Feeling Upset After Christmas Present Giving

Februarycat

Today I took a bus carrying 2 big bags of presents for my ds, his gf and my new granddaughter, it was a struggle to carry everything but did not mind. I only work part time so don't earn that much but got them all some lovely presents and my new granddaughter a lovely personalised xmas card and several presents for her. Delivered the presents and stayed for a couple of hours till my bus home.




Was getting my coat on and thought they will give me my card and present soon, as ds had message me a few weeks ago asking for ideas for xmas present for myself, I don't expect anything expensive and thought they might give me a photo of new granddaughter in frame, which would be lovely, but nothing, not even a card. I felt really upset that they had not bothered as I know they will be buying the other gran stuff. I'm also on my own for Xmas Day too, they are not even visiting that's why I had to get the bus to take the presents so they had them for Xmas day.
I know I am probably being over sensitive but it has upset all the way home and this evening and just needed to vent as no one here to talk about it too.

Marvel1

Maybe they are giving it just after Xmas day.

BorisThomson

Maybe they forgot, I did when I saw a friend the other day, will sort it next time.

You are being oversensitive. Relax and focus on something else.

pearl123

There is still time for them to do something. Or perhaps times are tight and they are waiting until the sales.

tesuhoha

It would have to be a really mean person not to give you a thing so maybe they will surprise you. Does your son normally buy you a present? If so then perhaps you will still receive something. Its not too late.

happyandcontented

I expect they did just forget ( to give it to you today) but I do understand why you feel upset. New parents tend to have blinkers on and feel a bit removed from anything else. The fact that he asked you earlier in the year tells me he hasn't just not bought you a present, he forgot to hand it over or maybe he has just not got round to wrapping it or writing your card!! Try not let it spoil your day or the enjoyment of your new Grandchild.

Spendless

Do you usually receive a present from your son and did you before him and his girlfriend got together?

Is it possible, he hasn't thought to go out shopping and his girlfriend has been busy with the baby and not realised you haven't been bought a gift?

iammumtoone

I think you have every right to feel upset but I don't think they have done it on purpose.

Did they ask what you wanted before the baby was born? At this stage they had no idea what was about to hit them!

I image they have just been too occupied with their daughter and either haven't bought anything yet or didn't have it wrapped before you arrived.

I would try to put it to the back of your mind and just carry on as you normally would ie ring them on Christmas morning to wish them a merry Christmas.

maman

Feeling for you as it's obviously hurt and very understandable .:)
I think the most likely explanation is that they're short of money and waiting for next pay day.
Why are you so sure they'll have bought for the other grandma?

sweetilemon

Completely understandable you are upset. I think there is still time but also I do agree, new born baby zone is a difficult thing to do. Did you say you would like anything when asked? Just in case you said "I don't need anything" and he's taken it litrally? If you still don't have a gift by Christmas you could maybe polietly ask for some framed photos? If he usually buys you a gift then I do think there's more too it (like he's forgotten or it dint arrive on time if bought online) xx

LilElvis

I'm surprised that everyone is so ready to "forgive" the son and gf for being so thoughtless simply because they have a baby. How long does it take to place an order with Amazon for a present and Moonpig for a card?

I'm not the most organised person, far from it, but I managed to buy all the family gifts as usual, had all 3 grandparents stay for 3 nights, cook all the meals whilst also dealing with a 4 month old. I'm pretty certain that I'm not the only one who has managed to combine a normal Christmas whilst having a small child, or several, to deal with!