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“Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.”

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  • Sun_Addict
    Sun_Addict Posts: 24,370 Forumite
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    Real friends will stick by you no matter what. Take care xx
    I get knocked down but I get up again (Chumbawamba, Tubthumping)
  • beanielou
    beanielou Posts: 96,597 Ambassador
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    If they are real friends they will be there for you.
    If not they wont.
    I am a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on Mortgage Free Wannabe & Local Money Saving Scotland & Disability Money Matters. If you need any help on those boards, do let me know.Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any post you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button , or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own & not the official line of Money Saving Expert.

    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/14.**Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** MFW. Finally mortgage free O2/ 2021****
    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.

    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    ***Keep plodding*** Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
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  • WannabeFree
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    I guess I (the situation maybe) is just disappointing. Understandable however much it hurts.
    “Once you hit rock bottom, that's where you perfectly stand; That's your chance of restarting, but restarting the way.”
  • Eager_Elephant
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    The difficulty is that friends only want what is best for you and they are obviously coming at it from an outside perspective whereas you are in the situation and having to live it.

    I know that the news about littlest was not great and maybe you were just seeking comfort in a time of need.

    Its never too late to change your decision, remember how well you have been coping on your own - you do not need anyone else to be there living back with you unless they are going to be 110% committed to you, the children, the family etc
  • beanielou
    beanielou Posts: 96,597 Ambassador
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    Agree with EE.
    Also on board with your financial aims for the future.
    I am a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on Mortgage Free Wannabe & Local Money Saving Scotland & Disability Money Matters. If you need any help on those boards, do let me know.Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any post you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button , or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own & not the official line of Money Saving Expert.

    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/14.**Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** MFW. Finally mortgage free O2/ 2021****
    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.

    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    ***Keep plodding*** Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
    One debt remaining. Home improvement loan.
  • WannabeFree
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    Totally agree EE from the friends point of view. I know what I would be saying if I was the one looking in.

    Thank you for taking time to reply and help

    And you Beanie
    x
    “Once you hit rock bottom, that's where you perfectly stand; That's your chance of restarting, but restarting the way.”
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    CHRISTMAS SAVINGS = £0/£500. SEF = £1,400/£12,000 PREMIUM BONDS ME = £350. PREMIUM BONDS DH = £300.
    HOLIDAY MONEY = £0 TIME LEFT TO PAY OFF MORTGAGE = 5 YEARS 1 MONTHS
  • Sun_Addict
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    Think about what's best for you and the smalls in the long term, don't worry about what others think but don't do anything rash xx
    I get knocked down but I get up again (Chumbawamba, Tubthumping)
  • Cherryfudge
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    Sending hugs. If it's any help, consider where your choices will take you in six months or more - and it's okay to say you want time to think. xx
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  • beanielou
    beanielou Posts: 96,597 Ambassador
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    Just to add you have to do what is right for you & not anyone else.
    It's your life.
    I am a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on Mortgage Free Wannabe & Local Money Saving Scotland & Disability Money Matters. If you need any help on those boards, do let me know.Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any post you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button , or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own & not the official line of Money Saving Expert.

    Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/14.**Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** MFW. Finally mortgage free O2/ 2021****
    "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.

    ***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb.
    ***Keep plodding*** Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
    One debt remaining. Home improvement loan.
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