So surprised to be written out of my fathers will

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onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

Some parents don't quite get it on that score, do they? I've heard similar stories before.

I'm fortunate in that regard, my parents have written their wills so that the bulk is split between me and my brother equally, but a separate "pot" of money (from an inheritance that they kept and invested) will be split in half, on half to be shared by the grandchildren (my brother's children) and one half to me. So they actually thought about it and worded it in a way to not disadvantage me for not producing offspring.

I've actually told them repeatedly they should enjoy their money.

AFAIK i think should my parents pass it will be divided equally between the 4 of us. We've grown up together, we're family and my parents have alwas treated us equally.

Personally i'd rather have my parents still with me than inherittence and i'd rather they have enough money to enjoy my dad retirement without worrying about us.

I'm guessing by this pooint i;ve been written out my bio dad's will. We haven;t seen or spoken to each other in 12 years and i doubt he even still think of me as his daughter,, My paternal grandad has just died and i highly doubt my grandparents have left me money, nor would i feel right taking it even if they had.

Pollycat

mrcjevans wrote: »

I got with my now wife a few months after the will was written, he loved her. She would massage him every time we went to see him in his home lol.

So.......have you decided to 'challenge' the will?

Or have your sisters decided to split the proceeds of the house sale with you? (With your inheritance of £10k thrown into the pot to be shared equally too, of course)

Or have you decided to abide by your Father's wishes and leave things as they are?

Siriki

Did your sisters grow up with him and have a different relationship?

Spendless

no1catman wrote: »

I was surprised (and that's putting it mildly) to have my unborn (unconceived) child written out of my Father's will - in the unlikely event that I passed before he did.

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

Could you clarify what you mean by that?

Possibly there's a clause that says 'should no1catman die before me I would like his share to go to x and not any children s/he may have had'.

Depending on the recipient, it might be that no1catman's father felt that the money should go to that person rather than a Grandchild, as it would be upto no1catman to leave something to their child/ren.

no1catman

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

Could you clarify what you mean by that?

The bulk of the estate was to be shared between me and my two siblings. In the event of my death before my Father - any 'issue' of mine would not have a claim i.e. siblings and their 'issue' get more.

Whether such a clause was my Father's idea or someone else's suggestion I don't know!! Incidentally the Will wasn't via a solicitor.

To say the least - I was/am not happy.

Pollycat

no1catman wrote: »

The bulk of the estate was to be shared between me and my two siblings. In the event of my death before my Father - any 'issue' of mine would not have a claim i.e. siblings and their 'issue' get more.

Whether such a clause was my Father's idea or someone else's suggestion I don't know!! Incidentally the Will wasn't via a solicitor.

To say the least - I was/am not happy.

But it is your Father's money to do with as he wishes.

Actually, someone we know has put something similar in their will.
Split between 3 siblings, if one sibling dies before our friend, their share goes to the other siblings i.e. nothing to the children of the deceased sibling.
Knowing the love and affection they have for the grandchildren, I'm sure this isn't what they intended but when we tried to talk about it, we were met with a stone wall.

It does sound odd that your Father would not include your children in the will if he has included your siblings children e.g. if one of your siblings dies before your Father do their children get their parent's share?

Did your siblings already have children when your Father made his will?

Maybe he's changed his will since then.

no1catman

Both siblings have adult children, I on the other hand do not have any! Remember saying to my Father that we had no intention of having any, probably too old anyway, but I can't remember if that was before or after the new will.

It could have been a safety feature just in case of any 'wild oats' but then why not say so!?

KxMx

I've come across similar to Pollycat.

A is mother to B.
Nana to C & D.

She feels her "responsibility" only extends to her child, B.

Following her logic she feels B is "responsible" for C&D thus doesn't make provision in will for them as she has done for B.

Nothing to do with not loving C&D.

moneyistooshorttomention

Sounds very logical and absolutely correct to me - C and D arent her children. B is her "child".

Anything B leaves (whether originally hers or passed onto her by A) will presumably pass on down to C and D eventually.

Also looked at logically - if B found some of the inheritance went straight past her nose (even though it was to her own children) then that sounds like something B would struggle to accept if she needed the money herself. Not a recipe for family harmony to have a mother looking at her own children asking herself why this had happened if so. It could end up in the ludicrous situation that B was struggling to pay her mortgage/pay off debts/cover the food costs (a situation that would affect her children) - whilst her own children were out there buying luxuries for themselves.

Pollycat

no1catman wrote: »

Both siblings have adult children, I on the other hand do not have any! Remember saying to my Father that we had no intention of having any, probably too old anyway, but I can't remember if that was before or after the new will.

It could have been a safety feature just in case of any 'wild oats' but then why not say so!?

I'm really confused why you say this:

no1catman wrote: »

To say the least - I was/am not happy.

when you don't have any children for your Father to include in his will.
And if you made your Father aware that you had no intention of having children, that's possibly why he wrote his will as he did.

What would you have expected to happen to your share if you died before your Father?
It can't be shared between non-existent children.