I think they should just use facebook to recruit people

xapprenticex

Besides saying sorry to everyone regarding the homosexual thing and then bringing religion into it, have you actually taken ANY advice given thus far?

chubsta

I have one fb 'friend', which is my other half because an app I use for running auto-posts to it and she can see how well I have done. fb seems a big thing where I work, people are always talking about it but no-one cares that I am not on it, I have had loads of friends requests but have just told them I don't 'do' facebook and it is left at that.

I also don't tend to socialise as there is a real drinking culture and I don't drink, but again, that isn't a problem for anyone and it is fun to hear the tales of what went on.

My experience is that you don't have to be like everyone else or share the same interests to get on with people, as a poster has said above you just have to be a decent person, and as long as you can hold a conversation - and that is a 'conversation', not a one way rant about yourself - then that is usually enough to have a nice time in a work environment. I work with a particular bloke who is very reserved, is 50 years old and has always lived with his mum, has only ever had one girlfriend for a couple of months, and has a hobby which makes transpotting seem like the height of excitement. Without trying to be insulting to anyone, even though he isn't religious he certainly dresses like he is, in fact I think he dressed like a pensioner when he was a teenager. So, exactly the sort of person who you would imagine wouldn't fit in at all in a very 'macho', high-stress environment. And yet he is very well liked and respected purely because his 'weirdness' is just him, his idiosyncrasies are what makes him the person he is, he is subject to the usual workplace banter but then we all are.

So, the point of my post is that fb isn't important, and that different personality types are actually important to a decent workplace, it would certainly be boring if everyone had to be the same - so stop focussing on apparent problems because you feel different and start becoming part of a diverse workplace.

stuartJo1989

dac123 wrote: »

I'm a 30 year old man unemployed, no friends, no girlfried or kids. Im fine and not depressed, accepting of my fate.

"fate"? Such a defeatist attitude...

I am also NOT homosexual, I would Know if im attracted to blokes, which I'm NOT. I am a straight hetrosexual male.
I would know this myself even if women don't like me. (The reason I included this is because people instantly think shy guy and lonely must somehow=gay which im not). No thankyou homosexuals.

Errm ok... The only bad people are the ones who CALL YOU gay, not the actual gay people who may either:

1. Simply be living their lives

2. Trying it on with you (take it as a compliment and politely decline)

Most of my teens were lonely as fcuk and people thought I was creepy as fcuk during my teens for reasons that I don't know, maybe a bit more quiet than most people.

And you were a teenager 11 years ago. Get over it. Also, how do you think GAY people felt when they were teenagers? Probably the same as you.

I spent most of my early and late twenties doing shiiite jobs and nothing much else. Got fired a good few times when most social people were enjoying the new facebook magical social wonder tool of the 21st century.

Why hate on Facebook? You were probably having a much more interesting life going out and earning a living, even if it involved delivering pizzas or getting fired from jobs (that's not good mind you). Live and let live. Facebook isn't all as great as it seems...

Nowdays I do not even have any friends to go to a bar or clubs to meet people. I do not have any friends on facebook at all.

Go and make some friends then.

To even meet people in a street or wherever you are nowdays. The first thing they do is Facebook check you to find out who you are and because I don't know anyone they just go quiet to themselves and well...............find me creepy as fccuk and the cycle continues. The cycle continues and continues.

Break the cycle then. Go and find a hobby, connect with people due to mutual interest and develop your people skills. Maybe also pick a new sociable job (if you are still knocking around the dead end job market) such as call center work.

A catch 2:2, they see my facebook with nobody on it.
Nothing and because I don't know anyone I can't add them.
I've nobody on it which means I can get added by people or meet people. The cycle continues and continues like this for years.

Why so obsessed with Facebook? You're 30, not 20. If you don't have Facebook then most people of your age won't be bothered.

I live on my own with nobody. The only people that know I exist, is me.
The guy who feel out of the sky.

And your family? And your work colleagues? And your local shop keeper? And your local barber? And your old school people? etc etc.

I quit jobs because people now don't know what to make of somebody with no facebook or anything. Creeped to fccuk out co-workers think who the hell is that guy. They look in their phone and mumble or shrug that they don't know.

"Hi I'm dac123, how's it going?" is a phrase which wouldn't be particularly creepy.... Plus, it gives you the opportunity to connect with people OUTSIDE OF FACEBOOK.

I got isolated at work and then quit jobs, the end of my employment.

Not surprised tbh.... You previously stated that you were delivering pizzas... I can 1000% imagine how lonely and isolating that sort of work is.

I have now come to see that it is a very social world and everything even work and succsesful life, career is tied or hand and glove mixed in with meeting people and Facebook.

I think you are right, EXCEPT for the Facebook part.... I really don't know why you are fixated on the Facebook bit.

The workplace can be very sociable and if you are sociable you'll get on. The only other way (in my eyes, I'm the same age as you btw!) is to work hard and get noticed. I'm not sociable at all, in fact I rarely add FB friends these days.

I've had to adjust myself a bit to fit the whole "social world" ideology, else I'll always be stuck.

It suprises me that employers have not just started recruiting by searching someone on facebook or getting them to send a link to their facebook as the first stage of the process. WHY???Why would an employer want to do that?Good reasons.

They probably DO search tbh.... But with the privacy settings, and the fact that even the recruiters have their own lives and can't be too hypocritical, they will always find it difficult to fully understand someone based on their social media profile.

An employer could look to see how socially active a person is and if they have less than a certain number of active Facebook friends, picture of life with friends or don't seem sociable then that is gonna be a weak employee. No relationship history, no photos, no stories.

Not every employer actually values social skills more than others! You are assuming too much about people here.

Why bother interviewing people now days when you can get a full person character check from their Facebook account.

You can't. And even if you can, you should engineer your profile to reflect a positive image.

ie maybe take a photo of yourself in front of a church or in a suit and have privacy settings at maximum. Easy peasy.

In my case I don't think there is any real point getting another job because I will just quit or fired again after the ole facebook check from co-workers.

Defeatist.

It saddens me reading a post like this.

Here I am at the very same age (30 next month) and working my balls off to both make a living + get on with life, yet you are contemplating whether or not there is a point in "getting another ob" - Is the government using my tax money to pay you so that you contemplate this question at 3am on a Sunday?

xapprenticex

stuartJo1989 wrote: »

2. Trying it on with you (take it as a compliment and politely decline)

Not always that easy, i befriended someone, we both liked motorbikes for example, i had NO IDEA he was gay, looking back, it was kinda obvious but i paid no attention.

Eventually he tries it on (verbally I might add), I decline and explain that he is barking up the wrong tree but that doesn't stop him from saying things at which point i cut 90% of communication with him as that was the safest way to deal with the issue and not get into trouble.

But yeah, just saying, declining doesnt always work, guess its like that for some women too.

w06

All the other issues aside, I suspect facebook has lost more people job opportunities than it's gained.

Nowt wrong with "i don't do facebook'

Even for those that do use facebook, if they're sensible, a non-friend looking at their public profile would see almost nothing, just their banner picture and maybe their profile picture. Lots of people barely or not at all use it, that suggests nothing about their social ability nor number of friends!