Boyfriend Not Saving

phillw

Ames wrote: »

In what way has he played her, what's he getting free?

He said he was going to buy a house with her, then he said he'd save for a deposit. He's getting the girlfriend experience, but seems to be stringing her on. They are obviously in different places emotionally & it's causing her distress.

chesky

Perhaps the boyfriend has as much difficulty understanding what she's saying to him as most of us do.

Rags2riches

han_nah95 wrote: »

He is very good at communicating and I don't have any doubts about him (I think because he is so open about everything). He knows I am confused why he suggests and then when we go through with it he just freaks. He did leave me for a week when we were buying last year.


Sometimes I get the feeling he says what I want to hear?!

He's young and wants freedom. Could he be feeling this as too much commitment too soon? Why not ask him to start off smaller... say £50 a month get him in the practice of saving and then work on increasing the amount.