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seven-day-weekend

lessonlearned wrote: »

SDW. Don't beat yourself up......it definitely wasn't your fault you missed it. The signs aren't easy to spot. .Dyscalculia is still not really understood very well at the moment, although it is said to affect about 5 percent of the population. Still lots of research going on, mainly in the US. I didn't realise I had it myself, I just went along with everyone's assertion that I was "hopeless at maths".

It was only when we took our son to the dyslexia institute and they started asking questions that they explained that I had it. I was well into my 40s by then.

I tried to get my GCE (as it was then) three times and failed every time. After that I admitted defeat. Still it's never done me any real harm. I had a good well paid career which I loved and my husband and I owned a couple of successful businesses. I went to university as a mature student when I was 40. It didn't really hold me back. I was always more drawn to the arts and humanities so I found my niche.

I believe everyone has their own unique skills and talents, I think it's just a question of finding out what and then encouraging that ability.

My sons dispraxia was quite pronounced, he was very clumsy and couldn't cope with school sports but he could strip down any machine and rebuild it and he always had a precocious ability with technology. He could programme a VCR at the age of 4. He was building computers in his teens and He is now the family's go to tech support guy. :rotfl: I was even able to employ him in my business as our tech guy whilst he was still at school.

We encouraged his love of photography and suggested he try learning to play guitar and that was it. He was off. He went from being a slightly sullen loner who couldn't seem to make friends to suddenly being the cool guitar guy who was an ace with a camera. We had a constant stream of girls knocking at our door. . All joking apart It transformed him and gave him a much needed confidence boost. He finally learned to relax and now he is perceived as this cool friendly guy.

He went on to get good GCSEs and A levels and then university. (Much to my surprise) however for many years school was a real trial for him. It was very frustrating. We knew he was smart but he was getting to the stage where he hated school and was starting to become disruptive. At one stage I even asked him if he would prefer to be home schooled. He said no he'd stick it out. It was tough though and I spent a lot of time working with his teachers to try and help him. The school were very good and very understanding and patient. His teachers were very good with him.

He's now a kind, considerate, happy, well adjusted man who loves his mum so I guess I did ok. :rotfl:

Thanks for that lovely post. My son is also a computer wizard, he is ours and several of our friends 'techy guy'.

He basically turned off at school other than for the Sciences and IT (and, in the GCSE years, suddenly discovered a love of English). The amount of parents' evenings I have come back from in tears!

But he too is a nice guy who helps all his friends and his partner who has Aspergers to a far greater extent than he does I'm sure he loves his mum too !

lessonlearned

I bet he does. :rotfl:

My son and his girl are taking me to my favourite restaurant on Wednesday night "just because".

humptydumptybits

We were advised to have DD assessed for dyspraxia when she was quite little, not even 5. We didn't as we didn't like the idea of her having a label so young. What we did was arrange dancing lessons, she had a private 1 to 1 lesson on a Friday and a group lesson on a Saturday. Her teacher was brilliant and on Friday she would learn what they were doing the next day so she could keep up. She also had 1 to 1 swimming lessons. She was reading at 2 and reading music at 4. She passed her first music exams at 4, she got 100% in her theory, she looked so tiny walking into the exam room holding the invigilators hand. I think her brain just raced ahead in some areas and other areas stood still. She ended up as a very good dancer and has quite advanced exams in music and dance.


I don't know how she would have developed if we hadn't done those things, maybe she would have caught up anyway or maybe she would have been very awkward still.

moneyistooshorttomention

lessonlearned wrote: »

Money......whatever we may think of Theresa May as a leader I have to say she is looking absolutely exhausted. She looks completely washed out with huge eye bags and dark circles under eyes.

I wouldn't want her job for all the tea in China.

Talk about poisoned chalice.

I was thinking that as well - ie I noticed the eyebags etc (though I think she's prone to them anyway - but they do look worse).

My idea of a poisoned chalice as well - to wake up and think "Just how many people are lining-up to knife me in the back today then?"

humptydumptybits

Candygirl that is lovely of them, I bet you can't wait to open them. I remember a Christmas when I had a 3 year old and was almost 9 months pregnant, mortgage rates seemed to be going up every month and money was tight. I won the Christmas hamper in the playgroup raffle. I was so excited and it was full of lovely stuff. It really made our Christmas and New Year was quite exciting with the birth of a lovely baby boy.

Wednesday2000

lessonlearned wrote: »

I looked at the two women who were ripping this woman to shreds and yes, you've guessed, they were unkempt, dishevelled, and very overweight. Both of them looked in need of a bath and their hair definitely needed washing. Their clothes were shapeless, dull and looked as if they had seen better days. As for their feet .....well the phrase "pigs trotters" sprang to mind.:eek:

:rotfl: That made me laugh.

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

It was not picked up at school (neither was his Aspergers).

I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and Bipolar when I was in my mid thirties and one of the psychiatrists also thought I had Aspergers. It's apparently not picked up in women as much as they tend to mimic their more sociable female friends and so it goes more under the radar.

That is probably why I like this thread as I'm naturally quite a tomboy and need other women to teach me how to dress well and do makeup etc...:D

lessonlearned wrote: »

Money......whatever we may think of Theresa May as a leader I have to say she is looking absolutely exhausted. She looks completely washed out with huge eye bags and dark circles under eyes.

I wouldn't want her job for all the tea in China.

Talk about poisoned chalice.

God, no. I have grudging respect for her as she is obviously a very strong woman to do that job.

Wednesday2000

candygirl wrote: »

omg my faith in humanity has been restored! A couple of the girls at church, nominated me in the Xmas gift giving, cos they know I've been having a bad time lately!
They gave me a massive gift bag, full of prezzies.Feels so nice to be appreciated ❤

How lovely of them.xxx:A

humptydumptybits

I think it is sad that women spend so much time judging each other, live and let live. Solidarity with the sisters.

silvasava

Mea Culpa - my sitting room has beige carpet and suite ........but beige and charcoal grey striped curtains and red cushions and middle eastern throws with a large charcoal vase with huge red sunflower type flowers and a red cast teapot on the hearth of the woodburner! In the summer I change the accessories to blue
I cant stand beige as a clothing colour though but it doesnt suit me anyway lol

humptydumptybits

silva sounds good to me. Nice idea to have the colour change with the seasons, must be like a whole new room.