I want to leave my partner but don't know how

elaine373

gt568 wrote: »

Why's that, just because he wants out? Really helpfull comment, sour grapes perhaps?:p

Nope, no sour grapes here. I just find the bit where he says he has met some-one else(internet?) really interesting.But then again, thats my opinion only, to which i am entitled to. He needs to be cruel to be kind and get it over with.

pink_phantom

What do you mean "life changing experiences"? is she preggers or something?

PasturesNew

Not sure which came first, you wanting out, or her being annoying.... but my guess is she can totally pick up on what's in your head - and "knows" there is somebody else. Which is a big part of the way she is.

Probably driving herself insane trying to work it out, wondering every time you go to speak, or you come home, if you are about to dump her.

diesel9181

you know what would make me move out? if my other half moved one of his friends in! it would give you a bit of moraL support and make her shift out sooner so you can both move on and be happier in the long run. i dont mean have a friend move in as a bullying thing but she might see that you have moved on with your life and she is not longer a part of it. (oh and i dont mean a female friend :P) good luck

passion8

You say there's no love left in your relationship - from your side. Does that mean that despite everything that's going on, you know she still loves you?

I can't help but feel that it might help the girl if you helped her first.

You say you've been together for several years, so couldn't you find it in your heart to help her to find somewhere else to live? To come to some amicable arrangement whereby if she has to leave the relationship, you'll be helping her in every way possible? In practical, monetary and emotional ways? Surely after being together for several years, and despite the problems you're now facing, you owe her that much?

As others have mentioned above, it can be very easy to leave a relationship, but packing her cases and asking her to leave seems a harsh thing to do to someone who already has self-confidence problems, weight problems, and other issues, like strops.

People don't always have strops for no reason, and strops don't always make the person having them feel that good either imho. As she's shied away from sex for 6 months, (which isn't that long in the grand scheme of things), could she be depressed, as in severely depressed?

Does she have a best friend that you can confide in? Someone who understands you both but who she can turn to? Because it's going to be a rough ride for her whichever way you do things.

You do have to assert yourself in situations like this, for the sake of the long-term happiness for both of you, but when you do so, make sure there's as little bitterness as possible, if that's possible.

As another poster above intimated, how she accepts being ditched will be greatly affected by how you ditch her.

Sorry I couldn't help more, and apologies for trying to see it more from her point of view, but you both have my best wishes.

Take care.