Money Moral Dilemma: Should we reimburse our guest's train tickets?

jgriggle

As with most of these dilemmas, you should offer, she should refuse.

h15t0r1an

Why do you even need to ask. The decent thing is to offer to cover all the person's costs and mean it. You should assume particularly elderly people can't afford it and offer firmly at least three timed to pay and mean it.

Leeward

You invited the friend, you cancelled knowing the friend had already paid for travel and you're unsure if you should cover your friend's losses?

Really??

If you were my friend and felt you had to even ask the question, any 'friendship' wouldn't last very long.

Pay up you tight arsed git.

lookstraightahead

I would definitely offer, but I would also half expect the recipient to decline. We all let each other down for all kinds of reasons. I took a day’s holiday recently to take a friend to hospital and the appointment was rescheduled. I didn’t expect my friend to pay me a day’s salary.

purepatsy

Why don't you offer to pay for a ticket on their next visit.

crmism

Assuming health has been restored and your friend still wants to visit, why not offer to pay her fare second time round?

After all, neither you nor she would want to be in a position where you have to cancel the visit again owing to another illness.

tyllwyd

I travelled long distance recently, and a lot of seats are reserved in advance (the majority on some services). So, especially for an elderly person travelling with luggage, it is important for them to be able to book tickets and seats in advance, not a luxury or a money saving trick. I agree, if you were the ones to cancel, you should offer at least some gesture towards the cancelled tickets.

DigForVictory

You changed plans on her, you pay (or offer to) immediately. And consider how best to make up the inconvenience/plans changed to her.

haras_nosirrah

I am well known for being a money saver aka tight. Even I say get your wallet out

Relative booked in good faith, you cancelled, you pay a refund or assist in getting tickets changed and pay cost to do so or pay for their next ticket - they shouldn't pay twice

Patricia01

I'd at least offer, since it's not her fault you've had to cancel the visit.