LonelyRat's (not so lonely) Road to Riches

lonelyrat

Thanks DIA Will keep you posted

Hello Starmummy! I love the caps :rotfl: I think it's actually keeping me sane at the moment to be honest... The gym in the morning puts me in the right frame of mind to make it through the day at work and the yoga lets me de-stress at the end. Ideal!
3 days off as of now :T

Plans for tomorrow will be:
1. Couch to 5k
2. 10,000 steps
3. Laundry
4. Organise things
- Find out what of mine/ OH's is in the shed
- Remove really summery clothes from wardrobe / drawers and pack away
- Try and de-clutter / get rid of things that we don't need in the shed and bedroom
The aim is to try and make it easier for when we come to pack up for the move. If I can get started now it won't be as stressy whenever the time comes.

Will see what, if anything, I manage to do

Payday is supposedly Friday and am very much looking forward to it! Have written a little list of things to get OH for Christmas. Nothing big, but just a few things he needs and then one thing he wants. Shouldn't be too expensive and hopefully I can get all the Christmas shopping done in the next week or so then it's out the road. I want to get everything with this pay rather than next months.... Then next months wages can be used for moving/ travel costs.

Am feeling excited but nervous for what will happen. Obviously a lot if pinned on this interview (whenever it ends up being) but if I don't get it then it isn't the end of the world... There are quite a few jobs there I feel (hope) I could get. I just don't want to move without having anything secured. I also want to have funds in savings for anything that goes wrong/ if there's a period where I don't get paid.
OH finally told his parents the plans... :eek: I'd been asking him to do it for months now but I think he was nervous to. They are not keen on the idea of us leaving. I feel really guilty... Like I'm taking him away from them. He says he wants to move but I do worry he will resent me/ hate it. He says he won't but I'm a worrier His grandparents are more positive about it... They also don't want him to go, but feel like he will regret it if he doesn't which is true I think.

We've both said that if we move down and can't get adjusted/ don't like it/ can't get settled we can always come back up to Scotland again after giving it a go. Fingers crossed it's fab and he loves it and I love it, but who knows!

I think he's quite worried about potentially living with my Dad for a while as he said he finds him "intimidating" but he likes my Dad and my Dad likes him so hopefully when they spend more time together he'll feel different. It did take me a while to adjust to living with OH's parents and initially I didn't want to (despite how great it has been money-wise!)

Anyway no use worrying too much about what will happen because what will be, will be I suppose! Will focus on the here and now And on having an early night tonight as I am shattered :rotfl:

lonelyrat

Seems the 5am starts recently mean I can't have too much of a long lie on my days off :eek: Been lying in bed for 45 minutes trying to fall back asleep but it just wasn't happening!

Sunrise is in 51 minutes :cool: so I'm going to faff around with my spreadsheet for a bit and sort out what's going where on payday. After sunrise I can maybe slowly put the lights on and get cracking with my epic organisation/ clear out. Don't want to fire the lights straight on and start making loads of noise because OH is peacefully asleep still and he will become a grouch if I do :rotfl:

Hope everyone has a lovely day!

doingitanyway

Any move doesn't have to be forever so try not to worry. It sounds like a great opportunity.
You are right. If you don't get the job in the pipeline you will get something else instead.

Good luck with the decluttering/organising. I always feel more in control when I can do this

Have a good day

lonelyrat

That's how I think of it DIA, I think OH feels its far more permanent than it needs to be. I DO feel more in control but frankly amazed at the amount of rubbish we have! We have a flats worth of furniture/ things, but it was all in the shed because we just have a room at the moment. I had forgot what we actually had and am now ashamed of all the stuff

Started the decluttering just after sunrise (lol :rotfl: )and decided I didn't want to do it by half measures so have been at it all day...

Our room is done and my wardrobe has been gutted of everything I haven't worn in ages. OH and I share a wardrobe so I don't have that much, but there are really only a few things I wear on a regular basis so better to get rid of the stuff I don't. His side of the wardrobe is always a mess and when I asked him to have a look at cleaning it/ going through his stuff to see if there's anything for the charity pile he just grumbled a bit. So I shall leave him alone about it and he can deal with it nearer the time we move. I shall just try not to look at that side

Decided to sort out the room OH's computer is in as it was a bit of a hot mess. All our camping stuff was stored in there with other bits, but so was loads of OH's Mum and Dad's stuff. I went through everything that was ours and chucked a fair bit away and then we spent a while tidying the room for OH's parents so they can find their stuff easier.
Then we started on the shed :eek: Turns out that out of sight really does mean out of mind... There was just so much stuff, all in different boxes and I have no idea what's what. I genuinely still am unsure what could possibly be stored in the boxes/ bags as I feel like I'm not missing anything. If I was bolder I would fire it all in the bin BUT I am too nosey for that

Have brought in the stuff that is OH and mine and have put it in the spare room and will tackle that tomorrow. I'm going to go through every box and be quite brutal with things I need/ don't need. Anything that is OH's will go in separate boxes and I will ask him to look through them himself.

Due to the fact that the decluttering/ organising took far longer than I anticipated I did nothing else today Laundry and Couch to 5k have not happened... Tomorrow I plan on continuing the decluttering so will not commit to anything else! I want to be done as much as possible by the end of tomorrow. Plan will then be to put stuff BACK in the shed but in a logical order for when we come to take them out for the move.

Did manage just over 7000 steps today just in the house/ back and forth in the garden, so it has been a relatively active day despite me not going out for my run.

lonelyrat

Payday!!! - The overtime did kick my butt, but I earned an extra £190ish so was worth it. I will have another 20 hours for next month too so should be getting roughly the same in December which is good

Payments have been made where they need to go and money has been allocated to savings/ spends and dd account. Have allowed myself some extra spend as I plan on sorting out all the Christmas malarky this month. Have also transferred OH funds to cover his minimum payments and my balance still seems relatively healthy so am feeling quite zen this month :A

When paying my Virgin card I've noticed a payment of £0.79 to itunes that isn't in my payment history so am going to need to call itunes and then Virgin as well. I really dislike talking on the phone so am not very keen... But needs to be done :eek:

Once Ive finished sorting this out I'm going to go for my C25K before I get cracking with the tidying/ clear out... This way at least I know I'll do it and will feel like I've had a more successful day :cool:

OH will be calling the GP for me today (brave man!) to get me an appointment which is lovely of him. Whenever I try their phone service/ appointment booking process I end up in tears so he's just going to take over from now on

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Glad to hear all of the positive things happening for you

I see my decluttering mojo made it's way over

Well done on all the decluttering so far and C25K xxx

lonelyrat

Thanks SSDD23, your decluttering mojo has indeed made it's way over. I have been like a woman possessed Turns out I actually don't have very much stuff and most of it is OH's. Kind of makes sense as this is where he's lived for the last 20 years whereas I've always moved about.

All of my stuff that was in the shed/ spare room has fit in one plastic box )which makes me feel :cool: Also filled a sports bag with summer clothes from the wardrobe so there's only about 15 things left, all things that I actually wear regularly. Am feeling quite zen Have a fair lot of laundry to do tomorrow as have found loads of bedding which is a bit foosty and OH has said he will do his part of the wardrobe tomorrow which will likely mean loads of dirty clothes.

There's a box we brought in from the shed with all our old dishes and kitchen stuff. Tomorrow I will wash everything and pack up again with bubble wrap so it's ready to go. Not much stuff, just a few plates and bowls... But my Dad doesn't have much himself so will probably be needing these.

OH and I had another talk about the move and he said he feels like his life is changing quite quickly and he's uncertain of it all. I kind of understand how he feels, but for me I feel I need the change. I feel stagnant and kind of that if I stay in this spare bedroom or this crummy job much longer I'll never get out. He still says that he wants to go, I think he's just nervy of leaving his custhy situation here with his parents and is worried about moving in with my Dad. I'm a bit worried about it too, purely because it's been 10 years since we last lived together :rotfl:

I think maybe all this cleaning/ decluttering has just made OH a bit emotional. I'm feeling liberated but he's just feeling a bit down in the dumps and anxious. Good news is that tomorrow we put the organised boxes back in the shed so he can forget about it until it actually happens

Anyway moving on from my brain/ word vomit .... Today has been good, only a few things left to do and I feel very proud of getting this all done. Means I can really relax and not worry about "stuff" weighing me down.
I did do C25K :T (and almost died). I was feeling too lazy/ wanted to get on with the clearing out so didn't walk to the track and decided just to run around the estate. Bad, bad idea. So many hills and holes in the pavements and dog poo... Oh the dog poo :eek: It was rough, but I did the full lot. Despite a fly flying into my eye when I first set off (it was awful... I couldn't get it out because I blinked and it was stuck and after I did get it out my eye wouldn't stop watering!)

Next time I will just walk to the track or do it when I go to the gym :rotfl:

Updated my signature as my debt has decreased a wee bit (nothing significant as I am trying to squirrell away some money for the move and for Christmas presents) and my weight loss is back down to 20kg. This is where I got to in August before I lost the plot so fingers crossed it keeps dropping!

Am going to light the candles and get in bed with Grey's Anatomy then snooze. Am completely drained but happy

lonelyrat

Hmm just re-read my post earlier today and realised OH forgot to call the GP :eek: They're shut at the weekend so he will need to call on Monday. Must remember to ask him to do it because I'm almost running out of my anti depressants.

Also tried to call both Virgin and iTunes but spent 15 minutes on each line and gave up (I should have just held on a bit longer but I wanted to get cracking with everything else.) I'll call Virgin as soon as I wake up as I want my card stopped.

Kitten868

Hello Lovely,

I've seen all your lovely posts elsewhere and I thought I'd pop in and see how you're doing. Very well with a few blips by the look of things so well done you. I don't know how you've managed to put up with OH freeloading off of you and his parents for so long. That would have driven me mad. I think it's great you've turned it into something positive and using it as an opportunity to start afresh. You both need this to start working on finding what you want.

I'm the same age as you with a degree too and I know exactly what you mean about taking the only job you can get and having the confidence knocked out of you. I think all the knockbacks from the graduate job applications did it too. Well done you for all your confidence in your new applications! You can do this! Keep your head up!

Oh and sell that sofa before it goes funny in the shed! And have you checked ohs very account again for the interest? Xx

doingitanyway

The move will be scary and emotional and you may both have times that make it difficult but moving is a great opportunity. I will get my chance to move when this house is sorted and I know I am making progress and this will happen but I would have loved to move earlier. A new place forces you to be different and see the world differently because your surroundings are different. It will be great for you