" if you wish...) and currently receives support for mortgage interest (SMI). I understand this comes to and end in early April.
- There is ~£145k remaining on the small national park cottage that they live in. It's difficult to value the property due to its remote location; I would guess it's worth approximately ~£180k - £250k; with probable disparity between "Valuation" and "What people would be likely to pay".
- I'm a single, mid-level engineer with no other financial commitments or dependents, and could easily afford to assume full ownership of the property (which the relative would like me to do). From my point of view, it provides safe refuge for my relative where I can keep an eye on their health, and convenient accommodation for my obsessive weekend hobby which is located nearby (an aviation sports club). I rent accommodation close to work the rest of the time.
- There has been an ongoing dispute (of about 10 years) with the mortgage lender (a large, faceless bank that's difficult to communicate with), who recommended that my relative added their now-ex-partner during a remortgage; who promptly emptied their joint account, made no further payments towards the mortgage, and is now completely untraceable and estranged.
- It's not possible to transfer ownership of the property with the ex-partner still on the mortgage; and for obvious reasons I can't commit my own finances to the mortgage while this is the case.
- The dispute with the lender has involved the ombudsman on multiple occasions, and created a generally chaotic paper trail. I understand that the ombudsman's last recommendation, from a couple of years ago, was that the lender should "assist in removing the ex-partner from the mortgage" and essentially "leave my relative alone for ten years".
- For reasons I don't understand, despite the SMI, there are about £2000 of arrears on the repayments. I believe this may have been the case for quite some time.
- The lender has just filed for repossession of the property. The hearing is in one month's time. I think there's a very good case to not only retain possession, but force the lender to deal with issues such as the ex-partner (and possible compensation for this) as a matter of priority, but I require legal advice/representation; and have absolutely no idea who I should seek it from and no concept of what it's likely to cost.
What do I need to do to make this happen?
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I require legal advice/representation; and have absolutely no idea who I should seek it from and no concept of what it's likely to cost.
Have you tried getting the legal advice/representation from a solicitor?
With the complications you describe, I think it's probably your only choice.0 -
I was recommended a solicitor who specialised in family law by another relative (a firm who had done a good job of dealing with their divorce); but the repossession order has moved the goal posts somewhat.
I now have three concurrent, but quite significantly different issues:
Averting the repossession.
Removing the ex-partner from the mortgage.
Financial misselling.
I don't know where to find someone who can deal with all of those, or if/how I should break the problem down.0 -
Well, if the bank doss repossess you could buy from them. The issue would then be how they split the equity between your relation and his ex, and your relation could still pursue a complaint or claim against them afterwards.
But yes, it is complex and I think thast speaking to a solicitor is your best bet.
Arrears may have built up as SMI is based on set interest rate, not on the actual interest rate of a particular mortgage, so there may have been periods where the interest payable on the mortgage was higher than the amount of benefit payable. Equally, there may have been gaps in the payments if your relative ever came off benefits or if there were changes in their circumstances affecting what they were entitled to.All posts are my personal opinion, not formal advice Always get proper, professional advice (particularly about anything legal!)0 -
Maybe you could avert the repossession by giving your relative the £2000 to pay off the arrears.
Not sure there's anything you can do about getting the ex off the mortgage.
What do you mean by 'financial misselling' - what do you think has been mis-sold?0 -
Regarding misselling; the lender advised, specifically against my relative's best interest, to add the ex-partner to the mortgage ("While you're in the bank to discuss something else, we can do you a better deal on your mortgage if you do this..."). Not a single full repayment was made from that point, and the joint account was emptied within a month. They've done other things in the time period; including making unauthorised and not-declared-upfront charges for things like "debt advisors" in disputes that have involved the ombudsman, and have generally dealt with the case very poorly.
Regarding solicitors; the problem is finding a good one that is general purpose enough to deal with these problems. I have no concept of how to find this or what to expect it will cost; or even if/how I should attempt to split the issues.0 -
I was recommended a solicitor who specialised in family law by another relative (a firm who had done a good job of dealing with their divorce); but the repossession order has moved the goal posts somewhat.
I now have three concurrent, but quite significantly different issues:
Averting the repossession.
Removing the ex-partner from the mortgage.
Financial misselling.
I don't know where to find someone who can deal with all of those, or if/how I should break the problem down.
I don't see any financial misselling in your first post. As for the arrears, SMI only covers the interest and not necessarily all of it, so that's easily possible.
Just seen your post above, I still don't see that as misselling. Are you saying the partner was ex at the time of the remortgage?It's nothing , not nothink.0 -
The partner was not ex at the time. The relative was very reluctant to add them to the mortgage, but the lender overcame their objections. They were sold a financial product which was not in their interest, as subsequent events proved.
We could debate whether it crosses the same line as, for example, PPI all day. I'm seeking the best way to get a professional legal opinion on the matter, and whether it should be bundled with other issues.0 -
Personally, I think you are going to struggle getting a solicitor to advise/represent you because, basically, apart from the fact that you want to buy the house, it's not really got anything to do with you.
I also don't agree that the Lender mis-sold the remortgage to your relative. They could not possibly have foreseen what the 'ex' would subsequently do anymore than your relative did.
As has already been suggested, I think your best course of action would be to buy the house from the Lender after it's been repossessed. You could then let your relative move back in and live there.0 -
Buying the house from the lender after repossession is an entirely new but interesting card on the table; though on the surface of it sounds risky and troublesome.
I appreciate your suggestion nonetheless. Are you (/other posters) aware of prominent past examples of this happening?0 -
Regarding the misselling though; I have to disagree that it's as clear cut as that. If anything, they had a much greater awareness of the ex's possible subsequent actions having algorithmically analysed the ex's woeful past credit history. My relative did raise their own distrust and scepticism with the lender in this process, but was assured by them that it was the right thing to do.
They sold a bad product, so surely must assume some liability in putting it right? Much in the same way that if my relative was sold a telly that burnt the house down under normal operation, it'd be reasonable to expect the seller/manufacturer to assume some liability.
But as I said, we could debate it all day. Frankly I think that 99% of PPI claims probably have no basis either, but an entire industry of legal professionals seem to have formed a contrary opinion!0
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