I think they should just use facebook to recruit people

IAmWales

In 2014 you were 25, now you're 30.

Have you tried marketing yourself to employers on your ability to time travel?

Cheeky_Monkey

dac123 wrote: »

I wrote this because some people for some reason think lonely, shy men are somehow gay. Just pointing out that im not.
Claririfying that there is a difference between lonely and being somthing else.

This may come as a shock to you but no-one is in the least bit interested in whether you are gay or not.

(Methinks he doth protest too much :rotfl:)

seashore22

IAmWales wrote: »

In 2014 you were 25, now you're 30.

Have you tried marketing yourself to employers on your ability to time travel?

Well spotted.

Can I also say that I don't think there's any reason for gay men or women to be lonely, friendless and without a partner in this day and age, so your stereotype is a little out of touch op.

[Deleted User]

Sorry I think there is a lot more to it - what if you don't or can't relate to your employer's product. You could love the manager and hate colleagues to vise versa. Are you in the right job? C'mon greatly social people aren't really going to want to work the unsocial hours nor are they going to sit back and not take holiday.

I can sympathise - was more upset to be asked if I was married within the first hour of arriving to a new job recently, (I only wish I'd made them stop and think) then I ever could be in an interview where 10 hours shifts were concerned so could totally understand why being asked if there were any children.
The first was so abhorrent as there would have been a ring on the left finger for the question not to be asked, no doubt making it an add to the company "shy nearly 40 something virgin pile".

Why should you make it easy for anyone to just leave your job without another to go to. All these companies that over promise and under deliver who are all as bad as each other, Why let someone of easy. Why should you pay for those gaps it only took me 6 years on from you to realise that so you've a lot still going. And I'm actually rather envious of you right now - I have to go out with these 'cut the atmosphere with a knife' people as we've some jolly awful time of year coming up. Best employer this year was mr good looking swearer though his now on his third advertisement since I left!

In my town there is a drop in service to meet people in the area over hot drinks and talk - usually a weekday and maybe advertised on town board or on notice board of the major supermarkets closest to you. I'd get to that if I could.

agrinnall

dac123 wrote: »

I wrote this because some people for some reason think lonely, shy men are somehow gay. Just pointing out that im not.
Claririfying that there is a difference between lonely and being somthing else.

It's completely irrelevant though, why would anybody care what your sexual orientation is? Perhaps you haven't noticed but this is 2017 not 1957.

shortcrust

I'm not on facebook. The conversations I have about it go like this:

Them: "I tried to find you on facebook. Are you not on there?"

Me (lightheartedly): "No, I'm just not that interested in seeing baby photos and reading the crazy political views of people I barely know!"

We politely laugh, and that's it. Done. Literally no one cares. Not even a tiny little bit.

I'm worried about you, OP. It sounds to me like you need some help. It sounds like you have some real difficulties with the social side of things but I'm not sure you really know what's causing them. Facebook is not the problem. Have you read about aspergers? Just a thought. I know several people who've been diagnosed as adults and it really helped them to understand why social stuff often doesn't go quite to plan, and to fix things more easily when they go wrong. Either way, I'd see your GP and tell them what you've told us.

Oh, and some advice from an actual homosexual. Going out of your way to tell people you're not gay makes everyone think you're gay. It's a bit of a weird thing to do.

xapprenticex

shortcrust wrote: »

I'm not on facebook. The conversations I have about it go like this:

Them: "I tried to find you on facebook. Are you not on there?"

Me (lightheartedly): "No, I'm just not that interested in seeing baby photos and reading the crazy political views of people I barely know!"

We politely laugh, and that's it. Done. Literally no one cares. Not even a tiny little bit.

I'm worried about you, OP. It sounds to me like you need some help. It sounds like you have some real difficulties with the social side of things but I'm not sure you really know what's causing them. Facebook is not the problem. Have you read about aspergers? Just a thought. I know several people who've been diagnosed as adults and it really helped them to understand why social stuff often doesn't go quite to plan, and to fix things more easily when they go wrong. Either way, I'd see your GP and tell them what you've told us.

Oh, and some advice from an actual homosexual. Going out of your way to tell people you're not gay makes everyone think you're gay. It's a bit of a weird thing to do.

With me its ONLY with women, dudes dont question me (to date) (and rightly so):

Stalker Lady: I tried to find you on facebook.
Me: I dont use it.
Stalker Lady: okay.
Me: Lets swap phone numbers, we can Whatsapp.
Stalker Lady: Okay great:smileyhea

mac.d

shortcrust wrote: »

I don't think it's homophobic in itself but it does carry the implication that there's something wrong with being gay.

That's how it comes across to me too, and the bold bit is in itself homophobic, is it not?

It seems a rather strange thing to have focussed on in a post on an employment forum.

kingfisherblue

It sounds as though you have an obsession with Facebook, OP. Really, people are not as interested in it as you think. I have an account, but only because so many Girlguiding groups are on there - and as a leader it is a useful resource to me. I'm also on a site local to my town, as it lists events that I might want to attend, or take my children to.

If you ever found my FB page, you wouldn't see any photos, not even a profile picture as I don't have one. You wouldn't see anything that I have posted, as it is all locked down with high privacy settings - and I have asked people who know me in real life (but not as friends on FB) to search for me and check what they can see. My son is quite good at this, and he checks periodically that my privacy settings are still locked down - I don't have him as 'friend'. I think I have about fifteen 'friends' in total. I've met all but two - one has a child with the same disabilities as me, and she contacted me via a children's disability group for information (my child is older, hers is quite young), and the second is the chap who runs the local history group (but I know his wife, who doesn't have FB). Otherwise a couple of family members, and local friends, mainly those who are in Girlguiding. I doubt if an employer or any colleagues would be interested in my FB, even if they could access it - I don't post anything personal, including any photos, as when I learned to use a computer there was a massive emphasis on privacy. Even my email address doesn't have any part of my name in it.



Nobody cares if you are gay or straight. It isn't something that I have ever felt the need to ask anyone, and nobody has ever asked me about my preferences. It's nobody else's business anyway.

It isn't FB that is preventing you from working or from staying in work, it is yourself. You come across as paranoid - I hope this doesn't offend you, but you should see a doctor if you are genuinely concerned to the point that you have made this post.

Birdman2015

I’m thinking this thread is just one big wind up.

BTW, I must add, I am also NOT homosexual, I would Know if im attracted to blokes, which I'm NOT. I am a straight hetrosexual male.

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