Is a bad friend better than no friend?

Sncjw

I am the same as you I struggle to be sociallbe but I am learning. I haven’t really had friends for about ten years prior to uni. I thought I was making friends but I kept feeling sort of pushed out the group. I had to leave uni due to loosing my hearing. A couple asked how I was and that but that was it . A few months later down the line they didn’t talk to me. I got a hearing aid and I asked one of them to meet up. We were going to meet up until the night before she cancelled on me. Turns out she went out with other friends. I kept them all on Facebook. When I saw they all went on a hen do for one of them that was the final straw because I thought these were my friends but clearly not. I deleted them from Facebook and not one of them has even tried to message me. It’s been nearly 5 years since this happend.

I bumped into one of them and she acted all Hoya and that. I thought it was turning point so I added her back hearing in mind this was the bride of the wedding. Since then nothing no messages or anything.

I don’t need people like that in my life. I do have acquaintances at work and they are more of friends than my friends I so called had.


Having no friends is a lot better than a horrible one because you can be happy and do what you do without worrying about her and impact on life.

Loz01

When I was younger I actually had a ""friend"" who wasn't that nice to me! Berated me, put me down, used to take the mickey out of me (and not in a jokey way) - but me being me (at the time) I just put up with it, thinking it was more important to have someone there. Thankfully I woke up and cut them loose!!! You don't need ANYONE who doesn't bring positivity to your life. Obviously friendship isn't all smiles and laughs but you have to get something good out of it or you're just being a glutton for punishment.