Money Moral Dilemma: Should my husband contribute more to our finances?

Scorpio33

batrachophagus wrote: »

The opposite. If you split everything 50/50 then any pay increase is 100% 'yours'.

Sorry, yes you are right.

I was going from the perspective that everything is split 50/50, not just bills.

alittlemadam

Myself and my husband each have our own bank accounts and also a joint account which we each pay the same amount into on a monthly basis.


Out of the joint account comes mortgage, bills and anything that we need for the house ie renovations, replacement of homewares etc. Holidays we pay half each and this is paid from our own accounts and also car insurance, MOT, Petrol etc.


When we go for meals out, nights out to the pub, cinema we still always put half each its something we did when we first met and its just something that's carried on


I earn more than my husband and have often said Ill pay a bit more but him being old fashioned wont hear any of it, so now I don't even ask. Its not that we don't trust each other or hide anything that we do buy, but I certainly don't expect a man to pay for me

ViolaLass

Scorpio33 wrote: »

The other aspect is that if you did split everything 50/50, there would be little incentive for anyone to strive to earn more, as they would not be getting much benefit from earning more.

Not so. The partnership, of which you are a member, benefits.

Solomon200

I am over 70yrs and have been married over 44yrs. We have always pooled all earnings, paid the bills and then decided via discussion and agreement on savings and additional spending. This method makes for happy, solvent families.
However, for those adamantly opposed to this method, perhaps the fairest way to proceed is to contribute to the family pot on a % basis ie. 50% of £60,000 p/a income -contribution £30,000 p/yr., 50% £20,000 p/a income-contribution £10,000 p/yr. ( obviously you would choose the % to apply but this method is the fairest way to share the cost of living).

Wizzbang

This sounds like a really healthy marriage! 0_0

ex3402hux

Whose house is it Answer Ours
Whose baby is it Answer Ours
Whose bills are they Answer Ours
Whose food is it Answer Ours
Whose money is it Answer MINE

Spot the odd one out

Kim_13

I'm another one in the more proportional split of the bills camp, but at the very least the husband should pay this charge in its entirety. With bills split 50/50, it doesn't sound as though the wife is benefiting from his higher income at all. If she is to be doing the bulk of the childcare over the next few years, then she can't focus on advancing her own career either. If they are going to pay for childcare 50/50 then it doesn't sound as though she will have much left for 'pocket money.'

I've never known a poster pop up and say that this is their MMD, but there's every possibility that this is a reader's true circumstances. There is a link in the weekly email to suggest an MMD and presumably people are more likely to suggest something that has cropped up in their lives.

Mojisola

MSE_Sarah wrote: »

My husband and I have always split bills 50/50 and pay them from a joint account, despite him earning three times as much as me.

Is he this selfish in other areas of your life?

olliedog

We have been married over 40 years. We took out a joint account when we first married and everything goes into into it and everything is paid out of it. There is no mine or yours it has always been all ours.

Retro_Bunny

The only thing that should be split equally is a husband and wife's love for each other (and their children).
Everything else is just stuff, including money.