Money Moral Dilemma: Should I ask my girlfriend to pay me?

gloriouslyhappy

"The labourer is worthy of his hire". Yes.

wendy.rennie

I think that if you are living as a couple and everything is shared including the profit from her sale of houses , then no I don't think you should expect her to pay you for your services . But if you are living and paying bills seperately then yes you should ask

stmartinsdiver

As already observed - fine if you get a fair share of the profits but otherwise you should be getting at least an agreed discounted rate for the work you.

pollypenny

Go into business together and share expenses and profits. Otherwise she pays for your work.

gordon74

Take a look in the mirror buddy... can't you see the letters MUG across your forehead ?
If she's profiting from these developments it's at your expense. Put your foot down and say if she doesn't pay you then you expect a cut of the profit. If not then she pays you as she goes. Sounds like you're not married not in any kind of legally binding contract so she could swan off at anytime with any profit and leave you high n dry. I'd be treating it like a business arrangement with a contract drawn up.

Oh yes... don't ask her.... tell her that's the arrangement...!

Savannah02K

Many years ago I used to work with a girl who bought an old house, did it up and then sold it on and bought another house, same cycle again. Her true 'speciality' though (and one she was quite open about at work) was that she'd find a boyfriend in whatever 'area' she needed work on in the house at any one time. When it was time for kitchen refit, find a kitchen fitter boyfriend, window replacement? Ditto. Even boasted that her preferred 'target' was married men as once she'd got them to do the work, she could dump them and not be bothered by them hanging round. Not a nice person but she did take early retirement in her early 50s!

sandybabes03

Yes you should get paid for your work.
She is probably making a substantial profit from the purchase and resale. So, unless you get a cut of the profit, then you should be treated as a contractor working for her business.
Keep it separate from your relationship.

PasturesNew

You're either a partner in her business, with a share -or- you'll occasionally "give a hand" here and there without commitment. But to expect you to just work for free while she fools herself into thinking she's making a living on her own efforts is entirely wrong.

You should be paid to do significant/specific work from your skillset if the end purpose is for her to make money. I'm sure you've got a 101 better and more interesting ways to spend your free time!

Nobody minds helping out if a friend's in a fix .... or hanging around/giving a bit of a hand while others carry the responsibility of the actual task being undertaken .... but for you to be tasked with specific jobs "for free" is just wrong if the objective of the project is "purely for profit" and there's never anything in it "for you".... except the prospect of "the next work ...to work for free again".

Pollycat

flyingflea wrote: »

I fix computers for a living and when my girlfriend asks me to fix her laptop I do it and wouldn't dream of charging but if she started buying broken laptops with the intention of me fixing them so she could sell them on then I'd expect a cut of her profits for sure. Same applies here. You're doing most of the hard work afterall.

I think this ^^^^ post says all there is to say on this subject. :T

doctorblunkett

consumers_revenge wrote: »

Look on the nookie received as a payment in kind!

thats an appalling way of looking at it. shame on you