Elite 11+ shopping and chat thread part 2½

Savvybuyer

Anon wrote: »

Thank you for the update Savvy - hopefully you will soon find something equally enjoyable/motivating to fill the void.

Take care of yourself.

Anon

Thank you for this (that's now four posts in total progress or 'in the queue' (though some of them might end up waiting too long, get bored and go shopping elsewhere later:rotfl:) as I wasn't planning for this one).

There's no void - to be honest, as I said before, I was reaching the end of my tether (that's putting it too harshly: I did like it and persisted even despite how much it involved) with the M list. I was still continuing to do it, because I never lost interest, but was getting ever more tardy and delayed over it and it was just going on and on - on one sense, it couldn't keep going on yet it always kept doing so - when the APG was going to end, I was part-thankful that I could finally end doing it, even though without that I still would not have done so - does that make sense? I think from that POV it came at the right time, although it didn't as I never wanted the APG to be taken away (again a business decision and obviously didn't and hasn't pleased me that it has been closed), but the interest never ended and I would have been continuing - but the circumstances changed taking away almost the whole point behind it - I am still interested even now but in a different way. I have now lost interest in finishing the list though - it would just be spending a whole lot of time for no reason. So, I am not doing it and, if anyone asked me to do so, I am sorry I have not completed it but the answer is no. I am resistant to other people's demands sometimes:rotfl: - and even over things in which I have interest in. :eek:Don't get me thinking of pulling out my pages of information and going and updating them in an idle moment anyway. But, as you know, I am a stubborn and obstinate person anyway (always have been) if people can't provide me with a good reason to me why I should be doing, or not doing, something. I'm just challenging, questioning, annoying:rotfl: and actually easily lack of resistant the moment people tell me something that is correct (just so rare that they do and hence hit the totally justified brick wall or slammed door in the face:rotfl::rotfl: (actually, on that sort of thing, I once got - many years ago - a door literally slammed in my face on going for a job interview - years later now, I think I simply must have bored the other person - I was completely unaware whether I was doing - still don't know even now if I was but I suspect I was unknowingly doing so - and, even so, it could be said that doing that to me wasn't really polite. I just wouldn't shut up:eek::rotfl:. On the contrary though, with me, I just would never slam doors into people's faces, whether literally or figuratively, or both, or a combination of both or bit of both and something else or any permutation:rotfl:, even though I seem to have no reaction at all when anyone else does, instead, if I am "slamming the door", I actually listen fully to everything they say - the total opposite of what anyone else does, that isn't even interested at all hence bored as they lack the attention - and then I simply don't do what they say because they are still not correct.

Anyway... really you should just have skipped to this last paragraph, as it's the actual gist - there isn't any void: as my post overnight made clear, to myself, and failed to make clear to everyone else:rotfl: - I've actually been continuing, with other interests, in the meantime. There's still absolutely loads of things to do, as someone always 'fills the void', so that there isn't one, I am always doing something and busying myself

I know some people will imagine that taking away someone's special interest for a person who has Asperger's could be very upsetting for them, but it hasn't actually happened and imagining this would, on this occasion, be making a wrong assumption because the interest wasn't taken away by anyone except me - I lessened it/took it away/changed it into something else and Mr A gave plenty of notice (I don't think they planned like this - I don't think they were considering "people who have Asperger's that might be collecting competitors' prices":rotfl: - but it just happened the way it did).

I seem to have gone back to my interest in :doh:Asperger's syndrome itself these days as well as other things and interest in supermarket prices is still there in the sense I'll still look at items I'm buying from time to time when I'm in store. I have the knowledge not to be caught by what seems to be a good deal now:money:. In fact - this afternoon (and this is the subject of one of my two other now planned posts, if I ever get to writing either any of them) - I had both Asperger's syndrome and supermarket prices when I visited a shop and bought my bread. The thing is that literally everything is Asperger's syndrome for me - it is constantly there and affects everything that is going on, both what I do and what is happening around me (absolutely loads of which I see - I only don't see body language, which seems just about the only thing that most other people see most of the time) - and, with Asperger's syndrome therefore always being in and around me, that makes everything interesting!:j

Have I finally found true mindfulness and peace?:think:
No, I doubt it:rotfl: - but it always means, even my thoughts, someething is always there and I am certainly not going to fall into anything boring to me or into a void. Besides, I'm sure the "void"(whatever that is:rotfl:) would be interesting as it still wouldn't be possible for it to contain absolute nothing:rotfl:. The space itself would be a thing and surely that must be interesting:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:? I'm joking, but I'm sure you can always find something of interest if you are a person who has Asperger's syndrome. In my case, it's everything (except a lot of normal life tasks - what a shame:(:rotfl:) which seems to be a lot more than everyone else that seems to struggle to be able to find the interest in very much at all except for those few things and of course chatting with others (I get misunderstood so I do feel I need to make it expressly clear: I don't think that chatting is a bad thing, it's actually a good and vital thing in most people's lives - and I do like talking to people as well, just about stupid things that they don't want to know:rotfl: - it's not literal, there is more than that - and I'm not anti-social: I don't bite, and if you come up to me and talk to me, about anything, in normal life, I will almost always talk to you - in other words, except when I won't. That's just the small amounts of time when I am upset by something, that has absolutely no connection to yourself, and just want to be left alone to recover - I realise now, bizarre - most people's reaction to upset is wanting someone else around them. I'm just difficult, as I'm the opposite - and I like it that way. By this, as I am the only one to spot ambiguity in what I have just said, I now need to say that I am not refering to liking to be left alone when upset (though that is about half the time true), instead liking being difficult and opposite:rotfl:. But now I am ambiguous over this - as I don't mean I like being difficult in the sense of liking being difficult deliberately upsetting people, instead I just like the fact I am difficult, usually unintentionally or just as a result of me being me, and somtimes it needs people to be "difficult" - or just I see being difficult as being helpful, does that one make sense?, as it's helping people to do difficult tasks, or what they should be doing, by being so (from their POV) - not my fault they don't want to be doing those tasks that they should be doing and it takes allegedly "difficult" people sometimes to shake thimgs up, rightly, and get them done).

That's what people said though - when I asked them and they denied that I was being difficult for them and I believed them, even though they were just pretending not to be and lying to me, they said they thought it was just me being me. Which it is. I'm difficult. Well, I am and I'm not - it's all very complex (in a manner so that I can understand it) and people have lots of different characteristics all in the same person. You know it's the "simple" things - they leave me saying I am confused and that they are complex. But, again, point blank difficult - been the cantankerous opposite again. (I love it - in other words I do and I don't - and most usually it is amusing to me. I love people's reactions to things - even though, when I am doing that in looking back to them - at the time it didn't feel that way at all but I'd gone round the houses and confused them as usual again. Frustrating sometimes, even though I don't get frustrated with it - it amuses me as I am the persistent one, doing a complete job (except one I have now abandoned) and I just have to persist as ever as is natural for me, as nearly everything just seems to get lost in the translation. What was it said? If you think you've understood me, you've probably misunderstood. And now no-one knows anything at all that I mean:rotfl:. But I did mean it - just ignore where I said you may have misunderstood me, even though you now probably have:rotfl:. No, it's just - people understand in different ways and I most often find people haven't been able to read fully in enough detail what I've said and therefore they respond to me clearly telling me that they have got the wrong end of the stick. I am just forever clarifying, since they seem not to know what I mean. You know - it is all there, in English words. What is wrong? I ask myself in frustration. But then I persist to correct their misunderstanding, and then they misunderstand on that:rotfl:. Read it! Concentrate on the flamin' detail. But then people do, or try to, and still concentrated too much on the wrong bit:rotfl:. The 'problem' on the other side, is that people usually are just general and not detail - so they give a broad overview, but that is total ambiguous from being broad and it's not clear which of two or several possible meanings they mean. People are not clear - they are usually just broad or approximate. And I'm told sometimes they do it deliberately. Sometimes they don't like being pinned in to being specific, or it's not whether they like it or not, it's just convenient that they can avoid being so, because they can avoid responsibility or pretend they know something when in fact they don't (I know - comes across as real high-minded on my part, but it's not - it is just true that they really don't know but merely think they do) - but I'm the one that tries to get them to clarify, simply because I don't understand, and then I know things are precisely what I thought - namely that they really are incorrect - when they fail to do so - no answer, or something that does not answer the point or answers only some other point, or answers only other points, that weren't made = Savvy you are right, you have hit the nail on the head. I know a lot of reason for this, which I haven't got the time to go into and explain as it would just drag this post on yet again even more (though this explanation is now doing the very same thing:rotfl:) and it now goes onto into my current interest in research about lying and the findings that up to 80% (does that surprise you? - that high) of everything the vast majority of people say is a lie. I don't know whether to believe that figure or not, given that I'm told nearly 80% of things are lies:rotfl:. Anyway, this has now gone a long way away from money-saving, but my experience in the shop earlier today - there's things I am thinking about as to why most people don't save money! And they are the things of my specialist interests - one of them Asperger's syndrome, another of them the psychology of non-autistic people:D:D:rotfl: . (I'm getting into it, the last-mentioned topic, it is interesting me.) Basically, I'm saying it is actually more difficult for you (I assume as a non-autistoc person as that is what most of my audience will be) to save money as the marketing techniques places use are aimed at the way you look at things, which therefore is effective in influencing most people into buying but those techniques don't work very well on me(:rotfl::D:money::rotfl:)! How to save money: (1) Be autistic.

So, about 98% of people fail on the first point!:cool::rotfl:

newbie1980

nectar have 1000 extra points on both virgin trains and lner

they show on all my accounts

Arthien

Evening all!

Haven't seen it mentioned yet but there is £15 off no minimum spend at buy a gift. Seems to be unlimited orders too, I've done two on one account

https://www.hotukdeals.com/deals/15-off-buyagift-no-minimum-spend-3091067

£40 for a mother and daughter spa day at the local Marriott for my mum's 60th and £14.99 for a 3 course meal and fizz for two at Bella Italia :j

Arthien

Enterprise, where did you find your squirrel goodies in the end? I was paying catch up and was going to suggest possibly Laura Ashley, but looking online they had every other woodland creature except for squirrels!

Arthien

TM I got the ted baker sprays the other day, apparently the bigger ones were also working on 3-4-2 but stock seems to have gone on those ones. Lovely smell and bargain for a stocking filler. Sold for £8-10 elsewhere, though how true that is, I'm not sure.

Savvybuyer

pandoraskids wrote: »

Today, DS who is 19 and has asperger's has plucked up the courage to make the journey to Aberdeen (where his gf is at uni) for a long weekend. I went as far as Wigan with him & put him on the train to Edinburgh and he has now let me know that he made the change at Haymarket ok and is now on the train to Aberdeen. May not be a big deal to some but this is a HUGE achievement for him :j :j

We're all different - for me, my interest (decades back) was in trains and buses (which I am now proud to state!:D - oops, that came across wrongly) and so I was going on long journeys regularly.

It may be a big deal as sensory issues can create a lot of distracting noise for some autistic people. Or I imagine might be "distracting" anyway. I don't experience it that way (I don't mean to be talking about myself): whilst I get loads of stuff around me, it seems my brain likes to have so much information and can't deal well if there was a lack of information. I don't really want to say that it has got the capacity, as that then suggests that most people's brains are small and lack capacity and that's rather a condescending thing to say, suggests (quite wrongly actually) that I think other people are somehow less than me. But it just seems that I have "a brain big enough" (again, sorry for the implication) for all the information and, therefore, unlike some people on the spectrum, the environment doesn't therefore overwhelm me - and I definitely think this is a factor in why I got a quite late diagnosis: had I had problems with the environment, they would have seen me referred via some other chain onto diagnosis most probably a lot earlier.

This still isn't one of the posts I had planned:rotfl: - I might never reach them!

Right, I am off now to the place that sparked my interest in Asperger's again last week when, it seems to me, I may have unintentionally created a bit of confusion - other people's very slight reactions to me suggest to me I might have done (although I may have misread the situation and perhaps there was no confusion that arose at all). I wonder if what I have done since (which doubtless I shouldn't have done:rotfl:) has altered the situation. So, wish me luck! It'll be fun, it's interesting.:whistle::D:rotfl:

My plan (aha, there is a plan - a cunning plan maybe:rotfl: - I always have to plan for things) is to... say nothing at all! I am going to approach it and act as if nothing had happened at all. I am doing things precisely the same way as I would have done had something not happened. Most people have difficulties doing this, but it's the way I often am. It's actually not really a plan, in the sense that this is what I would have done anything - in other words not change anything I was doing and act the same way as before, that never seemed to cause any problems, and as if no confusion had ever been caused in between or any further attempt to see if there was any and remove or rectify it if there was. Perhaps I should have left it and not bothered at that. However, I would still be facing the matter the other people had caused from acting like non-autistic people:rotfl:. I know I am being obtuse - I don't want to be specific. At least I tell you that.

Anyway... it'll be fun. I wonder if anyone will approach me and say anything, be interesting to see. Of course any non-audible frowns or strange looks will go unnoticed:rotfl:, though I don't think I will be being given that as I doubt anything will be changed. The left hand won't speak to the right and someone will have failed to do a full job so that no-one else around me will know anything anyway in order to behave any differently:rotfl:. So, I suspect, with me behaving the same as before, and it seems not causing any problems - I assume that, as the police haven't been called on any occasion in the last decades in response to anything I have done or not done, I can't have been doing anything wrong - they will be the same as ever:cool:. If not, well, it will be interesting - I suspect they will be apologetic... about something that is not their fault or mine. I made clear (or at least tried to:rotfl:) that it wasn't their fault. I didn't mention it wasn't mine either as I didn't want shift blame from them (that I don't attach any to them anyway, but may have had wrong impression if I mentioned myself so I did not). I have, at least, tried to make clear it wasn't their fault - I mean, the express words, "I think this is not their fault." - how much more clear could it be?!?:huh: (:rotfl::rotfl: - cue confusion no doubt:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: - hope there is none but...:rotfl:). Could I be truly neutral though? Because I do have a wonder whether it will be awkward for me, and even having a wonder is now different from not having any at all. I have wondered whether to go somewhere else instead. But, I am going there, as normal, as if nothing had happened (of which they were, I think, wholly unaware when it was happening, which is why I think it's not their fault but it did delay (and therefore unwittingly inconvenience) me significantly last time so in that sense caused a 'problem' for me even though it didn't upset me at all so wasn't a problem in that sense. Maybe I am in denial - I don't wanna cause problems where there are none before!:rotfl:)

If there are any audible frowns from anyone else - and I do not think there will be - everyone will not notice them except me:rotfl:. Oh, I'd hear them if they were five blocks around the corner. Literally. There is no escape for the frowner - I know and hear everything (except all but the most overt of all body language I think). I will "pretend like I haven't noticed" - unless they come right up to me and frown in my face, which I very much doubt will happen, and make it impossible for me not to do anything about (even if it is just keep quiet and do nothing to aggravate that safely-away hypothetical situation any more).

Arthien

On the topic of nice smellies at Boots, they have certain Baylis and Harding soaps for £1 each online with stock appearing every now and then. Was £1.50 in store yesterday but apparently scanning at £1, went in to test today and scanned for £1.50 as per the SEL. MIL loves them so I'll be keeping an eye out for stock online!

https://www.boots.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/SearchDisplay?langId=-1&showResultsPage=true&categoryId=&sType=SimpleSearch&searchTermScope=&orderBy=&resultCatEntryType=2&minPrice=&promoNameParam=Only+£1+on+selected+Baylis+and+Harding+hand+wash&catalogId=28501&pageView=grid&advancedSearch=&searchTerm=&storeId=11352&beginIndex=0&maxPrice=&isPromoLink=Y&searchSource=Q&manufacturer=

Savvybuyer

braveheart60uk wrote: »

Astonishing achievement, trains are so cramped and noisy, I always need to stand at the door or use the seat there, so I can have minimal physical contact and I can distract myself by looking out the window. eadphones with music that you like can also block the noise.
Haymarket is always busy, so even the train change is strenuous.
:T:T:T

They have autism hours in places now where they turn off some of the noise. I have problems with those places being so quiet:rotfl:.

(I'm just being part-joking on that: it's just than it's then strange when there is no music on: it doesn't bother me if that is the case, but it's just a little strange. This autistic person, who never really had sensory problems that other autistic people do, will therefore rather be going on all of the many non-autism hours. Same with the cinema - I've always been able to watch films same as the vast majority of people - except that the films themselves very likely come across to me very differently - I don't get plotlines, context or development of characters and relationships (in a wider sense than literally relationships of a social nature, I mean how the characters 'relate' to one another - I suspect my technicality has confused again: I just mean, you know, plot development in which characters have interacted with whom and what developed from one point in the film to now half an hour later - I often don't get any of that, so that the films in total therefore different to me. But I watch them 'same as almost everyone else' - if in the cinema, in the same cinemas showings as the vast majority of people visit. And I wouldn't mind going to an autism showing either - it would be a different experience and interesting of itself - for that additional reason rather than the film:rotfl:. The film would be the same as before - interesting, boring or not boring).)<<<I think I need to do two closed parentheses at this point don't I?(:rotfl:) EDIT: No, wrong - a closed parenthesis, a full stop and a parenthesis. Now put right - phew!

Enterprise_1701C

Arthien wrote: »

Enterprise, where did you find your squirrel goodies in the end? I was paying catch up and was going to suggest possibly Laura Ashley, but looking online they had every other woodland creature except for squirrels!

Yep, found that with a lot of places. Actually got them from Etsy, gorgeous full picture of a red squirrel and the same picture on the oven gloves If she doesn't like them I shall strangle her :rotfl::rotfl:

This is the picture

altojack

tweets wrote: »

I know a stall in local market sells it

And the cost would be :eek: I'm going to have a look tomorrow morning before the dogs get here and before 9am. You know me :rotfl:

pandoraskids wrote: »

Today, DS who is 19 and has asperger's has plucked up the courage to make the journey to Aberdeen (where his gf is at uni) for a long weekend. I went as far as Wigan with him & put him on the train to Edinburgh and he has now let me know that he made the change at Haymarket ok and is now on the train to Aberdeen. May not be a big deal to some but this is a HUGE achievement for him :j :j

Well done to DS, that is a massive achievement. :T

Enterprise_1701C wrote: »

Not sure who sells it but is very easy to make, only problem is I burned the last two lots I made :eek:: You do need a massive pan to make it in, I use my preserving pan, and a very big pan to pour it into.

I've got a preserving pan so I could make some but I just know I'll burn it :eek: :mad: