KonMari 2018 - The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up

Siebrie

Warning: rant ahead!

We are back from vacation, two days early, bacause dds no longer wanted to stay and husband agreed with them. I feel a failure The campsite was nice, clean, had a swimming pool and a shallow river. The only nuisance was that there were no walks from the campsite, you always had to take the car to go somewhere; and that the friends they had made had all left already.

The first week, it was just me and dds, then on Monday husband joined us. He kept saying 'this is your and dds vacation, just plan things and I will join', which annoyed me no end.

I agreed to us returning early on the condition that the weekend would still be spent as a family, no friends or other obligations. Husband agreed to it several times, so I was surprised when yesterday an acquaintance showed up end they went to get take away and took three hours to return; then this morning, when I said we were going for a long walk somewhere nice, husband took forever to get ready, then complained it was too far away, then wanted to cut the walk in half (I couldn't, it was a loop), because he had organised a meeting with several people at 3pm, where he wil stay for dinner!

I am now seriously rethinking my marriage to this man, who will lie and manipulate, and consistently chooses friends over his wife and dds.

Sayschezza

Very unfair and the dd'S pick up on that I expect.

Karmacat

Sorry to hear that, Siebrie. It does all sound very rocky

maddiemay

Siebrie such a shame that all your efforts to have a good family life and a well organised and pleasant home are not appreciated.

Is OH's attitude personal to him or part of his culture?

You are not a failure!!! That is attributable to your OH and not you.

silvasava

So unfair on you and the DD's Seibrie and disappointing after all your careful preparation. Do hope you can get through this one way or another. Hugs.

PollyWollyDoodle

That's very unfair - family time should be kept as that, but he clearly wasn't prepared to commit to it. Sorry to hear it.

daisy_1571

Siebre sorry to read that, there are times when you write about ur home life that I can hear the frustration pour from you - it does seem as if you both have quite different attitudes in quite a lot of areas. I tend to feel lots of relationships can withstand differences over the large areas of life - politics, religion etc - it's the smaller areas that can seem never ending, who tidies up what, attitudes to tidiness/timekeeping/money/rules for children etc and sometimes these are the sorts of issues you have. Hopefully ranting on here helps clear your head but only you know if it's worthwhile for the long term. As chezza says the kids are bound to pick up on it. Agree with maddiemay as well, this is definitely not your failure so dont you dare think that way .


As regards me - got a supermarket bag and a box of stuff for the cs of stuff that was essentially just lying about cluttering the place up and had ceased to bring joy :T also a pair of irregular choice shoes that I adore but have worn twice and they just are not comfy for my feet. Heels and soles aren't even marked so why should I keep them endlessly not wearing them ? They deserve to be out and about getting admired. Will pop them on eBay sometime soon. ([Removed])

Daisy xx

silvasava

Afternoon All - need your advice on a small matter. I have a nice plastic tablecloth that my puss took a liking to and nibbled the edges. I've got a new one but has anyone a good idea for using the old one? Maybe cut up for something? Seems a waste to bin it but don't want to keep it for Justin
I've also has a couple of diffusers that have glass beads in the bottom of the jar - the beads could be used for plants maybe - or do I just recycle them?

Elona_2

silva

Could you use it for picnics? You could sew cord around a hem sewn round the edges that can be drawn together into a bag and used for picnic plates, mugs etc. and when empty it could be something to sit on by the grass, beach etc.

You could also use it as a play mat that is wipeable and then can store small toys in it and tie up the ends.

iamsalt

silvasava wrote: »

Afternoon All - need your advice on a small matter. I have a nice plastic tablecloth that my puss took a liking to and nibbled the edges. I've got a new one but has anyone a good idea for using the old one? Maybe cut up for something? Seems a waste to bin it but don't want to keep it for Justin
I've also has a couple of diffusers that have glass beads in the bottom of the jar - the beads could be used for plants maybe - or do I just recycle them?

Delurking with a suggestion.

I have made garden kneeler pads from them with old pillows as the middle - that's the table cloth not the beads.