Childcare is bloody expensive!

thriftylass

Thank you SavvySue and ViolaLass. Couldnt have said it better. Glad I'm not the only one thinking like thay.

Consensus_ everybody is different and can still raise well rounded kids

Fireflyaway

Remember its temporary. Childcare is expensive but you chose to have kids and I'm guessing you knew the costs involved. Just do what you can to reduce other costs. When I had a nursery bill I remember only ever shopping in iceland. I got rid of my car. I didn't buy any clothes and didn't holiday for 6 years. Since then things have improved a lot but it takes some effort.

Kim_kim

ska_lover wrote: »

I am not bashing you OP, but I really do not understand your life choices. It is like there are no other priorities but £££'s


Why would someone want children in order to go to work full time, in order to pay someone else to look after them and be skint.

You could care for them yourself, and still be skint


This is some real messed up reality you have chosen

Or they have a job/career they have to return to, to keep their hand in & their career afloat.
It’s the long game.

Kim_kim

svain wrote: »

It basically comes down to priorities ... Once upon a time children would be the number one priority , over and above careers, nice cars, holidays etc. This is just not the case these days (no matter how its justified)
I dont think matters so much which parent is primary carer, i think it matters more that it is a parent that is primary carer and not hired help. (single parents being the exception)

So why doesn’t it matter for the children of single parents then?

Red-Squirrel_2

svain wrote: »

Once upon a time children would be the number one priority

Sorry, but that's a load of rubbish. Its not that long ago that women didn't have a lot of choice about children coming along and they were mouths to feed for a few years and then bodies to send out to work when they were old enough!

This thread is so sexist, I might save it for when people say "Oh but women have equality now".

ViolaLass

svain wrote: »

It basically comes down to priorities ... Once upon a time children would be the number one priority , over and above careers, nice cars, holidays etc.

Yawn. In as much as people had the choice, they chose what they wanted. Now there are more choices. That's what's really changed.

Once a upon a time, for example, women had to leave work when they got married. What else could they do other than stay home with their (inevitable) children?

sulphate

Red-Squirrel wrote: »

Sorry, but that's a load of rubbish. Its not that long ago that women didn't have a lot of choice about children coming along and they were mouths to feed for a few years and then bodies to send out to work when they were old enough!

This thread is so sexist, I might save it for when people say "Oh but women have equality now".

Indeed. Not sure why there's this assumption that both parents only go out to work for "fancy cars, nice careers and expensive holidays". We drive cars that are 7/10 years old and holidays consist of a week in Cornwall every couple of years. As for nice careers... we don't have high flying ones, and only look for better opportunities so we can provide for our family. Just because I'm not home with my child 24/7 doesn't mean he's not my main priority in life.

I'm not complaining, by the way. We're very happy with the way things are (although more money would always be nice) and I know lots of families who really struggle with juggling everything, through no fault of their own.

Tabbytabitha

svain wrote: »

It basically comes down to priorities ... Once upon a time children would be the number one priority , over and above careers, nice cars, holidays etc. This is just not the case these days (no matter how its justified)
I dont think matters so much which parent is primary carer, i think it matters more that it is a parent that is primary carer and not hired help. (single parents being the exception)

I think most men have always prioritised their careers/jobs over their children and many even prioritised their cars! I wonder whether you also complained about that?

haras_nosirrah

childcare per hour is cheap for what it is.

if you need a lot of hours it adds up to an expensive outgoing.

svain

Tabbytabitha wrote: »

I think most men have always prioritised their careers/jobs over their children and many even prioritised their cars! I wonder whether you also complained about that?

If they do, then for "most" it's to provide a better life for their family