Money Moral Dilemma: How can I stop my friend 'forgetting' to buy rounds?

surfsister

easy when you get together agree with the group it is their turn first round and all buy the dearest drink you can think of e.g. champagne should sort them out!!

or just buy your own as we do

takman

Like others on here I agree buying rounds and expecting everyone in a group to get a round in will never work and be "fair" for everyone.

My advice would be to buy your own drinks and if your buying other people drinks never expect one back then you will never feel hard done by.

Ebenezer_Screwj

I never buy rounds, I always "fly solo". The reason for this is that people drink at different speeds and some drinks are more expensive than others. If you continue to drink in rounds you should remind your friend that it's about time he bought a round, or miss him out when you get them in.

Voyager2002

Why is this fascinating discussion on the travel forum?

lovetobop

Since you have one friend who won't commit to a kitty and another who 'forgets' to buy their round, I would suggest:
1. you holiday with more generous friends or
2. Everyone buys their own drinks!!
SIMPLES!!:beer:

Pollycat

Voyager2002 wrote: »

Why is this fascinating discussion on the travel forum?

I thought the same.

I guess it's because the person with the MMD is going to Germany but buying rounds is a discussion that applies to any group get-together, regardless of which country you're in.
In fact, it's a subject that's been discussed before on the 'Marriages' board.

maman

Voyager2002 wrote: »

Why is this fascinating discussion on the travel forum?

I've heavily underlined the irony.;)

Pollycat wrote: »

I thought the same.

I guess it's because the person with the MMD is going to Germany but buying rounds is a discussion that applies to any group get-together, regardless of which country you're in.
In fact, it's a subject that's been discussed before on the 'Marriages' board.

It's typical of the conjured up threads from mse. Pointless, because the OP doesn't respond. It reminds me of those Agony Aunt columns where they make up the readers' letters or the silly trolls who start threads and the never return.

happyinflorida

Someone who continuously "forgets"it is their turn to buy a round would not be my friend!

I suggest you talk to everyone about this, bring it up - say you're not happy about it - in front of the person. It will be interesting to see what everyone else says. They may not be bothered or they may also be getting fed up with it.

I would make it a joke in future, say it's your round unless you want to forget of course!

Don't let them get away with forgetting. Keep reminding them and refuse to buy another round until they've bought a round or change to just buying your own.

Might also be worth finding out if they're struggling financially and too embarrassed to say anything.

happyinflorida

maman wrote: »

I've heavily underlined the irony.;)






It's typical of the conjured up threads from mse. Pointless, because the OP doesn't respond. It reminds me of those Agony Aunt columns where they make up the readers' letters or the silly trolls who start threads and the never return.

Just for your information, they are not conjured up threads - I put one in and it was put up for discussion.

octomancer

I've been confounded by this problem all my life. It's tedious and difficult to keep track of communal spending down to the last penny and it becomes more and more untenable the more you drink. So I started to look at long term averages. I then noticed that the inevitable inaccuracies and rounding errors always worked in the favour of certain people. I eventually decided that this was no accident. I've cut such people out of my life (as others have suggested on this thread) and I don't regret it. In my experience this type of person will also engage in other sharp practices to wheedle advantage where they can and I don't want to live a life where I have to defend myself against such things. IMO the financial "industry" is composed almost entirely of such people and look what they've done to us ;-)

I also think that there are some quotes missing in the question ... either you have to quote both "friend" and "forgetting" or quote neither ;-)