Separation - Who gets Tax Credits and Child Benefits

CurlySue2017

jax0410 wrote: »

He seems a very childish person, uprooting your kids and moving them away from their mother just so he can get a house and scrounge benefits so he can sit on his backside all day - you mean be a stay at home parent all day, looking after and bringing up your children which millions of WOMEN do every day and get highly praised for - but a MAN is "sitting on his backside"?
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you may work through the day but you do that in order to provide financial support for your family and you have reliable childcare options in place. A court will not favour an unemployed, homeless father over the kids mother. I think you need to tell him to get a grip and talk to you when he grows up a bit - Really? switch this around for a minute in your head. Many millions of MEN go out to work all day to provide for the WOMEN (who sit on their backsides all day, right?) and children of the house. Please tell me what the difference is between the two, apart from the sections that are capitalised.

The answer is none. No difference at all.

Apart from one is FEMALE one is MALE.

Equality at it's best again LOL

Jayestan08

jax0410 wrote: »

If you read the post further up, he’s actually said that he doesn’t want to get a job until the kids are at school because he’ll be able to claim benefits and get a council house. That to me is poor behaviour and very childish - whether by a man or a woman! My advice is to speak to citizens advice or a lawyer.

I might try citizens advice, and see what they say. I'm not the biggest fan of lawyers. Thank you very much

xylophone

Plus if he doesn't get the benefits he'll have to get a job which ruins his plans of being given a house.

My heart bleeds for him......

jax0410

Again, read the posters comments - he doesn’t want to get a job and has said that he wants to take the kids so he’ll get a council house...if that’s not scrounging then I don’t know what is! It has nothing to do with him being a man - if the roles were reversed and it was the mum who was taking the kids away from their home just to get a council house, my opinion would be the same!

Jayestan08

CurlySue2017 wrote: »

The answer is none. No difference at all.

Apart from one is FEMALE one is MALE.

Equality at it's best again LOL

I agree, that is what I said from the beginning. We have had this argument many times.
At first, he was proud of it, but now his attitude towards being a stay-at-home dad has completely changed. And yet he wants to leave with the children full time. It doesn't make any sense...

FBaby

So he is the SAHP whilst you work but your eldest is at nursery 3 days and youngest one day? Fair enough for the oldest but why is the youngest at nursery? What does he do when you are paying for the baby to be in nursery?

NYM

Whatever the situation is between you and your partner, the children must come first. Shared care would probably be the ideal solution so compromises need to be made.

If you are the one that receives the CB/TC, has your partner been missing out on his NI Credits?

Jayestan08

FBaby wrote: »

So he is the SAHP whilst you work but your eldest is at nursery 3 days and youngest one day? Fair enough for the oldest but why is the youngest at nursery? What does he do when you are paying for the baby to be in nursery?

The idea was meant to be that he had some time to himself because he was struggling with the children full time. I might have to take him out though because it's putting a bit of strain on me financially.

Jayestan08

NYM wrote: »

Whatever the situation is between you and your partner, the children must come first. Shared care would probably be the ideal solution so compromises need to be made.

If you are the one that receives the CB/TC, has your partner been missing out on his NI Credits?

I want to put something in place for shared care. That's my ideal solution. However he's being a bit stubborn.
I'm afraid I don't know what NI Credits are sorry. If it's related to unemployment, then I haven't looked into anything like that as I don't know how it all works.

FBaby

The idea was meant to be that he had some time to himself because he was struggling with the children full time.

So doesn't want to work and struggling with two children despite you being very supportive with help, so that he needs a day for himself... and you've been fine with that?

If you have shared care, you can both claim for one child.