Adult Kids

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TomokoAdhami wrote: »

This is unfortunate. As parents, we want to make our sons and daughters INdependent in all fields of life, but I have one question from all of the critiques here should we throw our disrespectful and dependent adults into the dustbin?
I do not see anyone saying that, at all...
I've seen the cases where adults prefer to suicide in severe family pressure of not having jobs. I am not saying it well that a parent should always buy for adults, but we should try to handle situations wisely. Who has no job? This is a boy living at home with his mother, and treating her like rubbish. He is still in FT education.

The suicide comment, not really sure where that has come from either, as there are no mentions of mental health issues, and in reality a person should not tread on egg shells around another, as that is called MANIPULATION. Feeling rubbish does not give anyone free pass to make everyoone elses live a misery.

Even a person with mental health issues, serious mental health issues, can not be forgiven for consistent ill treatment of family members. There is no excuse for it
On the contrary, it could also be your mistake of not raising them in the right way or didn't teach them how to live on their own feet? That is so rudeI don't know what is the actual cause but right now,Clearly, as you seem to be responding as if you are responding to a different thread, to the rest of us try to handle the entire situation in the right manner, try to advice them as a friend.

She is not his mate, shes his mother, you know..... the one who will end up picking up the pieces when it all goes wrong, that is a parent not a friend.

Sorry but you are completely out of touch with what this post is even about and I feel you must be drunk, as you have responded so inappropriately

What a strange response, it is like you have responding to a completely different thread, as nothing whatsoever that you say, is relevant to anything

OP I wouldnt just boot him out though, YOu two need to talk and help him set himself up, even pay the first months rent, help set a budget, if it has become that toxic in the home then he perhaps is better off leaving, but help set him up first, there are so many young homeless in this country