The Cutting Down / Giving Up Booze Thread (Part 14)

shaggydoo

2017 Targets
= 50 Days AF

= 100 days AF

= 150 days AF

:A = 200 days AF

= 250 days AF

= 300 days AF

= 350 days AF

= 365 days AF

= target achieved


Alcohol Free Days

Arkers 134/TF
Barny1979 208/275:A

CathyBird 227/252:A
CuppaTea 149/200
DebJay 85/TF
DizzyImp 52 /TF
Eltee 174/200
ElusiveLucy 118/TF
FakePlasticTwee 119/TF
GreenKaren 85/120
Honey Bear 273/365:A
LoveASale 50/TF

MaggieM 77/185
Maman 117/TF

PollyAnna 71/TF
Poor Single Lady 189/TF
Pricey 179/250

ScatterBrain 140/TF
Shaggy 159/260
SukeyBoo 125/150

WBF 97/150


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scd3scd4

Ok here we go.........0/1

Poor_Single_lady

Welcome SCD

I'm up to 14 including today. Trying to have a productive week. Thank you Shaggy for all the numbers and the lovely icons.

Barny1979

9/24 AFDs today

maggiem

maman wrote: »

There are many things that can get to us when staying AF in 'public'. There's the initial hurdle of having to announce AFness to the group, then the temptation constantly there to join in with everyone else who seem to be having a great time. It's not easy but you're proving it can be done.:)

Thanks Maman. I’m going out tonight with colleagues although to be honest I have a bad cold and would rather curl up I’m my pjs. Very antisocial and often in hotels it is lovely to have a meal with others. Intend to remain AF tonight though.

I had hoped to do two quotes but can’t work out how to do that. Thanks to all who comment and contribute, it does make a huge difference - someone is listening and noticing. :T

maggiem

Honey_Bear wrote: »

Brilliantly well done that you stayed on the straight and narrow, Maggie M. I think what makes the difference is being happy and relaxed, or stressed in any way - tired, overworked, emotional overload, worried, in other words all of the bad things.

Thinking back to my drinking days, I could always, always think of a 'good' reason to indulge my temptations and any of the above reasons would seem to be a good reason for me back then. After one, I was always then graduated to s*d it mode and felt justified in having as many as I wanted.

I don't seem to have the same level of intensity of emotional ups and downs now that I don't drink. Outside influences on my life haven't changed that much so I think that I function better, emotionally, without the interference and complication of booze. I'm incredibly relieved by not getting depressed during the early evening after a night on the lash the previous day, I don't feel guilty about being rude when pickled (although inadvertently even sober I apparently can be - whoops, no excuse for that), and don't lose my temper so easily.

So, not having to live with all of the effects of booze, I get far fewer s*d it days, and when I do, I just have chocolate. I've got a few pounds to lose, but I can't be bothered to stress about that.

I genuinely would have loved to be able to moderate, but I know from years of trying I just can't. I now think, for me, not drinking at all as a way of life is easier, which it certainly didn't appear to be before I took the decision to give it up.

13/31 please, Shaggy.

Thanks for this post too Honeybear. It really made me think that too often my reactions emotionally have been affected by the amount I have had to drink, certainly in terms of the level of intensity of emotion. Much as I love my OH I have spent evenings thinking about divorce over things that in the cold light of day the next day really we’re not that important.

Again many thanks to HB and all who read and post. I am dashing around like - trying to think of polite analogy - so often just reading and not posting but it still helps me to read this thread.

12/15 please and [STRIKE]hoping [/STRIKE] intending to stay AF tonight too

cathybird

Morning all, 13/21 for me today please.

cathybird

maggiem wrote: »

Thanks Maman. I’m going out tonight with colleagues although to be honest I have a bad cold and would rather curl up I’m my pjs. Very antisocial and often in hotels it is lovely to have a meal with others. Intend to remain AF tonight though.

Hey maggiem, me too, have had a cold the past week and it doesn't seem to want to let go! Think it is now though, finally. Stay warm and rest up (apart from your meal with colleagues), hope you feel better soon.

Honey_Bear

:wave: ManPants!

scd3scd4 wrote: »

Ok here we go.........0/1

Welcome Scd3Scd4! :wave: Keep posting and you'll soon find yourself racking up the days. We all started out exactly where you are right now.

maggiem wrote: »

Thanks Maman. I’m going out tonight with colleagues although to be honest I have a bad cold and would rather curl up I’m my pjs. Very antisocial and often in hotels it is lovely to have a meal with others. Intend to remain AF tonight though.

I had hoped to do two quotes but can’t work out how to do that. Thanks to all who comment and contribute, it does make a huge difference - someone is listening and noticing. :T

Oooohhh I remember those nights! Now I'm afraid I do just put the pjs on if I'm feeling under the weather but I'm pretty antisocial really. The booze kind of masked that in the olden days.

As to multi-quoting, click the button with the two speech bubbles next to the Quote bubble when you come across a quote you want to include. You can only do a maximum of three in one hit. Then when you're ready to write your replies, click on the Post Reply blue button on the left under the end of the last post on the page. Hope that helps.

maggiem wrote: »

Thanks for this post too Honeybear. It really made me think that too often my reactions emotionally have been affected by the amount I have had to drink, certainly in terms of the level of intensity of emotion. Much as I love my OH I have spent evenings thinking about divorce over things that in the cold light of day the next day really we’re not that important.

I occasionally used to scream at OH when I'd had too much to drink, and the last night of drinking was an unbelieveable series of appalling behaviours that involved shouting and stupidity on my part. I'm only admitting that now, after more than three years sober, because what I discovered was that my bad behaviour was esculating, and that's pretty normal apparently. As OH said the following morning, 'You crossed a line last night' which I thought, in the circumstances, was pretty mild and totally reasonable and true.

Certainly when I had to make phone calls the morning after a heavy night of drinking I used to lose my temper with the person on the other end if it was a tricky phone call and that had been going on for a few years. It didn't occur to me that the drinking and the temper were related, actually, until a couple of years after I'd stopped drinking, either.

The only reason I'm saying this is that your comment about thinking about divorce is ringing bells for me, and once again, this isn't stuff that I've come across being talked about elsewhere when discussing the effect (and after effects) of drinking a bit more than is wise, shall we say.

And, once again, I noticed I forgot to post yesterday. How did that happen?

17/31 please, Shaggy.

sukeyboo

Welcome Scd3Scd4 :wave:

9/14 for today please Shaggy