Women's clothes sizes

missprice

Pollycat wrote: »

Have you actually asked someone else's opinion about which style suits you best?

I doubt you'll get your answer from random strangers on t'internet.

Lol I get OH but he is well biased and just says they all look good. Other than him, no.

I guess I will have to take someone else with me. Sigh.
Not my favourite prospect.

Fireflyaway

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

She asked whether she needed to lose weight - I agreed.

Is one supposed to lie and say "No, of course you don't". I thought she had asked for us to tell the truth and not lie???:huh:

Lie coming up (in case that is what is wanted):
"No of course not. You're plumptious. Big girls are gorgeous. Love yourself. You're curvacious. Men like something to get hold of. It's what is inside that matters".

Would you like any further - nice polite - lying?

Ummmm. I know some people would take offence at being told they are overweight etc so if you are a considerate person surely its best to be cautious about how you phrase things so as not to upset?
In this instance I came here knowing I'm overweight and openly stating it, so personally I don't mind hearing people suggest I need to lose weight.
What I find odd is the sarcastic comment about men having more to hold onto! Yuck! My body is my body and seeing as I'm not in the business of hiring it out for gain, I couldn't give a hoot what any man (or woman) might want to / not want to hold onto. I accept maybe you are just repeating what you have heard but its pretty lame.
I also believe that being overtly positive about big people is just as silly. Fat acceptance and fat activists ?! Being fat is unhealthy. I'm unhealthy. I accept that. I'd be upset if someone treated me badly due to being fat, but if they start telling me being fat is fine and beautiful then I'd be grateful that they care enough not to hurt my feelings but at the end of the day they wouldn't be doing me any favours.

Gloomendoom

missprice wrote: »

Lol I get OH but he is well biased and just says they all look good. Other than him, no.

If my wife asks my opinion I tell her what I really think. The only exception is if we are late leaving for an appointment because she has tried on half her wardrobe. By then I am usually past caring.

Pollycat

missprice wrote: »

Lol I get OH but he is well biased and just says they all look good. Other than him, no.

I guess I will have to take someone else with me. Sigh.
Not my favourite prospect.

Have you asked random strangers in shops?
Or assistants?

I do this all the time if I'm shopping on my own and am unsure if something suits me.

Gloomendoom wrote: »

If my wife asks my opinion I tell her what I really think. The only exception is if we are late leaving for an appointment because she has tried on half her wardrobe. By then I am usually past caring.

My OH is honest if I ask his opinion.

System

I rarely clothes shop, if i do its Yours or occasionally primark as they go up to a 20. I've come to accept i can;t shop anywhere else unless i drastically lose weight (not going amazingly only losing about 1lb a week, so slow progress)

My work trousers are terrible, had to get a size 28!!!! all my clothes are 18/20, i know im fat but im not a size 28!!!!

Pollycat

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

I rarely clothes shop, if i do its Yours or occasionally primark as they go up to a 20. I've come to accept i can;t shop anywhere else unless i drastically lose weight (not going amazingly only losing about 1lb a week, so slow progress)

My work trousers are terrible, had to get a size 28!!!! all my clothes are 18/20, i know im fat but im not a size 28!!!!

Losing 1lb a week is better than losing nothing - or even worse, putting weight on.
Chin up.

If you know you're not a size 28, just ignore the size label.

moneyistooshorttomention

leslieknope wrote: »

my biggest problem is the disparity of sizing across shops. normally i'm a 12 in most shops. realise i have chubbed up so i'm on the bigger side of 12 now (need to get back to the gym...) but went to h&m and i had to try on a size 18 dress!!!! size 18!!! i can still fit into a 12 elsewhere but h&m seems to think i'm 3 sizes bigger.

As far as I can work out H & M are one of the few clothing manufacturers in this country to put accurate sizes on their clothes. I only wish I actually liked their clothes - but they're too "monochrome" for me.

That's put an idea in my head though - ie in order to find out what my true current size is I think I might just pay a visit to them whenever I'm visiting my Home City (as there isnt one of them anywhere remotely near where I live now) and then I can check to find out my accurate size by heading to the changing room with 3 different sizes of the same item in my hands and see which comes up as fitting me and that will be my true size.

moneyistooshorttomention

Fireflyaway wrote: »

Ummmm. I know some people would take offence at being told they are overweight etc so if you are a considerate person surely its best to be cautious about how you phrase things so as not to upset?
In this instance I came here knowing I'm overweight and openly stating it, so personally I don't mind hearing people suggest I need to lose weight.
What I find odd is the sarcastic comment about men having more to hold onto! Yuck! My body is my body and seeing as I'm not in the business of hiring it out for gain, I couldn't give a hoot what any man (or woman) might want to / not want to hold onto. I accept maybe you are just repeating what you have heard but its pretty lame.
I also believe that being overtly positive about big people is just as silly. Fat acceptance and fat activists ?! Being fat is unhealthy. I'm unhealthy. I accept that. I'd be upset if someone treated me badly due to being fat, but if they start telling me being fat is fine and beautiful then I'd be grateful that they care enough not to hurt my feelings but at the end of the day they wouldn't be doing me any favours.

That's the thing. Facing someone in person and if they ask whether they are overweight and I know they are - then one can just go "Errrrm........" and have a very doubtful look on face. They get the message that "Yes I'm afraid you are". I havent yet seen an example online of what words to use on "paper" to say "Errrrrrrrrrrm....(doubtful look on face)".

Gloomendoom

In some Asian countries "You are looking very fat" is a complimentary greeting.

I was quite taken aback the first time it was said to me.

Red-Squirrel_2

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

That's the thing. Facing someone in person and if they ask whether they are overweight and I know they are - then one can just go "Errrrm........" and have a very doubtful look on face. They get the message that "Yes I'm afraid you are". I havent yet seen an example online of what words to use on "paper" to say "Errrrrrrrrrrm....(doubtful look on face)".

You're supposed to just say "You look lovely" unless they have their skirt tucked into their knickers or their top on inside out or something.

God, no wonder nobody likes you in your new village!