friend gone on hols with younger woman

snowmaid

With all due respect, your friend sounds a right git!

To call this woman a 'gold digger' because she agreed to go on holiday is unfair and wrong. She probably assumed (albeit wrongly) that they were just friends, shared a kiss and he was treating her to a holiday. She had no reason to think otherwise as they hadn't slept together before the holiday.

Good grief, are you telling me that every offer of a holiday is actually payment for the s*x later?!?!? :eek:

As said in other posts, your friend would have been better off paying for a prostitute.

Girls, in future, if someone asks you to go on holiday, always read the small print and ask if contribution is expected towards the costs and if so, is this monetary or s*x. That way you can take an informed decision!

dmg24

maxfactor wrote: »

Meloncholly I couldnt agree with you more.We thought this girl was just naive but it turns out she,s a bit of a loony.
My friend had a word with her friend and she said she was a bit not right and had been in the priory for drugs etc.coke ecstacy etc.
I said to my friend not to say anything to her about it not being what he expected.
He went on a romantic boat ride and she wouldnt even hold his hand.
I told .
Well thanks for your help.

Everybody has a past. From the information given I am not sure what makes her 'a bit of a loony'. If you can classify someone in such a way due to past problems with drugs, I think it is you that is naive.

Running_Horse

If he had known she was "a bit of a loony", would he have said no to sex? Not very likely.

Is everyone who has had psychiatric treatment "a bit of a loony"?

With advice from friends like you, no wonder he has such dodgy attitudes to women.

Steel_2

snowmaid wrote: »

Girls, in future, if someone asks you to go on holiday, always read the small print and ask if contribution is expected towards the costs and if so, is this monetary or s*x. That way you can take an informed decision!

How about this for a solution. Don't accept a free holiday or weekend away from a man unless he's your father or your brother. Men do not spend vast sums of money on someone without their being the possiblility in the back of his mind that he'll get sex out of it. Even if he's 99% utterly butterly googly in love with someone, there's still 1% of his brain that thinks "ooooo...sex would be the icing on the cake!"

I don't believe there's a women anywhere that would not think about the sex issue at some point in the run up to going away with a man they hadn't yet slept with. If you want to accept a holiday and don't want to have sex with him, make it clear you want a separate room. Men are still old fashioned creatures and see the sex opportunity in most things. A separate room draws the line in the sand. If he says he can't afford to pay for two rooms, then offer to help him find somewhere cheaper, split the cost or don't go.

But for God's sake don't fall for this "I brassic and can't afford two rooms so we have to share" scenario. If he's got no money, he shouldn't be offering to spot you a free holiday in the first place. Sorry to be blunt, but just because women are emancipated doesn't mean men are. Use your noodle.

I reckon most blokes are running around extremely confused because we women give off the most appalling "come get me signals" and then get annoyed with them for responding. Fifty years ago we wouldn't have done...the lines were very clear what was acceptable and what wasn't. Today men are still looking for those lines. They're surrounded by shorts skirts, cleavage, women running up to them drunk and snogging them...in short, they're surrounded by the very things that used to signal sex but today are just considered normal.

And it's doing their heads in.

So be kind to blokes. Draw the line in the sand for them. They'll appreciate it in the long run.

melancholly

Steel wrote: »

I reckon most blokes are running around extremely confused because we women give off the most appalling "come get me signals" and then get annoyed with them for responding.

i agree with everything in your post - except to say that i still have the right to say at any point! i would never put myself in a position like the one in this thread - it is just asking for trouble, so i think the girl is either very naive or a bit daft! the flipside is that i get really really angry when men use the 'she had a low cut top on and said no like she meant yes' as an excuse for taking advantage of women.......it's a very fine line to tread, so you're entirely right - avoiding the situation in the first place is the only way to go!