buyers remorse - six months later

sofarbehind

After years of saving and dreaming I finally bought a house six months ago. It's a really nice little house. I couldn't sleep for the first couple of weeks after I moved, I felt that I had made a mistake moving to a new area.

The new area is quiet and I have good neighbours but there are no things to do nearby and I feel miserable and lonely here. It was a practical choice, more affordable than where I was renting. I miss having things to do nearby, I find I am less motivated to travel to do things and spend too much time home alone. I thought I would feel better after six months but I don't and I just want to move back to my old area. Has anyone else been in this position? Did you move or did things just get better over time? I'm embarrassed and surprised by my feelings..:o:o:o

Do I need to wait at least a year before I can sell? I just want to move to a flat in my old neighbourhood.

HampshireH

Is this the same property you were having cold feet in buying last year or did you decide to wait a while longer?

How did you feel when you bought this property as your previous posts said you were worried about the commitment? Are there no local activities you can join to get you out of the house?

[Deleted User]

We many years ago moved and regretted it but stuck it out for 3 years, made friends although it helped having a child for meeting other parents.
We then moved back to where we had lived before and found we had lost track of old friends.
You don't have to wait a year, but it might be an idea to hold off till the spring to try and sell.

sofarbehind

HampshireH wrote: »

Is this the same property you were having cold feet in buying last year or did you decide to wait a while longer?

How did you feel when you bought this property as your previous posts said you were worried about the commitment? Are there no local activities you can join to get you out of the house?

This is a different house in the same area. I did feel a bit anxious about the commitment but positive and desperate for my own place and some roots. I feel good about the financial commitment now and I'm budgeting fine and still saving. In some ways I wish I had borrowed more and stayed in my old area. To be honest I definitely struggled psychologically with buying on my own, even though I know it's silly and you have to pay to live somewhere.

There are very few local activities and I am just not motivated to drive 30 mins to the old ones after a long day. I know I have to make myself, I think I'm a bit depressed.

RedFraggle

Have you looked on things like meetup for things to get involved in? There's sometimes more going on than is apparent.

sofarbehind

RedFraggle wrote: »

Have you looked on things like meetup for things to get involved in? There's sometimes more going on than is apparent.

I have and they are all 30-40 mins away, which has left me unmotivated to go.

bobsaunders

That's just a poor excuse.

Get in the car and go and do it. All it requires is a bit of mental application, practical preparation, and some time management.

You do not have to do activities every night of the week e.g. day on, day off, etc. So the being tired thing does not apply unless your job is practical.

Is there not activities near work? Which would a) make it easier to get to b) quicker to get home. c) new group of friends?

Additionally, if time management is an issue, speak to your boss about leaving earlier (but coming in earlier!), most companies nowadays promote work/life balance - i know i do with my guys.

hazyjo

There was a very similar thread recently but I can't find it Anyone remember it? Am sure they'd been there 6-12 months and he wanted to move but the missus was happy enough staying put. Mixed replies - might help you get it in perspective. There's also a longer 'buyers' remorse' thread somewhere which might help.

sofarbehind

bobsaunders wrote: »

That's just a poor excuse.

Get in the car and go and do it. All it requires is a bit of mental application, practical preparation, and some time management.

You do not have to do activities every night of the week e.g. day on, day off, etc. So the being tired thing does not apply unless your job is practical.

Is there not activities near work? Which would a) make it easier to get to b) quicker to get home. c) new group of friends?

Additionally, if time management is an issue, speak to your boss about leaving earlier (but coming in earlier!), most companies nowadays promote work/life balance - i know i do with my guys.

I don't think poor mental health is an excuse, it's a barrier to everything. It's not very nice or easy, I hope you are never in this situation.

I don't work regular hours and can't chose what time I leave because I deal with emergencies :rotfl: The one constant is starting at 7am.

Grenage

sofarbehind wrote: »

I don't think poor mental health is an excuse, it's a barrier to everything. It's not very nice or easy, I hope you are never in this situation.

I don't work regular hours and can't chose what time I leave because I deal with emergencies :rotfl: The one constant is starting at 7am.

It is an excuse; dwelling on things will only make it worse. I say this as someone who has dealt with reasonably severe depression.

You need to get up and go; do things, stay active. There's always something interesting to do.

MoneyEM

I did the exact same thing. I was a FTB and i was desperate to get on the market and own my own property. I started looking Jan 2016 and had offered on 4 houses but due to the second-home stamp duty increase due to come in in April, I had already lost out on these properties as they went for up to 20k above their asking prices. I eventually settled for a 1 bed flat in March 2016 and completed in July 2016.

since then i have had several issues including people fighting over parking (I have one space allocated, but neighbours use it as a space if there is not a car parked there), windows are single glazed so bills are extremely expensive in winter being electric-only. Also the micropub next door has recently renovated their overgrown garden and started playing live music which is making my life hell.

I put the flat on the market in March 2017 and it's still on the market now with 1 offer of 10k less than I paid myself last year. I feel trapped and i'm desperate to sell up and move to a project house that needs refurbishment.

Worst decision I could have made. Had I have waited 1 year, or even 6 months, I might have been able to buy a little terraced house and i wouldn't be in this mess!