bit of a vent, Snide comment on facebook.

easy

happyandcontented wrote: »

I think the real nub of the matter lies in the OP's MIL was alone on Boxing Day when they celebrated Christmas with her new Grandchild.....might she have expected an invite?

Hmm, well given her daughter & grand-daughter spent Christmas day with the Mum, I don't think it's unreasonable that the OP and his wife should have their own day quietly with their baby.


I really wish facebook had never been invented. Altho I recognise the good that it can do, I've seen these publicly vented little niggles cause huge family rows and rifts - in pre-facebook days Mum here would quite likely have seethed quietly for a day or two then got over it.

Red-Squirrel_2

easy wrote: »

Hmm, well given her daughter & grand-daughter spent Christmas day with the Mum, I don't think it's unreasonable that the OP and his wife should have their own day quietly with their baby.


I really wish facebook had never been invented. Altho I recognise the good that it can do, I've seen these publicly vented little niggles cause huge family rows and rifts - in pre-facebook days Mum here would quite likely have seethed quietly for a day or two then got over it.

The key is to only have people on your facebook that you like and that you know don't pull this kind of crap!

getmore4less

AylesburyDuck wrote: »

I'll be honest, why didnt your wife have your back, she was quick enough to defend her mother. I'd be telling my Mother not to be unreasonable, especially if plastered on FB.
I think now she has her own family she has to rethink her prioritys.
Sorry if this answer is unpopular.:(

You have nailed it.

they come from the same mold OP needs to buckle up for a rough ride


Did the wife pass on the thanks from the MIL as son as they got home.

Op could start relaying all communication to the MIL through the wife, "tell your mum...."

happyandcontented

easy wrote: »

Hmm, well given her daughter & grand-daughter spent Christmas day with the Mum, I don't think it's unreasonable that the OP and his wife should have their own day quietly with their baby.


I really wish facebook had never been invented. Altho I recognise the good that it can do, I've seen these publicly vented little niggles cause huge family rows and rifts - in pre-facebook days Mum here would quite likely have seethed quietly for a day or two then got over it.

Nor do I, but the MIL might, hence her bad mood!!;)

Batman2017

Hi,

Thanks for all the responses. My wife was annoyed with me initially as she had reminded twice. I should of sent the message earlier but I certainly didnt expect to 'get shamed' for not sending it the same day. I would of thanked her of course as par for the course.

MIL is just a very negative person who only ever wants to talk about how negative stuff tbh. The BIL is just as bad. I sent him a message too saying thank you hope you had a great day etc etc and all i got back was 'ok'. No thank you to me for his presents or the kids presents.

I could quite happily never ever bother with the pair of them again but you dont choose your in-laws unfortunately.

elsien

getmore4less wrote: »

You have nailed it.

they come from the same mold OP needs to buckle up for a rough ride


Did the wife pass on the thanks from the MIL as son as they got home.

Op could start relaying all communication to the MIL through the wife, "tell your mum...."

That's the last thing the wife needs, especially as a new mum, ping ponging messages back and forth between MIL and husband. I'd be telling both of them that if they've anything to say, say it to each other and leave me out of it. Like being in a flipping playground.

scd3scd4

My children normally ring all my aunts and uncles to say thank you for their presents......normally within a week. They understand and if they don't I don't really care. I stopped worrying about all that and similar poo poo many many years ago.

74jax

Batman2017 wrote: »

Hi,

I should point out that I never received a thank you message from my in laws although when I pointed this out to my wife she said her mum had said to her to say thank you to me.


Thanks for reading

You're wife should have said, when asked to pass on her mums thanks, 'no problem, and hubby asked me to thank you too as he's at work'.

She should have your back, not play games with you.