Domestic abuse - Need to end tenancy early?

NeilCr

titchiban98 wrote: »

Hi thank you for replying. I’ve tried contacting Women’s aid around 5 times in the past and I never get an answer is there an email address at all? I wouldn’t be homeless my parents would definitely take me in it’s just the bills left to the address where me and my ex are now staying at which I am worried about as I can’t pay them on my own

https://www.womensaid.org.uk/about-us/contact/

Comms69

titchiban98 wrote: »

The entire house is filled with my things all the furniture is mine and he’s said to me if I do anything like that he’ll smash my things up.
I wish it was all as easy as you’re making it out to be but it’s really not.

It’s just stuff. Take what you need. The rest you’ll replace one day

jayII

titchiban98 wrote: »

The entire house is filled with my things all the furniture is mine and he’s said to me if I do anything like that he’ll smash my things up.
I wish it was all as easy as you’re making it out to be but it’s really not.

It definitely isn't easy and leaving is harder still, but nothing is more important than yours and your baby's safety.

Your belongings seem important, but they really can be replaced, however long it takes. People (you and your baby) are irreplaceable.

BorisThomson

titchiban, I'm sorry that some are trying to disrupt your thread, thankfully they're outweighed and by the many that are offering help and support. If the disruption does get too much, can I suggest you post on the mumsnet forum for emotional support? There are many that have been in similar situations there, and they'll give you a hand hold for as long as you need it. They also have a moderation team that will quickly zap anyone that isn't being helpful to you.

Here's a link if it would be helpful.

(I wouldn't normally encourage posters to go to another forum, but would rather they get the help they need, rather than having to endure a certain poster's petty games.)

titchiban98

I stayed at my friends house last night and now it’s finally hitting him I’m going to leave he’s guilt tripping me and saying he will be homeless if I don’t stay as now apparently moving in with his mum and dad isn’t an option any more.

titchiban98

Thank you all for your help I!!!8217;m overwhelmed by the amount of advice I!!!8217;ve had I didn!!!8217;t even expect to get one reply so thank you so much. I!!!8217;ve joined mumsnet and they!!!8217;re giving me lots of helpful advice so thanks for that pointer. I didn!!!8217;t mean to cause arguments I really appreciate all your points of view. Thanks again I know which steps I!!!8217;ll take from here now

titchiban98

Im new to this site so I dont have a clue why on some of my replies there are random numbers and exclamation marks in between my words !! Sorry guys

fairy_lights

titchiban98 wrote: »

I stayed at my friends house last night and now it’s finally hitting him I’m going to leave he’s guilt tripping me and saying he will be homeless if I don’t stay as now apparently moving in with his mum and dad isn’t an option any more.

Whatever you do, don't let him sweet talk you in to going back.

When_the_going_gets_tough

Hi titchiban the weird numbers are just a temporary glitch on the site. Dont worry. I think everyone wants to see you and your unborn baby safe first and foremost. Financial matters really can be sorted afterwards. Please do not stay where you are in danger. Every good wish for your future.

l0islane

I’m sorry you’ve struggled getting through to Women’s Aid, unfortunately they are very busy, they normally give the option to leave a voicemail message and try to call you back the same day. Alternatively there may be a local domestic abuse organisation that can offer you support, they will often have drop in sessions where you can go and speak to someone. Your ex-partner’s behaviour may change if he realises he can’t persuade you to return, although you aren’t currently at the house, try and think about whether he can find you if he wants to – does he know where your friend lives? Does he know your daily routine? Could he have installed a location monitoring app on your phone? etc. These might seem like extreme things to consider but the behaviour of an abusive person is very unpredictable after the breakdown of a relationship and can escalate quickly. I cannot predict future behaviour but if you have to remain in contact because of your child sadly it is unlikely that the abuse will end with the end of the relationship, please do seek professional advice and support for the journey ahead. It takes a lot of strength to make the decision to end an abusive relationship but in the long run it will mean a safer and happier life for both you and your child !!!61514;