Rent from g/f's daughter

Darksparkle

xylophone wrote: »

Posts 6 and 7



The girlfriend's contribution seems limited to paying for SKY, half the groceries and doing the chores? (post 10).

And I did say "appears".........

It’s the daughter that gets benefits. That answer was in response to Comms asking how the OP expected the daughter to pay “rent”.

Darksparkle

Mojisola wrote: »

Doesn't sound that way.

If she was paying keep, she'd be giving the money to her mother to help with the household bills, not paying mother's BF.

If the mother is claiming any means tested benefits as a single person, her position is quite risky.

Why would it need to go to her mother? The money would go towards to running of the household, that includes the mortgage and household bills so doesn’t really matter if it goes to him or her.

Comms69

Darksparkle wrote: »

Why would it need to go to her mother? The money would go towards to running of the household, that includes the mortgage and household bills so doesn’t really matter if it goes to him or her.

So 'not quite step dad' should pay off his mortgage using the money the state provides to a disabled person.


Yep, I guess morals really do differ greatly.

xylophone

It’s the daughter that gets benefits.

Then I have become confused between mother and daughter.

But my answer to whether the daughter should contribute remains the same.

If she is still in education and the OP has been content thus far with her mother's contribution to the household, I don't see why he expects any more now.

If the daughter has left education and is in receipt of adult benefits, then she should make a contribution if the OP requires it.

Darksparkle

Comms69 wrote: »

So 'not quite step dad' should pay off his mortgage using the money the state provides to a disabled person.


Yep, I guess morals really do differ greatly.

The mortgage he’s paying that keeps a roof over their head? They benefit from him paying that mortgage as well as other household bills.

Do you also think his earnings shouldn’t go towards any of her needs?

Comms69

Darksparkle wrote: »

The mortgage he’s paying that keeps a roof over their head? They benefit from him paying that mortgage as well as other household bills.

Do you also think his earnings shouldn’t go towards any of her needs?

As long as he's happy to give her part ownership of the property I say go for it.


If not I'd say he's ripping off the state and the disabled girl.

Darksparkle

Comms69 wrote: »

As long as he's happy to give her part ownership of the property I say go for it.


If not I'd say he's ripping off the state and the disabled girl.

So should the same apply if that’s his own child? Dig money from his kid = part ownership?

As a late teen and paying dig money to my stepdad should he have given me part ownership in his home? Of course not, it’s money for my keep! For the food I ate, gas & elec I used etc

Assuming she’s on adult benefits eg ESA, the purpose of them will be for her to pay for living expenses. Being disabled doesn’t stop you paying your way and using the benefits for such is hardly ripping off the state.

Comms69

Darksparkle wrote: »

So should the same apply if that’s his own child? Dig money from his kid = part ownership?

As a late teen and paying dig money to my stepdad should he have given me part ownership in his home? Of course not, it’s money for my keep! For the food I ate, gas & elec I used etc - That's not 'rent'

Assuming she’s on adult benefits eg ESA, the purpose of them will be for her to pay for living expenses. Being disabled doesn’t stop you paying your way and using the benefits for such is hardly ripping off the state.

Opinions obviously vary

LateStarter

I didn't expect quite the reaction I've had when I posted this, and I did have to take a deep breath before posting again, but here goes.

My partner does not claim any benefits, either for herself, or as a carer. She works part time at a low paid job, because she wants to work. Since moving in with me, for the first time she is able to spend this money mostly on herself, on the occasional hairdo and day out, things she never had as a single mother.

The daughter is out of education, and has an income - that it comes from benefits seems of special significance to some, and I am being acused of trying to steal from the taxpayer.

I was raised to work, and have always paid my way; when I lived at home I gave money to my parents. My adult son give 25% of his earnings to his mother (my ex-wife); in my family we've always used rent to mean room and board. There are expenses in having a 3rd adult in the house - and the reality is this is an adult who is not related to me. I'm actually starting to think this should now be a formal arrangement - maybe a lodger agreement. This thread has helped clear my head, so I'll be talking to g/f about it.

There, some of you can start telling me again what a horrible human being I am.

LS

Mojisola

LateStarter wrote: »

I'm actually starting to think this should now be a formal arrangement - maybe a lodger agreement.

The landlord has to live in the same house to have a lodger otherwise the person paying you money becomes a tenant with all the rights associated with that.