Money Moral Dilemma: How can I stop my friend 'forgetting' to buy rounds?

meknowalot-51

With the person who "forgets"you can remind them,or better still get them to buy the first round.Personally i buy my own if there's more than two of us.In large groups you always get some that drink faster than others,which is why "rounds" and "kitty's" never work.I learned the hard way many years ago,i'm a slow drinker so always lost out on both of these.The easiest and most sensible solution is to buy your own,that way your drinking at your pace which means "your" in control and no one else.

crmism

I know how you feel.

Unless everyone in the group pitches in, it most definitely isn't fair. Mind you, unless the drinks are all the same each round, it's never fair anyway. If one member is ordering a large Scotch and the others are having lagers, guess who's on the make? Having said that, I avoided kittys and bought my own drink as I never liked those social gatherings anyway. I reckon they're favoured only by those who use the system to get cheaper drinks for themselves.

How about everyone paying for their own drinks? There's nothing unfair about that. If you know the cost of them and who's had what, you can tally the figures at the end and get the money off them - including the cheapskate. It's often what happens at restaurants post-meal, and nobody objects to it there.

glentoran99

simple, you be a grown up and say "Right Joe, your round I'm gasping here"

Mojisola

Mdg wrote: »

In another group (boating trips) we have lightweights, ‘par’ and heavy drinkers. Here, we all put £20 in the kitty then buy rounds, each adding further £20 as the kitty runs down. If we all have a beer, nothing is written down.

If someone has a half or skips a round, they get a credit.

If someone has another beer between rounds, they get marked as an ‘extra’.

At the end of the trip we divide any remaining cash balance after adjusting for extras (putting more £ in) and credits (more cash out).

A simple spreadsheet keeps track.

PasturesNew wrote: »

Buy your own drinks. That way everybody can drink what/when they want

A spreadsheet! I'm with PasturesNew - everyone buys themselves a drink when they want one.

Pollycat

Mojisola wrote: »

A spreadsheet! I'm with PasturesNew - everyone buys themselves a drink when they want one.

Me too.

I read Mdg's account of how drinks are sorted out on boating trips and thought 'What a faff that sounds!'

Bellisima

None of my friends have been that mean, quite the opposite actually, but I do know of a person within the family who never puts his hands in his pocket EVER! He’s not a close relative and I’ve never witnessed this, but boy does everyone tell me about how mean T is! Even when “taken” out for a meal, he pays nothing, just lets everyone else pay. They’re all too embarrassed to say anything........how odd! If they’re not prepared to challenge him, then please don’t whinge about it. Same with this issue, tell him to stop being so mean!

Gigervamp

Oh Mdg, why make it overly complicated? Just buy your own drinks!

sashapet_02

Download the Splitwise app, it's fantastic for trips with friends. Whenever anyone spends anything, they log it on the app and selects whether to split it equally or not and at the end of the trip it calculates who owes who what. Seriously, it's amazing.

NigeWick

Your friend may not have as much money as the rest of you. If that is the case, cut them a bit of slack. If not, tell them it's their round as soon as it is their round.

tain

NigeWick wrote: »

Your friend may not have as much money as the rest of you. If that is the case, cut them a bit of slack. If not, tell them it's their round as soon as it is their round.

Disagree with cutting them some slack. You should never accept a drink within a round if you know you can't afford to return it. It's really easy to say 'I've not got the quids so I'll get my own', which is usually responded to by them saying not to worry they'll still get them a drink. Then there is no ill feelings when the drink isn't returned.