I think they should just use facebook to recruit people

dac123

I'm a 30 year old man unemployed, no friends, no girlfried or kids. Im fine and not depressed, accepting of my fate.

I am also NOT homosexual, I would Know if im attracted to blokes, which I'm NOT. I am a straight hetrosexual male.
I would know this myself even if women don't like me. (The reason I included this is because people instantly think shy guy and lonely must somehow=gay which im not). No thankyou homosexuals.

Most of my teens were lonely as fcuk and people thought I was creepy as fcuk during my teens for reasons that I don't know, maybe a bit more quiet than most people.
I spent most of my early and late twenties doing shiiite jobs and nothing much else. Got fired a good few times when most social people were enjoying the new facebook magical social wonder tool of the 21st century.

Nowdays I do not even have any friends to go to a bar or clubs to meet people. I do not have any friends on facebook at all.

To even meet people in a street or wherever you are nowdays. The first thing they do is Facebook check you to find out who you are and because I don't know anyone they just go quiet to themselves and well...............find me creepy as fccuk and the cycle continues. The cycle continues and continues.

A catch 2:2, they see my facebook with nobody on it.
Nothing and because I don't know anyone I can't add them.
I've nobody on it which means I can get added by people or meet people. The cycle continues and continues like this for years.

I live on my own with nobody. The only people that know I exist, is me.
The guy who feel out of the sky.

I quit jobs because people now don't know what to make of somebody with no facebook or anything. Creeped to fccuk out co-workers think who the hell is that guy. They look in their phone and mumble or shrug that they don't know.

I got isolated at work and then quit jobs, the end of my employment.

I have now come to see that it is a very social world and everything even work and succsesful life, career is tied or hand and glove mixed in with meeting people and Facebook.

It suprises me that employers have not just started recruiting by searching someone on facebook or getting them to send a link to their facebook as the first stage of the process. WHY???Why would an employer want to do that?Good reasons.

An employer could look to see how socially active a person is and if they have less than a certain number of active Facebook friends, picture of life with friends or don't seem sociable then that is gonna be a weak employee. No relationship history, no photos, no stories.

Why bother interviewing people now days when you can get a full person character check from their Facebook account.


In my case I don't think there is any real point getting another job because I will just quit or fired again after the ole facebook check from co-workers.

aife

I think you may be reading too much into other people's behaviour.
You could try telling people you have concerns about privacy , security etc. ,or that youjust don't trust the big tech firms, so avoid using social media . Quite a lot of people feel like that.
What do you do with your time since you stopped working ?
It sounds like you've got in a bit of a rut but 30 is young these days , don't give up on everything

V2-Schneider

dac123 wrote: »

I'm a 30 year old man unemployed, no friends, no girlfried or kids. Im fine and not depressed, accepting of my fate.

I am also NOT homosexual, I would Know if im attracted to blokes, which I'm NOT. I am a straight hetrosexual male.

I would know this myself even if women don't like me.

Why is this even a thing worth pointing out?

Here's my response to Facebook: just delete it. It'll make you far happier than you seem to be now, and so what if employers or friends can't find you? Just do what I do when people ask. Explain that you refuse to use it. It's far more common an option than you might think.

bugslet

There nothing on my Facebook page about me, and I only use it as I'm part of a walking group. I have a strong social life.

As an employer I wouldn't use Facebook because quite frankly I don't care who their mates are, what their politics are or any other such gubbins.

You either have mental health issues in which case you need to see a professional or you are seriously socially inept, in which case you can work on that.

pmduk

Why are you so obsessed with facebook anyway? Just delete it and move on. Millions of people exist perfectly well without it.

dac123

V2-Schneider wrote: »

Why is this even a thing worth pointing out?

Here's my response to Facebook: just delete it. It'll make you far happier than you seem to be now, and so what if employers or friends can't find you? Just do what I do when people ask. Explain that you refuse to use it. It's far more common an option than you might think.

I wrote this because some people for some reason think lonely, shy men are somehow gay. Just pointing out that im not.
Claririfying that there is a difference between lonely and being somthing else.

Neil_Jones

I'd be surprised actually if people in real life had as many friends as they claim to have on Facebook. I see people with 2000 facebook friends and I think, seriously if you knew 2000 people in real life and put them all in a room you'd only ever talk to about twelve of them if that. I dare say you'd find a lot of them are either weirdos, people you picked up through web forums, people who think you're somebody else as you happen to share the same name and total strangers who you haven't the foggiest who they are.

Everything on my Facebook page is locked down, no friend list, no photos, just the top cover pic, the profile pic and anything that has to be public (such as "I won a few thousand points on Texas Holdem" or whatever). To look at my Facebook profile on its public view you'd think I never used it. That's probably what you're seeing or you think people can see. And Facebook isn't a good measure of anything, people have been fired from jobs for putting up pictures of them drunk somewhere in Ibiza bringing the company into disrepute which is no different from how things were before disrepute wise.

The other thing I would say to the OP is get out a bit more, head to the library, sit and read the newspapers and talk to people. Modern day libraries attract lots of people who don't use Facebook in any way, shape or form or even have computers at home. Maybe mingle with them?

davetrousers

dac123 wrote: »

I am also NOT homosexual, I would Know if I'm attracted to blokes, which I'm NOT. I am a straight heterosexual male.
I would know this myself even if women don't like me.

Congratulations on being so certain as to who and what you are.

[Deleted User]

dac123 wrote: »

I'm a 30 year old man unemployed, no friends, no girlfried or kids. Im fine and not depressed, accepting of my fate.

I am also NOT homosexual, I would Know if im attracted to blokes, which I'm NOT. I am a straight hetrosexual male.
I would know this myself even if women don't like me. (The reason I included this is because people instantly think shy guy and lonely must somehow=gay which im not). No thankyou homosexuals.

Most of my teens were lonely as fcuk and people thought I was creepy as fcuk during my teens for reasons that I don't know, maybe a bit more quiet than most people.
I spent most of my early and late twenties doing shiiite jobs and nothing much else. Got fired a good few times when most social people were enjoying the new facebook magical social wonder tool of the 21st century.

Nowdays I do not even have any friends to go to a bar or clubs to meet people. I do not have any friends on facebook at all.

To even meet people in a street or wherever you are nowdays. The first thing they do is Facebook check you to find out who you are and because I don't know anyone they just go quiet to themselves and well...............find me creepy as fccuk and the cycle continues. The cycle continues and continues.

A catch 2:2, they see my facebook with nobody on it.
Nothing and because I don't know anyone I can't add them.
I've nobody on it which means I can get added by people or meet people. The cycle continues and continues like this for years.

I live on my own with nobody. The only people that know I exist, is me.
The guy who feel out of the sky.

I quit jobs because people now don't know what to make of somebody with no facebook or anything. Creeped to fccuk out co-workers think who the hell is that guy. They look in their phone and mumble or shrug that they don't know.

I got isolated at work and then quit jobs, the end of my employment.

I have now come to see that it is a very social world and everything even work and succsesful life, career is tied or hand and glove mixed in with meeting people and Facebook.

It suprises me that employers have not just started recruiting by searching someone on facebook or getting them to send a link to their facebook as the first stage of the process. WHY???Why would an employer want to do that?Good reasons.

An employer could look to see how socially active a person is and if they have less than a certain number of active Facebook friends, picture of life with friends or don't seem sociable then that is gonna be a weak employee. No relationship history, no photos, no stories.

Why bother interviewing people now days when you can get a full person character check from their Facebook account.


In my case I don't think there is any real point getting another job because I will just quit or fired again after the ole facebook check from co-workers.

Given the time of day you posted this sounds like the ramblings of a drunk person. I don't use social media and I can't say its held my career back in any way, shape or form.

sangie595

I agree. OP I think I can spot your problem, and it's not Facebook. For someone who is accepting of their role in life, you sure seem to complain about it a lot. And find lots of things to blame for that. You might want to try having a look at yourself.

Your depiction of people is that they are shallow and unforgiving. Yes, some people are. Most are not. Nobody finds someone "creepy" because they don't use social media. They find somebody "creepy" when they go off on unnecessary homophobic rants, or expect to be best buddies with their work colleagues when all they want to do is get on with their job so that they can have a life.

You have quit jobs because you don't have friends at work. Yay, staying power! You have a record of being dismissed. That's why you can't find employment- nothing to do with Facebook, and everything to do with you.

If you want to sit around wasting your life, then that's your call. But don't blame everything and everyone else for your failure. It's not them that's the problem, it's you.

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This was posted by a perfectly happy (most of the time, although the government does get me down, and I think the electorate are insane) disabled single woman, with a few very close friends and a lot of acquaintances, a job and no social media accounts. If you did my job you wouldn't want a social media account, you wouldn't ever have privacy settings that allow colleagues to see your account - and you certainly wouldn't friend a single person you work with!

seashore22

OP, I think you are seriously overestimating the importance of FB. Just delete your account and if they ask, tell people that you don't like the business practises of FB, which is a perfectly valid reason. You don't need a reason to not use social media, but it's a good excuse if you don't want to admit to a nonexistent social life.

My daughter set up my FB page long ago and it was ok as a tool to see what the grandchildren were up to, but even my daughter uses it less and less these days, so I was happy to disable my own account.

My other daughter has a great job and rarely uses FB for anything. She could easily do without it.

As others have already said, your problem isn't Facebook.